(Disclaimer: This transcript is auto-generated and may contain mistakes.) Lord and give us ears to hear and understand the preaching Lord and also fail path from here with your spirit Lord we love you and as you say we pray Amen. Okay we're in Romans chapter number 11 look down at your Bibles in verse 16 it says forth the first fruit be holy the lump is also holy and if the root be holy so are the branches and if some of the branches be broken off and thou be in a wild olive tree we're grafted in among them and with them partake it's of the root and fadness of the olive tree boast not against the branches but if thou boast thou bearest not the root but the root thee that will say then the branches were broken off that I might be grafted in the title determine this evening is Christianity by osmosis Christianity by osmosis now osmosis is obviously a scientific term and I'm going to give you the definition of what it means scientifically okay it says osmosis is a process by which the molecules of a solvent pass from a solution of low concentration to a solution of high concentration through a semi permeable membrane you're like how are you gonna preach from that look let me give you a the smart ones in here okay or the ones who think they're smarter or something understand that looking at you John I'm just kidding I'm kidding let me give you just a really basic example of what this looks like okay maybe some of the ladies have done this in times past you know so here's an example of osmosis when you get a cucumber for example all right which is a soluble object a cucumber and you place it into a jar that has water vinegar and salt okay well when you place that cucumber within that jar the process of osmosis begins to take place and in other words after a certain period of time that water and the the cucumber will begin to share the same properties and eventually what happens is you get yourself a pickle okay so that cucumber becomes a pickle and that water that liquid along with that cucumber begin to share the same properties without any effort whatsoever all it takes is for you to take that pickle or excuse me that cucumber place it into a jar and over a period of time with no effort whatsoever the process of osmosis takes place and then you got yourself a pickle that's basically osmosis in the most simplest form okay now there is a form of osmosis in the Bible in the sense that there is zero effort required in order to receive a certain product okay what am I talking about well how about salvation right salvation could be described as a the osmosis the only difference is that there's no process it happens instantaneously when you believe on Jesus Christ you see once a human being is placed in Christ what happens they are a new creature the Bible tells us therefore if any man be in Christ he is a new creature all things have passed away behold all things have become new the properties the spiritual properties of that individual has been completely altered forever the Bible tells us okay and so that would be like a an example of spiritual osmosis and in fact look at Romans 11 and verse number 16 here in Romans 11 we see that the Apostle Paul is using the example of branches being grafted into a tree and the branches of course picture believers the tree or the root is representative of Jesus Christ and what the Bible is specifically teaching us here is that in the New Testament God's chosen people is made up of all believers no longer Jews okay now people who were Jews in times past who are believers they are still part of that tree because of the fact that they believed on the Lord but those who are just Jews according to the flesh and have rejected Jesus Christ the Bible tells us they were actually broken off okay look what the Bible says in Romans 11 16 for if the first for be holy the lump is also holy and if the root be holy so are the branches what is it saying here we have the same properties osmosis has taken place no effort required only our faith in Christ verse 17 and if some of the branches be broken off and thou be in a wild olive tree I've heard that term somewhere used we're grafted in among them and with them partake us of the root and fatness of the olive tree so on and so forth so what is it telling us it's basically saying that when we get saved we're actually grafted into the root we're grafted into the tree and there's zero effort required for that you know there's a lot of teaching out there that says well no you have to do your part well that's false you know people say well you got to make sure that you repent of your sins in order to be saved you got to make sure you keep God's commandments live a holy life you have to make sure that you do the works but according to the Bible that's not the right type of osmosis that God is talking about osmosis spiritual osmosis so to speak is something that happens instantaneously and all we have to do is be placed into the body of Christ now go to Hebrew chapter number six if you would Hebrew chapter number six so the thought that is being presented here is that when we get saved we are integrated into the people of God we become God's chosen people okay and look as I mentioned this morning when we get saved automatically think well we have eternal life we're going to heaven but that's not the only thing that happens there there are various things that takes place as soon as we get saved and obviously as you grow in your faith you begin to learn of those things but then you realize oh man that happened when I got saved okay look what it says in Hebrew chapter six in verse number six it says in verse number six if they shall fall away to renew them again unto repentance see they crucify to themselves the Son of God afresh and put them to put him to an open shame for the earth which drinketh in the rain that cometh off upon it and bringeth forth herbs meet for them by whom it is dressed receive its blessings from God but that which beareth thorns and briars is rejected and is nigh unto cursing whose end is to be burned what this is describing here is an individual who has heard the gospel