(Disclaimer: This transcript is auto-generated and may contain mistakes.) you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you you song number 165 song number 165 O worship the king the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the the whole room the of dust and feeble as frail and neither we trust nor finally to fail thy mercies how tender our firm to the end our maker defender redeemer and friend amen as pirates for a prayer dear father we just thank you that we could be gathered in your house this Sunday morning to worship you and praise your name and hear the preaching of your word and I just thank you for Pastor Thompson and his family coming down here to preach for us I just pray you bless them now and fill them with your spirit helping to edify and strengthen the brethren that are here and help us all to learn and grow and to take the message and apply it to our lives where do we love you and pray these things in Jesus Christ's name amen next song is gonna be Psalm 126 in that white handout if you need one you can raise up your hand and one of the ushers will try and bring one to you if not you always take out your King James Bible Psalm 126 when the Lord turned again the captivity of Zion we were like them that dream then was our mouth filled with laughter and our tongue with singing then said they among the heathen the Lorna done great things for them the Lord had done great things for us where of we are glad turn again our captivity Oh Lord as the streams in the sound they the so in tears are reaping joy they the so in tears are reaping joy then said they among the heathen the Lorna done great things for them the Lord had done great things for us where of we are glad he that go forth and weep and bearing precious seed shut out let's come again shut out let's come again with rejoicing bringing his she's with him then said they among the heathen the Lorna done great things for them the Lord had done great things for us where of we are glad good morning thank you so much for coming to steadfast Baptist Church if you still don't have a bulletin you need one just slip it her hand real quick and an usher can come by and get you a bulletin on the front we have our Psalm 23 we're on week five of six if you can quote the entire passage Psalms 23 to a non family member you can receive a prize for all you visitors you'd have to come back to claim that prize all right and then also if you're under the age of your 18 or under you have to if you can quote that you can get a treat on Wednesday's Bible study an ice cream treat or a couple pieces of a candy on the inside we have our service times and so winning times we have Sunday morning service at 10 30 a.m. we have a Sunday evening at 5 30 p.m. and Wednesday evening at 7 we also have a Spanish service that's on Sundays at 4 30 and the entire service is completely in Spanish all the singing preaching and everything so if you'd like to participate you could you could be here 4 30 so it kind of leads us up all the way to our evening service also we have churchwide soul winning those times meet here at the building Sundays at 2 Tuesdays at 10 30 Wednesdays at 5 15 and Saturdays at 10 as well as a several regional so winning times these meet at different parts of the city so if you'd like to be a part of one of the regional so many times you can see brother Philip Milstead who's up here playing guitar or brother Steve Malton I know he's back there in that corner all right and then brother Jesse Michael he's sitting over here he leads the time on Saturdays also if you have any soul winning maps that you're working on even after you complete them please try to make sure to turn those into our soul winning bin or give them to myself Dylan or brother Jesse that way we can make sure we're updating our map accurately we have our church stats there for January so far and then on the right we have a list of several expecting ladies please be in prayer for all of them as well as we have our prayer list we try to update these every single week and so if you have a prayer request try to send that in every single week to steadfast Baptist KJV at gmail.com that way we can keep these things fresh as well as we have a communication card that we have over here on this front cabinet the communication card is just a way for us to get your information and you can also put a prayer request if you'd like on that if you need one just ask an usher for a communication card they can get that to you we have a note there pastor in Thompson he's here today with us so praise the Lord on that and we're really excited yeah he's here with his wife Sherry and so make sure to thank them and say hi to them whenever they're here and we really appreciate him coming he makes everyone feel a little bit smaller but he's gonna make us feel bigger in our hearts okay and so he's there at Sure Foundation Baptist Church in Vancouver Washington and they're doing a great work for the Lord they've got church plants all over Hawaii they've got one in Spokane Washington they've got one in Canada and so you know I've been to the Canada one I'm kind of looking for the Hawaii one you know I'm just kidding so but they're they're great friends of ours and we really appreciate them for allowing us to steal Dylan and he's been a blessing to us and so we're really excited that they're here we're just looking to get their next kids to come down here no I'm just kidding also Wednesday if you want to come back January 27th pastor Roger Menes is gonna be here and that's gonna be a great service really excited for him coming on the back we have just the Ray and Osa McCallan numbers still I guess this might be the old one that I'm looking at I have a January 10th one does someone have a newer one sorry I got confused on the back we have the baby shower in honor of Allison Holden and her baby boy all ladies are invited to come it's January 23rd from 1 to 3 p.m. and they have a snack and a dessert if you'd like to bring something also nursing's only preferred if you are unable to keep the children with someone else still please bring them all we don't want anybody to be turned away it's just nursing's only is preferred if that is an option for you as well as they're registered on bye bye baby and they're having a boy obviously so if you'd like to get them a gift also we have a baby shower in honor of Eve Garcia and her baby girl so we're really excited about that and they're gonna be having one here February 6th from 1 to 3 p.m. at the church also same rules if nursing's only preferred if you'd like to bring a snack or dessert that would be great and she's registered on Amazon we have one other announcement I have two actually but we have the sodomite deception is gonna be airing for the church as a private showing on Saturday and so that's the 23rd and we're really excited about this and so we ordered a really nice popcorn machine and we're gonna have candy and snacks and so just come for the popcorn okay no I'm just kidding but it's gonna be really great pastor Thompson got a showing an early preview showing of it and he said he liked it he he stood up right after the film was done he was all excited and everything so you know I'm really excited about this we if you'd like to come you're welcome to come we do have a website sodomite deception calm so we're gonna put that on the site Monday and so basically no matter what YouTube does to us or whatever there'll be some way to view the film and you can share it with different people and so I'm really excited about this it's been a lot of hard work and brother Ben Naim he's been doing a lot of great great work on this one other thing that's been kind of a long process trying to come to fruition but we have some other cards up front now some new cards on our cabinet and it says God resource calm and then on the back it has several different foreign languages that are listed on here and basically just says how to go to heaven so you have English Spanish Hindi French Arabic Russian to goleg Mandarin and so the goal is that if you end up coming across someone and they don't speak English or a language that you speak that you could hand them one of these cards and say you know if they say French or something then you could point to this card and they could go here and hear a gospel presentation in their language and the goal is also to have as many gospel presentations and as many foreign languages as possible and for this to just be a continual resource that people could use to find that type of information so make sure to grab some of these I'm only gonna really hand them out to people you know in the situation of they speak a foreign language and I can't communicate to them but I think it'd be a good opportunity for those and we in Dallas I mean you run into people all the time to speak French or another language and you can't really communicate and so we're hoping that this will help bridge that gap so very excited that we have a full house just a few house rules or whatever just making sure we have a couple bathrooms over here just make sure to pay attention if the doors locked or not it should be a blue sign that says it's unoccupied or red don't try and jiggle the handle they might get mad at you okay and then we have a mother-toddler area back here in the back and then we also have a mother baby room back here it is for mothers and their children only so if you do want to use that area it is for mothers and their children only and we want to keep it as safe area for them and that's pretty much all that I have for announcements we have a nice machine we have water and everything please pay attention to the signs children shouldn't be getting in the fridge with ice machine but parents can't assist them but we're really glad you're here and with that let's go to our third song for this morning song number 207 in your hymnal song 207 in that song number 207 only a sinner not have I gotten but what I received grace hath bestowed it since I have believed boasting excluded pride I am based I'm only a sinner saved by grace only a sinner saved by grace only a sinner saved by grace this is my story to God be the glory I'm only a sinner saved by grace once I was foolish and sin ruled my heart causing my footsteps from God to depart Jesus had found me happy my case I now am a sinner saved by grace only a sinner saved by grace only a sinner saved by grace this is my story to God be the glory I'm only a sinner saved by grace tears unavailing no merit at I mercy had saved me or else I must die sin had alarmed me fearing God's grace but now I'm a sinner saved by grace only a sinner saved by grace only a sinner saved by grace this is my story to God be the glory I'm only a sinner saved by grace suffer a sinner whose heart overflows loving his savior to tell what he knows what's more to tell it would I embrace I'm only a sinner saved by grace only a sinner saved by