knows what the plan of salvation is the Bible tells us that they've tasted of that heavenly gift they're right on the brink of being saved and they just completely reject the Word of God they reject Jesus Christ they don't want to get saved they hate God and the Bible says that they this person actually becomes what the Bible describes as a reprobate okay they become rejected of God because they've rejected Jesus Christ so much God actually begins to reject them and they can no longer be saved because they don't want to be saved okay and what is there in verse 8 says but that which beareth thorns and briars is rejected which reprobate is defined as rejection and nigh unto cursing that means they're gonna be cursed they're gonna go to hell according to the Bible look what it says whose end is to be burnt so here in Hebrew 6 we have a contrast of two people that are being described here the one being the reprobate who's eternally damned but then look what it says in verse 9 but beloved we are persuaded better things of you and things that accompany salvation though we thus speak so when we look at the reprobate according to Hebrew 6 it's a couple of factors that accompany a reprobate is that they bear thorns and briars they're rejected they're nigh unto cursing and their end is to be burned right one like man or a safe person when they get saved there's certain things that accompany salvation eternal life we have the Holy Spirit sealed within us until the day of redemption we become the sons of God we receive that adoption we now have the spirit of truth well in within us so we can understand the Word of God hey we can pray now and enter into you know the throne of God with all boldness in order to to petition for our needs God will listen to us hey we inherit the millennial reign we inherit the new heaven and the new earth and the list goes on and on and on of things that accompany salvation with no effort on our part right all we did was be placed in Christ we got saved the cucumber was thrown into the pickle jar and we became pickles so to speak right we became a new creature and it accompanies there's things that accompany salvation that happen automatically right off the bat with zero effort on your part okay now to a certain extent if you think about it there are certain things that happen by osmosis in the life of a Christian even after salvation you know a Christian when they're placed into a Baptist Church there's certain things that you're gonna pick up on right there's certain things you're gonna learn whether it's the hymns you're gonna learn about the King James Bible you're gonna learn about sowing you're gonna learn about the essentials of the faith because you're in a Baptist Church it's just kind of naturally happens that you begin to pick up on the vibe of the church you understand how about a child being born into a Christian home when a child is born into a Christian home there's certain things that happen by osmosis what does that mean they just end up getting certain things because of their parents you know their parents live godly lives their churchgoers they read the Bible they win souls to Christ and so they begin to build by osmosis certain disciplines within that within that child's life now obviously that's not to say that a child who didn't grow up in a Christian home can't have those things but optimal environment would help a child to have those things integrated into their life if the if a mom and dad create an environment where Christianity is prevalent where Christ is preeminent okay so a child that is born into a Christian home you know they have a good chance of making it as a Christian because of the environment that they are in hey how about this just Christians in America in general Christians in America look America is Babylon America is super wicked and America is going to hell in a handbasket but still it's like the best country to live it as a Christian in comparison to other countries out there in the world okay obviously America it's the Babylon the whore of Babylon but you know what it's still a lot better than Iraq for a Christian it's still better than Southeast Asia where idolatry is just rampant now there's idolatry here but you know what we have the liberty and the freedom to go out and preach the gospel there's still people out there that are getting saved there's still people out there that I hear to the Word of God and they've grown up hearing about Jesus about the Bible and that's why it's good ground so when you're born in America you know you have a good chance of getting saved whereas if someone's born in Southeast Asia yeah they're gonna hear the name of Christ they might hear the gospel presentation but they're not gonna have a gospel preacher every week knocking on their door if they grow up in whatever Timbuktu in the middle of nowhere not saying that if they don't respond to you know if they respond to light that God gives them God's gonna send a soul to them but you know what they're probably not gonna have a soul or a missionary come every single week okay so there's certain things that happen by osmosis when you're born in America growing up in certain environments helps us or is actually can work against us now being placed in the right environment is essential to Christian success okay so I want to make that disclaimer before I preach the rest of the sermon I'm not saying that hey we don't need the right environment we need the right environment because look if environments didn't matter then why do we even call ourselves an independent fundamental Baptist Church you know why because we reject the liberal fund centers because that type of environment is not conducive to spiritual growth and biblical knowledge and separation whereas an independent fundamental Baptist Church is okay for the most part I know you have your liberal independent fundamental Baptists out there who have the name baptism they need to just need to remove that you know you got Liberty Baptist Church over in Newport Beach they claim to be an independent fundamental Baptist Church but they're as liberals the days long okay but what I'm saying is that you need to be in the right environment and that's essential for Christian success but here's the thing though ladies if you have the right ingredients in your cupboard it doesn't mean you're gonna cook the best meal right you can have optimal ingredients everything I don't even know how to name all the spices and Costco this and all this is just I got everything I need but it doesn't necessarily mean you're gonna cook the best meal right but wouldn't you say in order to cook a good meal you need pretty decent ingredients so that's foundational okay so I'm not saying that that's not what we need we definitely need that but not at the exclusion of knowing how to cook okay it's like well I got the ingredients let me just throw them into a bowl and then make filet mignon obviously that doesn't happen okay anybody hungry but you know there is an assumption gap where people think that all they need to succeed in the Christian life is just the right environment I just needed me in the right church with the right pastor with the right people with the right job and the right boss and the right wife and the right husband the right children and everything would just I would just succeed if everyone just did what I told them to do or was what I wanted them to be I just need the perfect environment the perfect environment doesn't exist the perfect church doesn't exist now I believe their first words is pretty good okay best churches around it's not perfect but it's kind of close okay but here's the thing the wrong way to think is like well if I just have all these things right then I'm just gonna turn out right well no that doesn't that's not true it's false okay and I want to talk to you this evening about things that don't happen by osmosis all right now go with me if you went to Proverbs chapter number one Proverbs chapter number one let me start really basic here number one knowledge of the Bible does not happen by osmosis knowledge of God's Word does not happen by osmosis the fallacy is well because I go to church where they teach the Bible therefore I'm gonna automatically know the Bible or just because I told around a King James Bible I'm just gonna automatically know all the contents of that book false doesn't work that way because over and over again we see that not only are we supposed to be in church where which is the pillar and ground of truth not only are we supposed to have the Word of God but you know what we need to read the Word of God we need to study the Word of God we need to not despise prophesying but we need to make sure we adhere to God's preaching and apply it to our lives in order to have knowledge of God's Word the Bible says study to show thyself approved unto God a what workman that needeth not to be ashamed rightly dividing the Word of truth so that is not just a command for a young preacher that's a command for every Christian because it's the responsibility of every Christian to search the scriptures to see if these things are so okay we never want to have a Catholic type of service or it's just like only the preacher or only the priest reads the Word of God you trust me you don't have to study these things no we need to be like Bereans who search the scriptures day to see if these things are so and make sure that you are studying the Word of God on your own that's why you should bring a Bible when you come to church amen and that's why when you bring the Bible you should open up the Bible go to the references and not just stare at the preacher you know it's just like sometimes I'm reading I'm looking at people they're just like they just give me this look and I'm looking at them cuz I'm saying like you're supposed to be reading the scriptures yeah just throw that out there so what's the fallacy well I'm going to an independent fundamental Baptist Church I should be learning the Bible well yeah to a certain extent that is true because of the fact that the pastor should be preaching the Bible and teaching things right but you know what that's not where it stops you need to make sure that you yourself are learning the Bible on your own because here's the thing you know I'm feeding the flock Sunday morning Sunday night Thursday evening but what about the rest of the week you have to feed yourself you have to be reading the Word of God and ruminating on his word meditating upon it memorizing the scriptures reading through the Word of God to learn it on your own and I guarantee you your Bible reading and your Bible studies will be so much more rich when you actually study the Bible on your own you come to church and you hear something from the pulpit that matches up with what you read is it whoa I just read that I mean that's an amazing feeling look what the Bible says in Proverbs 1 verse 5 a wise man will hear and will increase in learning and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsel to understand a proverb and the interpretation the words of the wise and their dark sayings hey I want to challenge you this evening to be a wise man you know is it any coincidence that the wise men who came to Jesus they understood the dark saying of where the Star of Bethlehem would be you know in order for you to understand the deep things of God to be able to decipher the cryptic passages of Scripture you need to be wise well how are you wise by reading the Word of God by turning off the music turning off the distractions turning off the wife turn it I'm just kidding you know turning off the children turn it off whatever you got to turn off in order to listen to the ministry of the Holy Spirit teaching you the Word of God as you read it okay look at Proverbs chapter 2 because that's what we should all aspire to do right to be able to understand a proverb the interpretation the words of the wise and their dark sayings you know you ever had that moment where you're reading the Word of God and you're reading a passage that you really didn't understand in times past and you come across and you like I get it now I know what this means that's an awesome feeling but you know you're not gonna get that