grace only a sinner saved by grace this is my story to God be the glory I'm only a sinner saved by grace as the operating plates are being passed around please turn your bibles to proverbs chapter 1 proverbs chapter 1 so so proverbs chapter 1 the bible reads the proverbs of solomon the son of david king of israel to know wisdom and instruction to perceive the words of understanding to receive the instruction of wisdom justice and judgment and equity to give subtlety to the simple to the young man knowledge and discretion a wise man will hear and will increase learning and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels to understand a proverb and the interpretation the words of the wise in their dark sayings the fear of the lord is the beginning of knowledge but fools despise wisdom and instruction my son hear the instruction of thy father and forsake not the law of thy mother for they shall be an ornament of grace unto thy head and chains about thy neck my son if sinners entice thee consent thou not if they say come with us let us lay wait for blood let us lurk privately for the innocent without cause let us swallow them up alive as the grave and whole as those that go down into the pit we shall find all precious substance we shall fill our houses with spoil cast in thy lot among us let us all have one purse my son walk not thou in the way with them refrain thy foot from their path for their feet run to evil and make haste to shed blood surely in vain the net is spread in the sight of any bird and they lay wait for their own blood they lurk privately for their own lives so are the ways of everyone that is greedy of gain which taketh away the life of the owners thereof wisdom crieth without she uttereth her voice in the streets she crieth in the chief place of concourse in the opening of the gates in the city she uttereth her words saying how long ye simple ones will you love simplicity and the scorners delight in their scorning and fools hate knowledge turn you at my reproof behold i will pour out my spirit upon you i will make known my words unto you because i have called and you refused i have stretched out my hand and no man regarded but you have said it not all my counsel and would none of my reproof i will also laugh at your calamity i will mock when your fear cometh when your fear cometh as desolation and your destruction cometh as a whirlwind when distress and anguish cometh upon you then shall they call upon me but i will not answer they shall seek me early but they shall not find me for that they hated knowledge and did not choose the fear of the lord they would none of my counsel they despised all my reproof therefore shall they eat of the fruit of their own way and be filled with their own devices for the turning away of the simple shall slay them and the prosperity of fools shall destroy them but whoso hearkeneth unto me shall dwell safely and shall be quiet from fear of evil let's have a word of prayer lord thank you so much for this day and thank you for pastor thompson and miss sherry coming down here to preach for us and to fellowship with us lord pray that you fill pastor thompson now with the holy spirit please bless this day and please bless sure foundation baptist church in washington as well in jesus name we pray amen amen well it's great to be here thank you so much for inviting me pastor shelley mrs shelley it's great to see my daughter and that's pretty much it and all my grandchildren my son-in-law and uh my good friends that have traveled from near and far and i appreciate you coming out to hear me preach this morning and it's great to be back and i love steadfast baptist church and uh my church loves steadfast baptist church loves pastor shelley and his preaching and uh again very thankful to be here today thank you so much for inviting us and uh i i wanted to announce don't said it was okay that jasmine is with child again so i'll have grandchild number six on the way so praise god for that so i was telling some people last night at the hotel they i went down to print my sermons off and there was like there's like hockey leagues going on or something and i got to talking with him anyway and uh i just told them that uh i had five grandchildren and they're like you're too young to have five grandchildren i said i know i know i am but at least i'll be young enough to play with them right as they grow older so anyway i'm thankful for that but the title of the sermon this morning is going getting and giving counsel going getting and giving counsel let's have a word of prayer heavenly father we thank you so much for the great crowd tonight uh this morning and we pray that you fill me with your spirit as i preach your word and lord i pray that the people would have ears to hear what the spirit says under the church this morning in jesus name we pray amen so the reason i'm preaching this is because it's important to know who to get counsel from so if you're going to go get counsel make sure you're getting your counsel from the right resources now i don't want to say that you can't ever go to the world for certain advice if you want to know how to fix your car it's okay to go to a mechanic and find out what you know if you don't want to pay for the mechanic at least pick their ear and find out you can get worldly wisdom that can help you but mainly what i'm talking about is going to get counsel from godly people if you're a christian you know and you're going to get life lessons from people or wisdom from people or wisdom from god it should be from those types of people it shouldn't be just some worldly person or your unsaved relatives and things like that so we're going to talk about going to the right people and then getting that that counsel once you've gotten the once you've gone to someone for counsel you got to receive that counsel because a lot of times people don't receive the counsel they go to people for counsel and then they just say yeah i just don't do it right and then also when you're giving counsel make sure that someone's actually asking you for that counsel or you've actually asked them for permission to give that counsel to them because a lot of people are know-it-alls they just want everybody to know what they know but you know you don't know people you don't always have to tell everybody everything that's on your mind and some people don't even want to hear what's on your mind so anyway that's kind of the reason i was i wanted to preach about this because i've noticed that sometimes people don't go to the right people and sometimes i notice people don't receive that counsel once it's been given to them and i've noticed also that people like to give a lot of advice that they shouldn't be giving and also you know it is okay to give people like a reproof or rebuke or something like that but i'm talking about you know if you think that maybe uh you could you could help manage someone's marriage better than than they can or something you know wait for people to ask you for that kind of advice but i don't want to get too far ahead of myself here um so what is counsel counsel is to get advice and to gain knowledge to help in decision making in and living your for living your daily life and so that's you you want to go to knowledge to the right places you know and especially in an area where you're not sure what to do because there's a lot of things you know the bible has all the answers but sometimes knowing what path is the right path isn't always as easy so and and but god's going to help you with those things and if you have a good resource of people you can go to that's always a great thing too so you know who to marry what job should i take what church should i go to what about medical advice should i move how should i raise my kids how should i manage my finances these are all things that people have problems and issues with it and you need to know who to go to when you know when to receive it and when to give that kind of advice so number one this morning going to counsel from the right people let's look at our verse number five in proverbs chapter number one it says a wise man will hear and will increase learning and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsel so you're you're going to go and attain knowledge from people and you got to go to the right sources and the number one person that we can go to is god of course you know i mean if you want to get wise counsel the wisest counselor you're ever going to find in this life is god and the lord jesus christ of course and uh so he is the wisest council we can get and where do we get that council from we can get it from this book right here we get it from the holy bible the king james bible if you're an english-speaking person and the reign of valera gomez 2010 if you're a spanish speaker you know people like to accuse us of just only you know we think that the king james is like some you know thing that we worship or something well i mean we worship the god that wrote it and it is his word is it not and so who's the best person we can go to get counsel from the we can get it straight from the mouth of god which is poured into this book right here and so the bible says we don't need anybody to really teach us you know the holy spirit can guide us in all things but at the same time there is time to get counsel so and god would be the best person to get it from it says a wise man will hear you know it's not just about hearing but it says and will increase learning so when you learn it you have to also apply the learning that you get and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels and so what does that word attain mean it means to reach you're going to reach unto attain unto these wise counsels and so it's important for us to go to people for counsel when we need it and the number one person we can go to is god himself through the bible so it's like literally going to the mouth of god you know you think about people that went to the lord to to hear from the mouth of the lord things like they went to the prophets in the old testament a lot of times even saul when he went to go he said hey let's go talk to samuel you know he's going to help us find my father's asses that are lost in the wilderness i mean it's just a simple thing like that but obviously you know i i don't know where you lost your cattle so you know you're going to have to go to god for those kinds of things and you're just going to have to help him guide you yeah you know somehow you know maybe teach you how to be a cowboy or something i don't know anyway so turn to proverbs chapter 8 verse 14 proverbs chapter 8 and verse number 14 the bible says counsel is mine and sound wisdom i am understanding i have strength so god here is saying that he you know this to get this sound wisdom he is understanding god is the one that's going to help you understand and sound means basically that it's based on reason sense or