feeling if all you do is listen to the Word of God when you come to church but you're not reading it on your own and look let me just put a plug in hey you should have a goal of reading through the Bible that's coming here if you haven't already 2021 is coming up January 1st Genesis chapter 1 or Matthew chapter 1 verse number 1 start there and have the goal to read your Bible every single day to grow in your knowledge of God's Word look at Proverbs 2 verse 1 says my son if thou will receive my words and hide my commandments with thee so that thou incline thine ear into wisdom and apply thine heart to understanding look what it says yay if thou Christ after knowledge and liftest up thy voice for understanding if thou seekest her as silver and searches for her as for hid treasures then thou shall understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God for the Lord giveth wisdom out of his mouth cometh knowledge and understanding think about that so how do I get knowledge cry out for it how do I get knowledge search for it like you're searching for gold and silver and rubies diligently seeking it out that's how you gain knowledge now what is that picture well how about praying Lord opened down my eyes that I may behold wondrous things out of thy law Lord please reveal to me the deep things of God help me to understand the dark sayings and the interpretations thereof you know if you have a passage of scripture that is stumping you there's nothing wrong with praying and saying God can you please reveal the answer to this help me to understand what this means how many compare scripture with scripture may the Holy Spirit bring into mind other portions of scriptures to enlighten what this means here that's a good thing to do what are you doing you're crying out for knowledge you're seeking out gold and silver and precious stones from God's Word but you know people do they don't something the vast majority of people they don't cry out for knowledge they're just like too casual about their Bible reading or they don't seek the truth like it's gold and silver they seek after the actual gold and silver they put more effort into making money or entertaining themselves to death rather than putting in the effort to search for the scriptures and search for the gold and the pieces of the gold nuggets within the Word of God okay look at Proverbs chapter 4 but he's telling us look if you do these things you will find the knowledge of God look at Proverbs 4 verse 1 hear ye children in the instruction of a father and attend to no understanding for I give you good doctrine forsake ye not my law for I was my father's son tender and only beloved in the sight of my mother he taught me also and said unto me let thine heart retain my words keep my commandments and live get wisdom get understanding forget it not neither decline from the words of my mouth forsake her not and she shall preserve thee love her and she shall keep thee wisdom is the principal thing therefore get wisdom and with all thy getting get understanding now we want to have an environment that is optimal for you to learn the Bible that's why we don't have Sunday school class right we don't have Sunday school class because we could just use those extra 30 minutes to actually teach more Bible we don't have all these other classes where you can just learn the Bible rather you just learn the Word of God in a single service in a Bible study and enhance your learning but you're not that needs to be coupled with you reading the Bible on your own because knowledge of the Bible does not happen by osmosis don't think well I go to first works Baptist Church why listen to preachers on YouTube and I listen to doctrine here I can learn the Word of God well how about you yourself what if those things are just gone and let me just say this one day all our YouTube channels shall be shut down what shall you do in that day if that's what you do and they're in a green tree what shall be done in the dry if you are not willing to read the Word of God when there's many green trees of YouTube channels what shall you do when there are no YouTube channels with biblical teaching and it's just completely dry well hopefully you're still reading the Word of God right hopefully you're still coming to church hopefully you still have the discipline the consistency of reading the Bible not thinking well it's just gonna happen by osmosis because it doesn't go to judges 17 if you were judges 17 so knowledge of the Bible does not happen by osmosis but not only that godly living does not happen by osmosis in spite of what the repent of your sins preachers want to teach right right because don't they say well as soon as you get saved you're just gonna live a right life and a righteous life you're not gonna sin you're gonna be holy you know you shouldn't sin anymore because Christians don't sin that's a false doctrine folks you are a liar sir because no one is perfect we all sin and fall short of the glory of God for in me that is in my flesh dwells no good thing the Bible says and that was Paul speaking Oh wretched man that I am who shall deliver me from this body of death what is this what is this thing he's struggling over the fact that his members sin okay oh but you got preachers today they're more holy than the Apostle Paul apparently because they don't sin wrong folks because when we get saved holiness does not happen by osmosis holiness happens as we serve God we seek to get the sin out of our lives we clean up our lives we clean our hearts and our hands and we seek to live a life that's pleasing unto him okay and even then we still fall short but there's people who think well you know because I go to a church where they preach the Bible I'm just gonna automatically live a holy life or because you know I'm saved I should have no desire to do any sin wrong folks the only time that would happen is if you get saved you just die right away at that point yeah you're right preach on brother cuz you're right cuz you dead but that does not happen folks because once we get saved we still have the flesh dwelling with us and the flesh lusts