judgment so to get sound wisdom is to get reason sense and judgment turn to proverbs chapter 22 verse number 20 proverbs chapter 22 and verse number 20 it says have i not written to thee excellent things in counsels and knowledge so god has written to us what excellent things in counsels and knowledge psalm chapter 119 verse 105 psalm chapter 119 verse 105 psalm 119 105 says thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path and so look if you go to god for your counsel you know what his word is going to be there for you and what's it going to do it's going to be a lamp unto your feet hey what pathway should i go on well maybe you should go on the way that god tells you to go instead of going where you want to go and it says and a light unto my path who's ever been camping in here before brother scott just got done camping he was telling me about it and he was the only one there you know i guess people are afraid of getting covid in the woods or something but anyway so but look when you're camping it's nice to have a good flashlight isn't it when you're walking down a path without a flashlight it's pretty scary and walking in this world without god's counsel is a scary place and even in 2021 it's even more scary i mean we're not even that far into it and things are even getting worse than they were last year so it's important to have god's word as a light to our path and to a lamp for our feet hey where do we want to walk where god wants us to walk that's ultimately the counsel that we need is from god now another source of counsel that we can get is from friends now sometimes some people don't have any friends and i'm going to preach a sermon about friendship tonight maybe you can learn to get some friends but i don't know who has friends in here or not but your eyes are all my friends if you know you love the lord and you're good people so but i'm going to teach about friendship tonight so please come back tonight and and listen to that but friends can be a good resource for counsel now let me just say this friends that are not saved probably not a good resource for living a godly life friends that are not saved are not a resource for having a godly marriage because if we if we're like the world then our marriages are going to get destroyed if we're like if we marry like the heathen marry our marriage are going to get destroyed if we do the things that the world does we're going to have a hard time you know walking the path that god wants us to walk and instead of walking the path that our friends want us to walk and obviously i believe our friends should be godly and again i'm going to cover that tonight but turn to proverbs chapter 27 verse 9 proverbs chapter 27 verse number nine the bible says ointment and perfume rejoice the heart so does the sweetness of a man's friend by hearty counsel the sweetness of a man's friend by hearty counsel now guys we read that and we're like man that's kind of fufu isn't it hey it's god's word though and it says the sweetness of a man's friend hey it's good to have good friends that care about you and they're going to try to give you counsel that you need to hear you know a good friend is going to tell you what you need to know and not what you want to know they're not going to tell you what you want to hear they're going to tell you what you need to hear and it's so it's good to surround yourself with friends that will give you hearty counsel what does hardy mean well it means like heartfelt like they actually care about you it's good to go to a friend that actually cares about you right because we've all had friends that really don't care about us that much right they're like you know fairweather friends when everything's going good they're your friend but when everything's going bad or they're the type of friends that talk behind you behind your back so we don't want those types of friends to be in our circle of counsel so proverbs chapter 12 verse 20 proverbs chapter 12 verse 20 proverbs chapter 12 verse 20 says deceit is in the heart of them that imagine evil but to the counselors of peace there is joy so there is these types of counselors that are counselors of peace they're going to help you and try to get your life peaceful and to be a counselor of peace is a good thing but look what it says the seed is in the heart of them and imagine evil so there's people in our lives that might not they might seem like they're friends but they're not really friends you know i call them frenemies you ever heard of that term frenemies anyway there's people in our lives that hey you gotta you gotta be discerning and know what friends to go to council for and which ones not to so see there's also other people that we go to for wisdom and for counsel pastors pastors of your pastor is a good resource to go to for godly counsel and you know what i would expect the pastor to to give you godly advice from the bible and so if you're looking for your pastor to tell you what you want to hear and as as i know pastor shelley he's not the type of pastor who's just going to tell you what you want to hear he's going to tell you what you need to hear and so you know your pastor can be your friend and your resource in that way so the bible says in proverbs chapter 11 verse 14 go ahead and turn there i'm trying to make it easy for you so you can just really navigate it quickly because the book of proverbs has a lot to say about giving getting wisdom and getting counsel it says where no counsel is the people fall but in the multitude of counselors there is safety so you know if you don't if you never go to people for counsel if you never go to god for counsel you're going to fall that's what the bible says right but it says but in the multitude of counselors there is safety so hey maybe you should check with a couple different people you check with the bible obviously is your number one resource and maybe some good close friends that you trust their counsel and maybe you go to your pastor and you know some decisions are hard they really are you know my daughter just had to have gallbladder surgery taken out and she was wrestling with the decision of whether to actually get it taken out or not or go the natural route so but going the natural route when your gallbladder is filled with stones once it's once it's to that point i mean it's pretty hard to apple cider vinegar that thing and and clean it out the way it should be all right so so she tried but it was too far gone so ultimately she had to make the decision and you know what i counseled her to do get it out because if you can live without it that's a good thing you know i mean it's obviously best to have a gallbladder that works but her mother you know 20 years or 17 years ago had to have the same procedure and they said it was the worst gallbladder they'd ever seen and so then nia decides to share us a picture of a gallbladder being cut open yeah i'm glad i didn't have my breakfast right there at the table at the time but like when you see a gallbladder cut open you see all those stones it's pretty it's pretty gruesome and i just at that point the apple cider vinegar is not going to help you i'll just tell you that right now so she but she was wrestling with it for weeks and trying to make this decision because she wanted she you know nobody wants to have surgery but sometimes we need to go to other people for advice and find out what the wise thing to do is and of course she finally listened to her dad and she was wise in doing so because but i mean obviously there's a risk in everything that we do so sometimes we have to risk those decisions for the best decision so which is unfortunate but anyway so the bible says in proverbs 20 verse 5 turn to proverbs chapter 20 verse 5 it says in proverbs chapter 20 verse 5 it says counsel in the heart of man is like deep water but a man of understanding will draw it out so i mean if you're just thinking about like a well you know and you got to get that bucket all the way down to the bottom of this deep water to get what are you trying to get something that's going to help save your life right something that you know water is something that we really need i'm thirsty right now so i need a deep well i got i got some water here that's i'm good yeah you can bring me another bottle if you want or something i'll try not to knock it off on anybody or anything like that so but uh yeah i want to start talking about water my mouth just got super dry thank you so anyway uh counsel is like a counsel in the heart of a man is like deep water so there are count some counsel that you can get out of man that is i'm going to give you understanding a man of understanding is going to draw that out and you're going to attain to that wise counsel so turn to proverbs chapter 24 verse number six proverbs chapter 24 verse number six proverbs chapter 24 verse number six bible says for by wise counsel thou shalt make thy war and in multitude of counselors there is safety so when you're talking about war obviously we wore a different type of warfare as christians but how how do we do that well we get wise counsel i mean just think about how how much planning there has to be for soul winning i mean some people just show up they get a map they go out but you know there's a council that goes on in this church for war to take place and hey what are we doing we're trying to conquer this land for god in a spiritual way so when we go to i mean if you apply it spiritually when we go to war hey it's good to have a multitude of counselor there is safety in the multi you know and you just think about people in real war in general war you know they have a security council for like the president they have councils for all these different war departments and there's a reason why because you don't always see all the angles you know so when you're making a decision for yourself that's a serious decision you want to be able to see all the angles and sometimes we want what we want right we want to do this but we we want we're wise enough to say hey maybe i'm not seeing this all correctly maybe i need to look at this with some other points of view and it's good to have those that we trust that we can go to in big decisions now obviously you know whether you go to work tomorrow or not hey should i go to work tomorrow or not yeah you should go to work tomorrow okay that's that's not a hard thing to figure out now if you have covid maybe that's a decision you need to make differently but i'm just saying that not everything needs some type of deep counseling to go to right but we should go when we feel like you're not you're unsure about the decision or maybe you just want to get a second point of view now who to not go to for council who do you not go to for council again unsafe friends unsafe family members false prophets you know if all you do is sit around and watch false prophets all the time to find out how false they