against the spirit the spirit against the flesh these are contrary one to the other so that you cannot do the things that ye would and this is why the Bible consistent consistently tells us walk in the spirit and you shall not fulfill the lusts of the flesh put on the Lord Jesus Christ and make not provision for the flesh look folks if when we got saved we didn't want to sin anymore why does God have so many commandments in the Bible that tells us not to sin if it just came naturally batteries included by osmosis doesn't happen okay well you know I go to a church where there's hard preaching I listen to hard preachers therefore I'm gonna live a holy life false now there's someone in the Bible who thought that they can have God's blessing in God's favor simply by osmosis let me give you an example look at Judges 17 and verse number 6 of course this is a really bad time in the history of Israel there are no kings magistrates there are judges and some of them were really bad it says in verse number 6 in those days there was no king in Israel but every man did that which is right in his own eyes that's just not a good way to start off the sentence right and there was a young man of Bethlehem Judah the family of Judah who was a Levite and he sojourned there so who are the Levites they're the ones who are designated for the priesthood these are the spiritual leaders right and the man departed out of the city of Bethlehem from Bethlehem Judah to sojourn where he could find a place and he came to Mount Ephraim to the house of Micah as he journeyed and Micah said it to him whence comest thou and he said unto him I am a Levite of Bethlehem Judah and I go to sojourn where I might find a place and Micah said unto him dwell with me and be unto me a father and a priest and I will give thee ten shekels of silver by a year and a suit of apparel and thy vittles so the Levite went in so he's basically saying look I'll hire you to be my priest I'll give you ten shekels of silver by a year I'll get you I'll get you a fly little suit pinstripe I'll give you food and the Levi's like you had me at hello so the Levi went in and the Levi was content to dwell with the man and the young man was unto him as one of his sons now keep in mind this is not good at all the Levites were not supposed to do something like this they're designated for the house of God the tabernacle of God not for some dude's house this is your first house church right here right Oh verse 12 and Micah consecrated the Levite oh wow who gave you he basically ordained the Levi right I hereby declare you my Levi and priest and the young man became his priest and was in the house of Micah look what verse 13 says then said Micah now know I that the Lord will do me good seeing I have a Levite to my priest so what is it saying it's in the bag osmosis all I need is for the cucumber known as the Levi to be placed into the jar known as my house by the being by the boom God's with me God's gonna do me good why because it's by osmosis no Micah it's not just because you have a Levi in your house doesn't mean that automatically you get the blessing of God with you because you're doing the right thing in the wrong way okay now what's the right thing he's trying to do he's trying to please God or he's trying to learn the Word of God from the priest because the priests were designated to teach the Word of God but he's doing it in a complete wrong way okay he thought he can get it by osmosis it's like these pastors today who are not qualified to be a pastor right and they're like well I'm just gonna go ahead and ordain myself start my own church not be sent out by anybody but God will do me good because I'm preaching the Word of God you know I'm soul winning I love the Lord so therefore he shall do me good wrong wrong because you're not doing it God's way right you understand so look in like manner you know godly living doesn't happen by osmosis God's blessing doesn't happen by osmosis you know it requires your effort it requires your effort to put in to clean up your life to live a life that's pleasing unto God in order for you to get God's favor on your life okay go to 2nd Peter chapter 1 I'm sorry go to James chapter 1 2nd Peter chapter 1 verse 4 you're in James chapter 1 2nd Peter chapter 1 verse 4 says whereby are given unto us exceeding great and precious promises that by these you might be partakers of the divine nature haven't escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust so the Bible tells us that we're given exceeding great and precious promises that by these we might be partakers of the divine nature what is he saying he's giving us an optimal environment for us to succeed in the Christian life to partake of his divine nature and then he goes on to say verse 5 and beside this giving all diligence add to your faith virtue and to virtue knowledge so he says look I'm giving you the promises whereby you can succeed I'm giving you the basics and that what you need to succeed but you need to put in all diligence and add to your faith don't think that virtue and knowledge and temperance and brotherly kindness and all these other virtues are just gonna be added by osmosis it doesn't happen that way don't think that just because you come to church you're just gonna be the right kind of husband the right kind of father the right kind of wife the right time kind of employee it doesn't happen that way you don't have it doesn't happen by osmosis you need to put the diligence in the in the the effort into changing your life and applying those principles that you see in the Word of God look at James chapter 1 and verse 21 wherefore lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness and receive with meekness the engrafted word which is able to save your souls yeah interesting that it calls it or excuse me that it says receive with meekness the engrafted word so the word has already been engrafted within us but even then we still have to receive it and even then we still have to lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness so it's like well I'm saved that was easy I'm done now I'm gonna be holy now I'm gonna be righteous now I'm just not gonna desire to do any of those sins and go party or go do XY and Z you know I'm gonna be just fine and dandy doesn't work that way look what it goes on and say verse 22 but be doers of the word and not hearers only deceiving your own selves so who are you who are you deceiving when you hear the word but you're not doing it you're not deceiving me you're not deceiving your brethren you're deceiving yourself for if any of you hear of the word and not a doer he is like into a man beholden his natural face in a glass for he beholded himself and go with his way and straightway forget it with manner of man he was but who so looketh into the perfect law of Liberty and continue with therein he be not a forgetful here but a doer of the work this man shall be blessed in his deed what is it telling us hey in order for us to live a life that's pleasing unto him it doesn't happen by osmosis we need to be doers of the word okay can someone turn on the AC back there please it's getting kind of warm turn with if you would to Ephesians chapter 5 Ephesians chapter 5 let me go through some of these points here let me just breeze through some some of these points we're talking about Christianity by osmosis some things just don't happen by osmosis it requires our effort fruitful sowing does not happen by osmosis hey you can be placed on the team at our church and look wouldn't you say that we try to optimize our church in such a way and structure it and standardize it in such a way that it makes it makes a conducive you know environment for you to grow as a soul winner we create teams the leaders train you they go over verses with you they take you out every single week they help you with your introductions they help you to answer questions I mean they try the best they can to try to train to be the best one you can be but you know what if you don't put in the effort you're not gonna be fruitful doesn't matter what leader you get well I don't like this leader I'm gonna go with another leader I don't like this team I'm gonna go with another team well you know what if you didn't put in the effort in the first team you're probably not gonna put it in the second one so it's probably nothing the team is part of you he that goeth forth and weepeth bearing precious seed shall doubtless come again with rejoicing bringing his sheaves with him you could be in a sowing church where many people are getting saved like ours and you're not gonna be fruitful yourself if you're not putting in the effort to go out and preach the gospel yourself rewards don't happen by osmosis the Bible says in Romans 8 16 the spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit that we are the children of God and if children then heirs heirs of God so what when we get saved we become heirs of God we inherit eternal life right but then it says in joint heirs with Christ if so be that we suffer with him that we may be also glorified together so the effort needs to be placed into us suffering for Christ's sake suffering for his name's sake serving him winning souls putting in the effort to serve God and then we can earn those rewards those rewards don't come by osmosis there's gonna be people in the millennial rain that coming so what I get I went to church I sat down I went to church I'm a Christian I carried a Bible I went to church and they're not gonna be rewarded why because the millennial rain is inherited by osmosis as soon as we get saved we're gonna be in the millennial rain now you know as far as authority is concerned that's that that's by that's not by osmosis you got to put in the effort if you want authority in the millennial rain in order for you to be rewarded at the millennial rain with different authorities and and those those types of things or even a better resurrection it requires effort on your part okay how about this a successful marriage does not happen by osmosis okay and I'm gonna spend my time in these last two points for the remainder of the sermon we all want a successful marriage okay amen you know we want to be able to have a marriage where we enjoy our spouse where we can serve God together and we're on the same page and you know what we win souls together we serve God together we love the Lord we have a house that serves God and it's it's just it's it's the vision of every sincere genuine Christian that's what they would want to have but it doesn't happen by osmosis well I go to a church where they preach about marriage so that should just take care of it right there right well I pay the bills she should love me already well I do this for him so he should already you know care for me and love me and so it should just happen no it has to happen on purpose in order for us to have a successful marriage a considerable amount of effort has to be put into that it doesn't happen by accident it requires the effort of each individual in that marriage to put in the effort necessary in order to be successful in their marriage and when we say successful what are we talking about like making lots of money and having all kinds of toys no successful means this she references him and he loves her and they both are fulfilling each other's needs emotional needs physical needs financial needs I mean he's fulfilling his her financial needs you understand so they're both basically fulfilling their god-given roles for each other and they're on the same page and look folks a successful marriage can be summed up in this on this point right here they're both on the same page and that page is Christ we're not talking about the same page about backsliding it's like are you done with this church yup me too right let's get out of here like are you done serving now I'm done I let's get out let's go live a worldly life you know obviously that's not what I refer to I'm referring to the fact that you're both serving God together okay and look when I talk about a perfect marriage we're not talking about a marriage where you guys discuss things loudly or as or as you know people like the arguing or something you know we're talking about a successful