are you know you don't want to get your counsel from people like that right you don't want to get your counsel from you know hey should i still should i go to this church or not the guy doesn't even go to church like why would you ask a person that doesn't go to church whether that you should go to this church or not why do you listen to your parents or your family members when they say your church is a cult you know don't go to that church that's bad advice because you're getting that from a person that's not saved and then you know some people are just like well am i really in a cult you know you're not in a cult i mean cults don't kick 95 people out in one year all right hundred okay excuse me so but look at the buildings filled with people and why because you know the the bad people got to get kicked out and so don't look don't go to the world for your advice on what to do with church don't go to your friends your unsaved friends about different types of advice and definitely don't go to false prophets don't go to your family members don't go to your parents that don't spank to ask whether you should spank what who do you who would you go to first the bible right what does god say to do thou shalt beat right thou shalt beat now i'm not saying child abuse because people take that word beat you know if you do this it's just it's beating right it doesn't have to be like with a sledgehammer you know even though sometimes no i'm just kidding so you know for marriage marriage advice you'd want to go to the person that has a rock-solid marriage or your pastor they should be an example of a good marriage in the church so hey if you're having marriage problems don't be too ashamed to go to someone with your marriage problems that could help you you know but who are you going to go to the person that got married two weeks ago i mean you're still figuring things out right you're still leaving the toilet seat open guys you know you get woken up a couple times with that one that's that's not good so uh yeah don't go to the people that are newly married for your marriage advice go to people that have been married for a long time or they are rock solid in their marriage and you know not like the person that's been married for five minutes so don't and don't ask divorced people for marriage advice and look i'm not against divorced people i'm not trying to like harp on people that have been divorced before but i'm just saying if you didn't if you didn't do it right the first time or it failed for some reason why would you go to someone that failed in their marriage to try to draw that wise counsel from them it's just not a good idea it's like going to a fat person for advice on working out okay or something like that so but uh don't ask the most backslidden person in the church um advice about church life you know if someone that doesn't come but once every month you know like i'm not mad at you for not coming at or that you come every month you should go to you should be three to thrive though if you can't be if you go to church with all your might i think i heard a sermon about going to church with all your might you know make sure you bring a bible with you um but you don't want to go to the most backslidden member in the church to get spiritual advice i would say i mean does that make sense that's pretty basic stuff so you know i know you haven't been in church for three weeks but what do you think about the you know don't ask that person go to the person that you that you would see as more spiritual and and ask them and obviously you have your pastor as a resource and you know definitely uh some great men of god in this church you go to for advice and definitely don't go don't go to the preaching of a false prophet turn to jeremiah chapter 5 verse 31 jeremiah chapter 5 verse 31 there's nothing new under the sun there's nothing new under the sun the things that were happening back in bible times are the same things that we see happen today you know you talk about you think about the the woman that was you know had spent all of her money and all of her living on physicians guess what people still do the same thing today they go to the physicians and they drain them dry and they're still not healed right those things still happen today but you know what people were still going to false prophets and listening to false prophets back in the day just like they are now but today it's even worse it's like they're heaping to themselves teachers having itching ears that's what the bible says in the last times and you know what we're in the last times so look what jeremiah 5 verse 31 says it says the prophets prophesy falsely and the priests bear rule by their means and my people love to have it so and what will you do in the end thereof my people love to have it so so what does that tell you right there the god's people actually say people do go and listen to false prophets and why because they want to hear what they're saying because what they're saying is not right they want to live their life the way the false prophets are telling them to live instead of how god's telling them to live they love to have it so that's why they heap to themselves teachers having itching ears you ever wonder why someone defends a false prophet that probably is saved it's because they're listening to what they want to hear instead of what they should hear and that's why you need to make sure to go to the right people when you're going to go and get counsel go to the right people the bible says in romans 12 2 it says and be not conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind that you may prove what is that good acceptable and perfect will of god so don't go to the world be not conformed with this world don't go to the world for your advice go to god for his advice go to good friends that have sound doctrine and sound beliefs and go to your pastor or your other resources that are spiritual in your life for your advice all right so number two getting wisdom when it's given so it's not just important to go to the right people for your advice it's also important to get that advice and receive it unto yourselves you know a lot of people are hearers you know they're they're they're not but they're not doers they hear the word of god but don't do it they immediately walk away and forget what manner of man they were and it's important that once we get advice and once we get counsel from somebody that we apply it to our lives and we and we take that and receive that wisdom and that knowledge so turn to proverbs chapter 12 verse 15 proverbs chapter 12 verse 15 see god counsels us to go get counsel look what it says the way of a fool is right in his own eyes but he that hearkeneth unto wise counsel he that hearkeneth unto wise counsel he you're supposed to hearken unto it you're supposed to receive it listen and receive it so that's very important to to get so once you hear the wise counsel you hearken to it and and then proverbs chapter 4 verse 5 proverbs chapter 4 verse 5 it says get wisdom see it's not just go for wisdom but get wisdom get understanding forget it not neither decline from the words of my mouth so god tells us to get it not just to go for it but to get it it says forsake her not and she shall preserve thee love her and she shall keep thee wisdom is the principal thing therefore get wisdom with all thy getting so it's like get wisdom with all thy might with everything you can do get wisdom you need to get it and with all thy getting get understanding so don't just go for it but get it and use it you know some people get it but they just ignore it or i mean they go for it and they ignore it and they don't get it have you heard that saying they just don't get it that's true you know they just have you heard that saying it just goes right over their head you tell somebody something just goes right over their head that's kind of like going for wisdom but then not receiving it you're not getting it turn to proverbs chapter 19 verse 20 proverbs chapter 19 verse 20 so what are we talking about we're talking about getting that wisdom not just going for the wisdom but getting that wisdom and proverbs chapter 19 verse 20 says hear counsel and receive instruction hear counsel you hear it and receive it receive instruction that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end you know and you we should be prepared for the end of our life to some extent you know and i'm preaching myself of course at this second because i don't even have a will man i'm bad so but if i die just you're my witnesses right now that everything goes through my wife so all right so if anybody the kids want to fight for anything i don't have anyway then uh you can have the five dollars in my pocket honey no i'm just kidding but you know look we got to receive wisdom we got to receive instruction we got to hear that counsel be wise in thy latter end and you know it's really unfortunate today living in the united states of america because really the way that you can save for your retirement is to play the stock market so it really makes it difficult every angle in our society is just ungodly pretty much it's really difficult to save in and be wise and i ladder in in that way you know it's like hey should i put more money towards my 401k a bunch of jews on wall street they just want to rob our savings and things you know whenever they get a chance do you think that the people on wall street are godly probably not like they're they probably love money they probably love ripping people off and they love suckering people so it's really difficult but you know what the bible says that god's going to take care of us anyway so but should we be wise to our latter end i think we should we should do what we can to at least give our children an inheritance to make sure our wives are taken care of right so turn to proverbs chapter 15 verse 22 proverbs chapter 15 verse 22 the bible says without counsel purposes are disappointed without counsel purposes are disappointed and that's where you have to look at this angle that you you the way when we think of a decision we're thinking we think of a lot of different things but you don't always think of the angle that's not you know that angle you don't see that's why you have to have people to help you protect that blind spot that you have it says but in the multitude of counselors they are established so it's good to go especially for a big decision to a multitude of counselors i have people that i trust that i go to counsel for if i have a big decision and i'm just kind of need some extra advice i'll go to my pastor friends you know i'll go to friends that i have in the church that uh you know that i trust their advice you know and it says in a multitude of counselors the purpose of those purposes are going to be established and so you know if you if you go to god's word for counsel don't take what you know you got you're supposed to take what the bible says to heart and if you don't do that it's obviously not going to help you you have to take god's word to heart or it's not going to help you in the wisdom department so but if and if you ask your pastor for advice about moving for a job or marrying a divorce person or moving to a place with a with no good church you should expect something from the bible that they're going to say to you right and this is people like to opinion shop they really do and look and i don't want to discourage people from going to pastors i don't want my people to be discouraged about coming to me about stuff but hey if you don't plan on listening to anything i have to say maybe you should just ask somebody else because you know what's really frustrating for pastors i'm just going to let you in on a little secret is when you come to them for counsel and you completely they completely ignore everything that you said it is frustrating and and then you just have to sit there and watch their life unravel because they didn't listen to the council it's not like it's my council when someone comes to me about a situation like that you know what i do i open up the bible and i tell them what the bible says and then let them make that decision but it really is hurtful for me to watch people that i love you know destroy themselves because they won't listen to the council of god so um or any unbiblical position that people come to me with and people come to me about marriage advice a lot and they come to me about moving they come to me about all kinds of things they come to me uh just you know and i'm i want people to come to me don't get me wrong i want people to come to me for counsel i don't want people to be shy to come to me and look you don't have to listen to me or if you don't think what i'm saying is biblical then don't listen to me you know what's the bible say that's that's what i'm going to tell you as a man of god i'm going to tell you what the bible says and you can see this play out in jeremiah chapter 42 go ahead and turn to jeremiah chapter 42 where the people the remnant of israel is left after the babylonian captivity and what are they asking him for moving advice they're asking him for moving advice you know when people ask for pastor shelley do people ever ask you for moving advice okay yeah so it's not just me but this could be anything this could be any advice that you ask the pastor for look at jeremiah chapter 42 verse 1 it says then all the captains of the forces and johannan the son of korea and jesaniah and the son of hoshea and all the people from the least even unto the greatest came near and said unto jeremiah the prophet let us or let we excuse me beseech thee our supplication be accepted before thee and pray for us unto the lord thy god even for all this remnant so he's asking they're coming to jeremiah the prophet nobody's been listening to the jeremiah the prophet for years and he's been telling them everything that's going to happen to him now the things that he's been saying all these years finally happened to him they're like okay we're going to go to jeremiah the prophet and it says for we are left but a few of many as thine eyes do behold us that the lord thy god may show us the way wherein we may walk and the thing that we may do then jeremiah the prophet said unto them i have heard you behold i will pray unto the lord your god according to your words and it shall come to pass that whatsoever thing the lord shall answer you i will declare it unto you i will keep nothing back from you that's what a good man of god is supposed to do right he's going to keep nothing back he's going to answer whatever god says right then they said to jeremiah the lord be a true and faithful witness between us if we do not even according to all the things to which the lord thy god shall send thee to us so they're saying we're going to do it you know before he even gives them their answer they're saying no matter what god says that's what we're going to do and that really should be our attitude and it says whether it be good or whether it be evil we will obey the voice of the lord our god to whom we send thee that it may be well with us when we obey the voice of the lord our god so they're laying it on pretty thick they're like no no matter what we're going to listen we're going to obey whatever god says that's what we're going to do and so then he tells them like 10 days later so he prays about it 10 days later he tells them that if they move to egypt they're going to be destroyed just like the babylonians destroyed the children of israel he tells them to stay in the land he tells them that god's going to take care of them where they're at don't go to egypt and what is egypt egypt is like a symbol of the world and so if god says don't go to egypt he's basically saying hey you're going to get destroyed if you go to egypt stay here let god take care of you listen and obey what god says and goodness is going to happen to you but look at what they said look at chapter 43 verse 1 remember they said they're going to obey him right here's what they said here's what happens and it came to pass that when jeremiah made an end of speaking unto all the people all the words of the lord their god for which the lord their god had sent him to them even all these words then spake azeriah the son of hoshea and johannan the son of korea and all the proud men saying unto jeremiah thou speak is falsely the lord our god hath not sent thee to say go not into egypt to sojourn there so what happens they didn't get the answer that they wanted and so what did they do they told the they told the preacher he's speaking falsely and where did he get his answer from straight from god so basically what are they doing they're spitting in god's face yeah don't go to the man of god for answers he gives you the word of the lord and tells you what the bible says and then you just spit in his face it's annoying but you know what i'll still be there to pick up the pieces for you you know people make people are going to make the wrong decisions i've made the wrong decisions in my life i've had to reap what i've sown everybody does some people are just more hard-headed than others but ultimately hey you can still get it right you can still have a second chance if you've messed up and and done something you probably shouldn't have but what is i mean these guys are buttering jeremiah up but they just obviously don't think that that's what he's going to say see they already have it preconceived in their mind what they're going to do this is what i call opinion shopping and this is what people will do when they go to council for a bunch of people they're like okay this is what pastor thompson said this is what pastor chelly said this was pastor mahina said this is the pastor i mean if you're going to pastors right and then they're gonna they want to go with the thing that they that they want to do in their heart already and so that's not how we should get counsel when we get counsel from somebody and you know it's rock solid but it goes against every fiber in your being because look if you're being led by the spirit you're gonna you're gonna choose the spiritual thing but if you're being led by the flesh to do something then the flesh is going to tell you that what that person's saying is not right you see that so look over it says but baruch the son of niraya set the on against us for to deliver us into the hand of the caldians that they might put us to death and carry us away captives in babylon so what ends up happening they go to egypt and guess what happens to them they get destroyed you know they were afraid of the king of babylon and then jeremiah gets up there and it's and he says this pavilion is going to be over the top of the very place that i hide uh these writings in so you know they they chose the wrong thing they go against what god's word says and what happens they get destroyed and so the bible says my people uh are destroyed for lack of knowledge my people are destroyed for lack of wisdom so hey we should get wisdom with all of our getting get as much as you can get it from god get it from people you trust get it from your pastor and receive that get it so again there's nothing more irritating than someone that comes to you for that wisdom and then they don't take it it's annoying but it doesn't mean i still don't love them but it's just hard to watch because you know what's gonna what's gonna happen you know what the bible says is gonna happen when people get away from him it's gonna be hard on their lives so um i've had people come to me and say hey you know this person that i really love this person and i want to marry them but they're divorced and i'm like okay there's seven billion people on the planet half those are probably women now obviously i wouldn't say that someone should go to an unsafe person and and and you know obviously i think that someone should believe like you just because someone's even you know if they're christian they're equally yoked but some christians don't agree on things you know so and obviously catholics will call themselves christian but some people go to they just want to get married so bad that they'll go into the into a place where they shouldn't get somebody and try to marry that person and they because they think they can change them but you know what's going to happen that person's going to change you if you're dating a woman and and they're like yeah they're totally on board with the new ifb they totally you know believe everything i believe but then they never come to church that should be a red flag in your mind don't marry that person because you know what if they do that in a green tree what do you think they're going to do when they actually have you trapped they know that you're trapped and they're going to just not go to church ever again and believe me it happens in our circles it does happen you know you hear all this preaching about don't you know marry people don't be unequally yoked with people and then people are just like what do you think about me marrying this divorced person are you what are you talking about what did jesus say that if you marry a divorced woman you're committing adultery so out of that seven billion people half of them are women and then if you think maybe two or three percent of people are actually saved in this world i mean you still got what 760 million people half that 350 000 well this is you know professing christians i guess i mean even if you get it down to 10 000 you know even if you get it down to 300 you know if you say i'm going to pick the the girl that lapis with her tongue the water i'm only going to choose from this 300 you know you still got 300 you know and people are so you know they're so concerned about how someone looks all the time why don't you look think about how they look on their heart what are the