marriage that even when you argue you're able to apologize and humble yourselves before one another and say hey I'm sorry I was a jerk you know and I messed up and and will you please forgive me I forgive you well thank you you know and you can move on that's a successful marriage or how about this a successful marriage is when a wife follows her husband I know that's like taboo in 2020 but you know what the Bible is timeless folks and this is what the Word of God teaches that the that the man is the head of the household he's the head of the household and if you're saying he's not the head of the household then you also have to say that Christ is not the head of the church because that's what he compares it to look what it says in verse 21 submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God wives this is the live verse right here amen I'm just kidding submit yourselves into your own husbands own husbands by the way oh you don't know my husband though well that's why there's a comma as unto the Lord yeah but my husband doesn't deserve it yeah but Jesus does so if you have a rotten husband who's just like lazy he's mean to you he's just you know he's not Abraham well you know what first and foremost let me just say this and I'm gonna be a little rough right now but this is reality and this is to teach you young people before you get married make sure you marry right I'm not preaching against those who have already made the mistake you know first and foremost you married him or you married her so before you start complaining about your spouse and how much you don't like your spouse and they're so this and okay but you chose him you chose her you said I want to marry this individual be with them for the rest of my life so before you start bad-mouthing your spouse just remember you chose them you chose her so when that happens and undoubtedly sometimes it does and this is what you do wives you submit yourselves unto your husband as unto the Lord you think oh he doesn't deserve it but you know what the Lord does and therefore I'm gonna love my husband submit to his needs to what he tells me to do obviously not overstepping the boundaries of doing something sinful we're talking about just basic things submit yourselves unto him as unto the Lord and you know what the Bible says that God will recompense you for that that's successful if you could get your wife to submit to you without you forcing her to submit woman Ephesians 5 verse 23 for the husband is the head of the wife there you go even as Christ is the head of the church and he is the Savior of the body therefore as the church is subject unto Christ so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything all right now for the husbands verse 25 husbands love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for how much should I love my wife well the Bible says as Christ loved the church and let's just be honest none of us have ever loved our wives as Christ loved the church because that's an exceeding love and you know what kind of love it is well think about this there's no perfect church out there and there's churches including ours where we fall short of God's standard of perfection you know what God still loves us in spite of our flaws in spite of our shortcomings and when we fail him when we stumble or we don't do things the way he wants us to he gives us a second chance and when we come to him and ask him to forgive us and we repent you know what God does he forgives us so what's that a picture of well when your wife falls short of your standard of perfection you forgive her for that right you know blow up in her face and and you know be bitter against her that's what the Bible literally says be not bitter against your wives love her forgive her care for her nourish her you know she is the weaker vessel and so they're gonna make emotional mistakes or have emotional times in their life where they're just off-kilter and you know what you can't say hey don't don't act like that don't do that around okay you're not allowed to do that or hey maybe they might say something to you that's maybe semi disrespectful and you know if they come to you and say I'm really sorry for doing that no sales I don't know you said I was fat I thought you'd like my chunkiness you know it's just like you just get offended what you need to do is just say this I forgive you and I love you and let's just move on that's what Jesus does to us but look it all starts I mean there's a reason why God addressed the women first wives submit yourselves unto your husbands and then men love your wives even as Christ also loved the church this is a successful marriage right here when you both can fulfill your god-given roles and look a lot of reasons why women sometimes don't want to submit to their husbands because they think they know more than him well I know better than him he's not very wise he doesn't he's gonna make a mistake he's gonna be okay then let him make the mistake and let God deal with him let me say this if you usurp his authority to do something a better way God will chastise your marriage because of that but you know what God will often do when when the man makes a mistake he will still bless your marriage because of it because of the fact that you submitted unto his will we're not again we're not talking about sinful things I'm a basic things that happen in life well you know my husband wanted to do this and and go here or do this and that and and he made a huge mistake yeah but you know what as long as you submit to him God can bless your life God cannot bless your life if you usurp your husband's authority even if you're right stepping on toes tonight it says verse 26 that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word the him I presented to himself a glorious church not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing but that it should be holy and without blemish so I meant to love their wives as their own bodies he that loveth his wife loveth himself so think about this he said do I love my wife well I mean do you love yourself you feed yourself you clothe yourself you need to