what are they like you know beauty is vain i think i heard a sermon about that not too long ago but it's true beauty is vain so you know if you want the supermodel or whatever or you want the the brad pitt look like hunk or something what are those people like in real life though you know do you think that someone that some super some lady that's a supermodel is like this godly christian all the time it's very rare but think about who you should marry is it should it be a divorced person you know guess what i'm going to say to you what do you think my advice was to the person no it's no should i move to a place where there's no good church what do you think my answer is every time it's always no it's always no so look if you don't want my opinion on on advice that i think that would be godly advice to you don't ask me because if you're not willing to listen to it then just ask somebody else they'll tell you what they want just like kent hovind when he got wanted to get remarried yeah he went he went to what did he go to like seven pastors that he trusted and they were his wise counsel and they all told him it's okay to get remarried why would i know the names of those pastors it's like an email and tell them they're idiots and that they're morons i think he's on marriage number three now so i mean look every time i've seen someone get remarried it ends up tragic i mean i'm talking about when they know what the bible says they know it's wrong it always ends up in a train wreck so what what's my advice marry someone that's equally yoked with you and they are on board with you and what you believe and that's a good decision and even then marriage can still be tough can't it we all we believe the same thing we believe you know that jesus went to hell for three days and three nights like the bible says we believe that god really did die we believe those things but you know sometimes our marriages you know people just are you know sometimes they mix like oil and water and some you know we have to get past our own personal conflicts with each other to have good marriage so even if all the things line up perfectly that you can still have marriage problems so think about how bad it would be to have marriage problems when you're married when you marry outside of your faith well she's catholic so that means she christian so you know if i like her then i'm going to put a ring on it right that's what people do i've i've actually watched a guy and i i don't believe in giving unsolicited advice unless it's like a really a really serious danger for somebody but i told that this guy is like yeah i said hey you're getting married that's cool i was like where'd she go to church at and he's like oh she's episcopalian and i was pretty young in the faith at that time but i knew better than to marry an episcopalian my wife's a baptist amen but anyway i just was like man you know you know you know they're not really christians right he's like oh no no she she says she's saved uh-huh yeah yeah every time she drinks the juice or the wine and eats the wafer she's saved right but they end up having terrible marriage problems i mean and thank god they're still married today i think maybe she ended up getting saved but that's not always the optimal situation you know to go through literal terrible marriage counseling and bad super huge battles because they're not really on board with what you think so when you get your counsel receive that counsel when you go to that person and and that's good counsel receive that counsel so what i hear when people say that they're going to do something opposite of what i've told them to do from the bible or what i advise them to do here's what i hear pastor thompson thou speakest falsely that's what i hear right you know thou speakest falsely you know god didn't send you to tell me that well hey uh yeah i know you came to me remember that's the that's the part that they don't you know they're like you know baruch the sinner niraya said on thee against us well did they did is that what happened because it sounds to me like they came to jeremiah groveling on their hands and knees basically to get his opinion so um i had a lady call me one time and said should i divorce my spouse if they're a reprobate pastor perry said that it was okay so here's the thing go to wise counsel i mean he literally preached a sermon where he said it's okay to divorce somebody if they're a reprobate is that what the bible says was abigail married to a reprobate before she married david she stayed married to him she knew he was a reprobate but she still stayed married to him didn't she yeah because there's no there's no verse that says except they be reprobate hey choose the right spouse that's the point i mean i'm really harping on this right now because i think it's a big problem in churches like ours where people just you know they know what the preaching says they know what the bible says but yet they choose the other route why because they want people the heart wants what it wants love is love stupid so when people say they're not going to listen to my advice then i just feel like they're saying pastor thompson they'll speak as falsely but i had to talk them off you know i don't do i think that that person should stay living with that reprobate if they're like a fag no i don't and that's when you would just separate from them but it doesn't say to divorce them separate from them here's what i told them here's my advice let me ask you if you think this is solid advice leave that person don't let them around your kids because the guy was a fag and pray that he every day that he dies there's some good advice i thought it was good advice do you think it's good advice how about you take pastor perry's advice which is not biblical which we found in the last couple years is uh he's got a lot of things that he's not biblical about so number three this morning this last my last point giving solicited or unsolicited council giving solicited or unsolicited council so let me say this though when someone's like i said in a position where they're like say their kids get about to like fall off of something you know i think it's okay for you to say hey your kid's playing on the electric fence or you know your kid's playing you know they're they're they're inside the baptistry and they're swimming right now i mean i think that's okay to tell the parents about that's unsolicited advice hey maybe you should watch your kid but you know you can be tactful about it but turn to luke chapter 6 verse 30 luke chapter 6 verse number 30 now i realize this isn't exactly perfectly in context as how i'm going to say it but it the principle applies luke 6 30 it says give to every man that asketh of thee give to every man that so if someone asks you for your advice you should give it to them now this is talking mainly probably about you know things that people want to borrow or lend them money or whatever it says but it says if a man asks you then give him the advice so that's that's a pretty good principle to follow though because there's these advice people that love to just run around and tell everybody what they think about everything you know what i'm talking about so there's people that want to give medical advice about everything there are the medical doctors mds on facebook and they know every you know essential oil that's going to heal every ailment that they have okay but then you also have uh you know there's just people that want to just spout off on the mouth about every single thing and i just don't think that's wise i don't think it's your business to get into other people's business about everything that they do so even if you think that the apple cider vinegar is going to cure the ailment you know whatever ailment that is because from what i know the internet told me that apple cider vinegar heals every single ailment that you have have you guys heard this i mean heartburn but here's one thing it doesn't heal your teeth okay you know what it it'll burn the enamel right off your teeth so if you're drinking apple cider vinegar and you think pastor aaron thompson's a moron i know pastor thompson the apple cider vinegar heals everything it's like windex you know windex heals every ailment but there's a lot of snake oils out there isn't there but here's the thing i'm not saying natural things don't help they do help they can't help and be helpful but to but if you don't really know if you just got your information when you googled it real quick there's a lot of doctors that do that too they google your hey it's sore throat okay i think you have strep throat google i mean webmd told me so look we we need to be slow to speak sometimes you know your md card needs to just stay with you put it in your back pocket you don't need to tell everybody everything you know because maybe you don't know as much as you think you know because if you really think that apple cider vinegar heals every single ailment then i have some news for you i don't think it does because like i was telling you about my daughter who you know she tried apple cider vinegar guess what it didn't work you're like well you know she just wasn't doing it right she was doing everything that she could do okay she's probably mad at me for telling the story but eventually she had to get her gallbladder taken out which is what i told her to do over a month ago so i mean we can go to the internet and find anything that we want everything is true on there right you guys know bigfoot lives in washington state did you have you guys heard about that people the internet you know does not go the internet's a great resource and you can learn the internet's a great resource and you can learn a lot of things but you should you should spare your opinion on stuff especially if people don't ask you for it so the bible says right here in luke 631 it says and as you would that men should do to you do ye also to them likewise so however you want to be treated that's how you should treat other people if you don't like people telling you what to do the baby you shouldn't tell them what to do you think about that for a second turn to proverbs chapter 17 verse 27 proverbs chapter 17 verse 27 and i always like to walk on this side for some reason i think it's because at our church like i'll trip over stuff if i come over here so i'm sorry i'll come over here for a second all right good all right i'm trying to break some cycles of my preaching here all right proverbs chapter 17 verse 27 bible says he that hath knowledge spareth words he that hath knowledge hey you you got a lot of knowledge the bible says you should spare your words right and a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit even a fool when he holdeth his peace is counted wise so you could be a big dummy and if you just keep your mouth shut people will think you're smarter than you really are basically that's saying right and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding hey if your opinion doesn't flow out of your mouth then people aren't going to think you're stupid if you're giving stupid advice and so just realize it's not always your place to say something to people too why don't you let them go to the right people you know if you're concerned about them go to them you know by all means you know and sometimes people are are doing things that they shouldn't be doing and you could go to that person with a meek spirit and and just kind of just help that person sometimes people need to be rebuked i understand that but i'm talking about giving unsolicited advice or giving it or or uh yeah giving solicited or unsolicited advice if someone doesn't ask you if it's solicited that means someone asks you hey can you give me some advice about this and then you're like yeah sometimes it's even good to not give it if you don't know what you're talking about say hey you know i know you want my advice on this but i really am not an expert on cars maybe you should talk to brother cj and brother cj goes to our church and he knows a lot about cars so if they ask me their car is going to be a piece of junk by the time they get done with it because i know nothing i could barely change a windshield wiper as a matter of fact i drive it to the auto parts place and have them change it for me because it's faster right i'm all about that speed speed kills no all right so but look you know in this country we have the freedom of speech and that emboldens people to say more sometimes than they really ought to but you know you have the freedom of speech but you don't always have the right to be heard you don't always have you don't people don't have to listen to you you know on youtube people don't have to listen to what they don't want to listen to that's a great thing about it is you can go and and watch what you want on there you know except for if you want to watch somebody ripping fags to shreds then of course it's hard to find that stuff right so look if you spare your words you hold your peace you shut your mouth you're going to look more wise than most people and when someone asks you for your advice or your opinion on something that's when it's time to give your wisdom and knowledge if you have it that makes sense does that principle make sense but if someone doesn't want your opinion then keep your duck lips shut keep your what do they call it when girls do this in their selfie pictures the fish cape keep your fish cape shut keep your duck lips quiet man keep your mouth shut if someone doesn't ask you then you don't have to tell them well wait no no no no shut up quit telling them they don't want to hear it you know if you're the person that's the webmd of the church then you know if people don't want to hear your advice then don't tell it to them if people don't want to hear your marriage advice when you've been divorced three times then you know just be quiet if they want your advice they're going to ask you for it and if you do want to give someone advice because you really feel like you do have something that can help them then give them that advice but first ask them if you could give it to them i mean that's a good thing to do don't you think i mean if you if you ask hey can i would you care if i gave you some unsolicited advice i've done that because i felt like the need was dire but i don't do it a lot like i was just saying earlier that we're not a cult you know there's no speakers in my in my church members houses that have like an alarm to say time to go to church they're called to church it's time to go to church you know that's what cult members do that's what my wife went and did a cpr class for this they're called anabaptists but they are a cult i mean basically she went to teach the class and that like they got the pastor or their leader got on the loudspeaker and told them they have speakers inside their homes and the pastor or what was he a pastor you just nod your head yes okay don't you speak in the church no but they he literally got on the loudspeakers and told everybody to come to the class how weird would that be that's a cult if the pastor can get into your house and speak without you having to click on a youtube video you're in a cult all right so um turn to proverbs chapter 20 verse 3 proverbs chapter 20 verse number 3 and you don't have oh you do have a clock pastor shall we cool all right i got like two hours left oh look at this one that's even better nice when i'm at work sometimes i'll uh people will tell me like if i'm the crew leader someone will tell me like hey you should do it like this and this you know what i tell them if i want your advice i'll beat it out of you so anyway proverbs chapter 20 verse 3 says it is an honor for a man to cease from strife but every fool will be meddling look it's not our business to meddle in other people's affairs we're not supposed to be going in and trying to meddle with everybody's lives it says every fool will be meddling don't be a meddler and i would say this especially for parents and grandparents of newly married couples i think it's super wicked for you to get involved in your children's marriage and choose sides and look people that are newly married don't bring your parents into your marriage because you know what it's going to do it's going to have if it's the wife asking advice or whatever from the parents or or talking badly about their husband they're going to hate your husband and then you're going to do irreparable damage to your marriage because they can't keep their mouths shut to their own parents what's the bible say leave and cleave right that means once you're gone you're gone they're not you're not accountable to your parents anymore and if you're a parent it's none of your business what goes on in their marriage maybe you should have done your due diligence and found out whether that person was good or not but you know once you're they're married it's too late so keep out of marriages if you look and i would think that this would be like par for the course in churches like ours but i've seen it where parents get involved in their kids' lives where they don't belong and it causes damage don't do it if you're you know there's all ages in this church hey just know that this is a truth that's found in the bible from the very beginning leave and cleave bye-bye it's time for me to start my own life with my own family and it because family families getting into your marriage can cause a lot of problems and i'm not even going to ask for a raise of hands but i know that hands would raise all around this building if i was to ask if there if you ever had any family members getting to your marriage and cause problems i mean i could just see it in your head in your faces you're like i want to raise my hand right now my mother-in-law needs to shut up no and it is hard sometimes like when you see your kids making mistakes because like my kids are all married except for josh you know we got to tie a pork chop around the dog's neck so it'll play with josh but i'm just kidding he's a good kid but uh you know we see our kids sometimes making mistakes but you know what they're not making as bad as mistakes as we did and so i just you know i've just learned to i i believe the bible and i believe it's not my job to run my children's marriages you know and even if i see them making a mistake you know if i did see think it was a really bad mistake i probably wouldn't treat them and go to them and just say hey you know i i want to give you some advice would you be willing to listen i will do that i have done that but it's very rare and you know why because i don't want to meddle in my children's lives like that and as long as they're doing right they're gonna look we're gonna have problems you know i used to have a pastor that i thought him and his wife never fought but it's not true you know if you're the person the the diamond in the rough the one person that you've never been in a fight with your spouse for your whole marriage come forward right now because you need to step up to an old-fashioned no i'm just kidding you need to get your heart right with jesus i told this story the other day in my church but we're not in my church so i'll tell it again so i had a pastor a couple churches ago and or two you know before we started our church and he said he went to house anderson baptist college and he said that his his professor in bible college said you know me and my wife never fight and so he's like you know newly married he's like man what's wrong with me like why do we always fight so much you know we're just having all these problems he's like i'm a failure and so then later on like maybe a couple weeks later he saw him and his wife next to their car in the parking lot fighting and he's like uh-huh never fights huh and so like he waited of course for a better opportunity to talk to him he's like i thought you said you and your wife never fight huh he's like that wasn't a fight that was just a tiff a tiff is a fight okay if you're yelling back and forth that is a fight okay so we're gonna fight sometimes but hey here's some good advice stay out of other people's marriages and again the caveat would be if you feel someone's harming themselves or you know then try try to give them some advice but ask them first let's look at exodus chapter 18 verse number 13 exodus 18 verse number 13 now this is a story about how moses's father-in-law came to visit him and he was watching how moses did his daily ministration where he's he's basically sitting from the more the time he gets up in the morning till the till the evening time and he's judging what people are coming to him for wisdom aren't they and so he's counseling people and then his father-in-law sees that it's wearing he's going to just wear away because look i mean people might think the pastor's job is easy but it feels like from the morning you wait the time you wake up in the morning to the time you go to bed that you're always constantly doing ministry and whether it's just like talking to someone on the phone giving them counsel or whatever but pastors you've got to be careful because you know we can wear away and this is what jethro saw moses doing look at verse 13 it says and it came to pass on the morrow that moses sat to judge the people and the people stood by moses from the morning unto the evening and when moses father-in-law saw all that he did to the people he said what is this thing that thou doest to the people why sittest out thyself alone and all the people stand by thee from morning unto even and moses said unto his father-in-law because the people come unto me to inquire of god when they have a matter they come to me and i judge between one and another and i make them know the statutes of god and his laws and moses father-in-law said unto him the thing that thou doest is not good so he's giving him unsolicited advice okay but look who he is he's his father-in-law and he's it's not about his marriage it's about something he just he's just he is trying to help him now and in this situation he's right to do it because moses is in a situation where he's going to burn himself out and he's trying to help him with something he thinks is a dire need here says moses father-in-law said the thing that doest is not good that will surely wear away both you and this people that is with thee for this thing is too heavy for thee thou are not able to perform at thyself alone harken now unto my voice listen to what i'm saying to you moses i will give thee counsel so will you listen to me and i will give you counsel so he does ask him and he says and god shall be with thee be thou for the people to godward that thou mayest bring the causes unto god and thou shalt teach them ordinances and laws and shall show them the way wherein they must walk and the work that they must do moreover thou shalt provide out of all the people able men such as fear god men of truth hating covetousness excuse me and place the such over them to be rulers of thousands rulers of hundreds rulers of 50s and rulers of tens and so he's basically helping moses to get a structure and a system that can help him because he's literally just night and day giving advice and helping people so literally he's giving him advice on giving people advice isn't he that's kind of what's going on here it says and let them judge the people at all seasons and it shall be that every great matter they shall bring unto thee but every small matter they shall judge so shall it be easier for thyself and they shall bear the burden with thee if thou shall do this thing and god command thee so then thou shalt be able to endure and all this people shall also go to their place in peace so moses hearkened to the voice of his father-in-law and did all that he said and so what did moses do he listened to sound advice and sound counsel from his father-in-law and you know it helped him i'm sure that probably took years uh added years unto his life because it said he was going to wear away and i think he was right see you can get so overburdened with ministry that you don't spend time with your family or you don't uh you know spend time with your wife you don't spend time with your children and that's not a good place to be so i think it's right that the men of god will divide up the workload onto other people and i i'm pretty sure that happens here i'm positive that happens here it happens at my church you know when i went full time because i'm full time right now which is a blessing amen i thank you for praying for that i really appreciate it that was a hard decision i went to council with people over several people and uh you know i i feel like i made the right choice to go full time but uh and i forgot what i was even where i was even going with that somebody help me out huh oh delegating work yeah so but when i thank you i appreciate that i'm getting old right so uh yeah so when it comes to delegating work you know as soon as i went full time i knew this was going to happen though i prepared my heart for it like hey since you're full time now so do you want to start doing this no i was working two and a half jobs while i was doing all this other stuff before so now i'm just trying to and now i have a backlog of things that needs to get taken care of and so i got plenty of stuff to do so i was like you know how would that help me if i went full time and then took on everything that everybody else was doing that'd that'd be difficult wouldn't it that'd be stupid on my part so uh i just cut that head off immediately as soon as it started to appear but uh hey do you want to take the trash out now no that's your job you keep doing it all right so anyway um but anyway so i just want to close the sermon off here but before i do i do you know i know i talked a lot about the medical advice thing but the reason why it's such a big deal is because literally if you don't know what you're talking about it could be a life or death situation right you could be telling something that you got something off the internet and what you're telling them could literally put their life at risk you know i i saw one video where some lady claimed that she had the cure for strep throat well you know doctors been trying to do that for a long time so i i think it's very cringy to see someone put up a youtube video that says i have the cure for strep throat oh really well you know lots of science doctors would like to know exactly where you got that cure from it's dangerous it's dangerous to tell somebody that you have this answer that might put them at risk cayenne pepper apparently is the new snake oil i don't know if you guys have heard of cayenne pepper before i'm not saying it doesn't have great properties and and purposes in life but like when i when i i just i just googled it last night of course you know because google is my md but when i googled it had like 15 things that cayenne pepper does for you and literally this lady and look god bless her i know she was she meant well probably but somebody's mom was like her grandma was having a heart attack or something and they they they asked for prayer on the on the like pray for my grandma she just had a heart attack and then somebody says take a scoop of cayenne pepper and go and run and stick it underneath her tongue well i mean you know what if that what would happen if someone would have actually done that i mean we don't know maybe it would have shocked her right into life i mean i don't know i don't know enough about it but here's what i what i do know that i would never give that advice to somebody i mean if someone's saying hey please pray for me what do you think's going to help more the power of prayer from god or a scoop of cayenne pepper you know what cayenne pepper does like you can make dogs lose their scent from it it's that powerful so if you put cayenne if i put cayenne pepper under my tongue right now it goes straight to the bloodstream and i would just probably turn red and die of a heart attack so hot spicy things can make you have a heart attack did you anybody know that like it's it's not recommended if you have a bad heart to eat a lot of spicy food so like when you have a heart attack and then you tell somebody here put this stuff that will cause an instant heart attack under someone's tongue do you understand what i'm saying i'm not trying to say that i like i'm not against natural medicine i'm not i'm not against western medicine either i'm i'm in the middle and sometimes we get too extreme on certain things and then we want to just give our advice because we we checked it out on naturalnews.com and they said it's true so just be elite i mean again just go to those principles should i be saying this to somebody should i should i just shut my lips and and be counted wise you know those are things that we uh should think about before we go give unsolicited medical advice because i don't see anybody with stethoscopes on in here i don't see any doctors i mean if you're a doctor in the building you know obviously you're not gonna wear your stethoscope to church but some people might no but like look cayenne pepper essential oils coconut oil apple cider vinegar you know if you had to take all those things just to survive every day you know you'd be taking a lot of stuff i didn't even mention everything i mean think about that do you actually take all that stuff every day yep i do well how do you feel you must feel great but you know the thing i've noticed is the people that are mostly like that are the most unhealthy people i see so and look i'm not trying to get onto if you like you know obviously this is probably not a very popular part of this term but you know what what heart breaching is is when you hear things that you need to hear and you're like well pastor Thompson you're a moron that'll speak as falsely well i'm just saying think about things before you do them before you give someone advice that's unsolicited you know think about what you're saying okay so number one go to the right people for your advice number two get the advice and actually take it number three make sure you're asking before you give somebody advice and don't give unsolicited advice unless you ask all right so that's the sermon let's pray heavenly father we thank you lord so much for steadfast baptist church i pray to be a beacon of light and hope in the dallas fort worth area for many many years to come pray bless pastor Shelly and his ministry and his wife and his family and every single person an individual in this room lord there's many people in here my dear friends and i love them and i pray that you'd bless their lives help them help us to go to you lord first of all for our advice and for our our wisdom and knowledge first of all and then lord help us to surround ourselves with people that are wise also can help us with our knowledge help us to guard our tongues and uh not to say things we shouldn't say to people when it's not our business to do so or we pray these things in jesus name amen amen and thank you pastor thompson for coming down here this morning and make sure everybody come back tonight hear them again preach with that we'll close out with our last song go ahead and turn in your hymnals to song number 215 heaven came down and glory filled my soul song number 215 oh what a wonderful wonderful day day i will never forget after i'd wandered in darkness away jesus my savior i met oh what a tender compassionate friend he met the need of my heart shadows dispelling with joy i am telling he made all the darkness depart heaven came down and glory filled my soul when at the cross the savior made me whole my sins were washed away and my night was turned today heaven came down and glory filled my soul born of the spirit with life from above into god's family divine justified fully through calvary's love oh what a standing is mine and the transaction so quickly was made when as a sinner i came took up the offer of grace and proper he saved me oh praise his dear name heaven came down and glory filled my soul when at the cross the savior made me whole my sins were washed away and my night was turned today heaven came down and glory filled my soul now i have a hope that will surely endure after the passing of time i have a future in heaven for sure there in those mansions sublime and it's because of that wonderful day when at the cross i believe rich is eternal and blessing supernal from his precious hand i receive heaven came down and glory filled my soul when at the cross the savior made me whole my sins were washed away and my night was turned today heaven came down and glory filled my soul heaven came down and glory filled my soul oh thank you all for coming this morning y'all good afternoon god bless so you