treat your wife the way you would treat yourself the way you pamper yourself is how you ought to pamper your wife right so what's the lesson there hey mayor a good marriage doesn't happen by osmosis it requires the effort of both parties to put into considerable effort in order to have a successful marriage okay go to go to Proverbs chapter 13 if you would promise up to 13 I will say this is that you know men if you have a propensity to be not very strong in your leadership and your wife has the tendency to be maybe a little more stronger than area then I would strongly recommend for the man to man up a little more and to learn leadership you can't say well you know my parents were like this though my dad was like this and that's why I'm like this okay then change yeah you got that by osmosis I get it but change that throw yourself into a different jar which is the Bible I make a pickle out of yourself and stop acting like a cucumber you know you need to be different because as husbands we don't have we have the responsibility to be strong leaders for our wives and you know you might have a wife who's a little strong-willed and there's nothing wrong with that there's nothing wrong with having a wife who strong-willed as long as you're a little stronger let me say well you know I'm just a little shy okay then she's gonna walk all over you for the rest of your life you're not gonna be able to make the proper decisions godly decisions to do what God wants you to do what God wants your family to do because your wife walks all over you you need a man up learn some leadership skills and look this doesn't mean be mean to your wife you need to listen to me you need to submit to me no you need to be a good leader a leader that inspires her to follow you right you don't want to force someone to follow you you want people to be inspired and want to follow okay and here's my last point we're talking about osmosis Christianity by osmosis some things happen without our effort as soon as we get saved we're in the body of Christ we get certain things automatically but other things do not what is the last thing godly children does not happen by osmosis okay well I mean this is a family integrated church though no nurseries no Sunday school class therefore we should be able to produce great children just letting them run amok in the church wrong wrong wrong wrong wrong it's a fallacy why I go to a family integrated church therefore my children will automatically love the Lord be obedient be godly this is wrong because child rearing does not happen by osmosis okay let me read to you from Deuteronomy 6 verse 5 it says thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart with all thy soul with all thy might and these words which I commanded this day shall be in thine heart and thou shalt teach them diligently into thy children and shall talk of them when thou sittest in thine house and when thou walkest by the way and when thou lies down and when thou risest up now I'm not speaking from experience because I have little ones still so where am I speaking from what I'm speaking from first and foremost the knowledge of God's Word but I'm also speaking from the example of men who did raise godly children and succeeded at doing that because they follow these specific principles and therefore they produce godly children and they'll tell you it wasn't by accident it wasn't by osmosis a considerable amount of effort needs to be placed into training children in order for them to be godly okay it will not happen by accident now if I were to break down what are the three major things that are needed to raise godly children obviously there's many in the Bible right but if we're if I were to categorize them into three categories I would say this number one you need to love your children and by loving your children I mean showing them affection attention and time right that's loving your children you know being genuine around them loving them with affection attention and time number two is being a good example so in order for us to raise godly children we need to love them but we also need to exemplify the type of adults that we want them to be right we need to be what we want to produce because everything brings forth after its own kind and here's number three let me just say this if this is not implemented doesn't matter how much you do the first and the second you will not produce godly children what is it discipline disciplining your children is necessary in order to produce godly children now what do I mean by that well obviously I mean structure a disciplined household but more than that I mean chastisement I mean physically punishing your children and chastising them when they do wrong right and look you could love your children all you want and do all those things and exemplify and all this but if you do not discipline your children you will not produce godly children and I need to talk to the church tonight about this okay and we're gonna we're gonna get personal tonight okay listen to me folks I love our church and I love our church family but you have to understand something you me we need to make sure we are on top of disciplining our children thank God for a family integrated church thank God for all the children we have in our church and everything and look I'm what I'm not saying is this our children need to be perfect that's not true I don't require that God doesn't require that you shouldn't require that because there are no such thing as perfect anything but let me say this foolishness is bound in the heart of a child is it not you can turn off the AC brother brother Glenn his French is about to get frostbite right now endure we need to chastise our children folks and look just because you're in a church that teaches you how to raise your children and it's family integrated doesn't mean you're gonna produce children by osmosis that love the Lord you need to make sure you discipline your children and you know what we don't need in our church is this philosophy that oh well I'll just I'll negotiate with them oh I'll give them a timeout I'll make them apologize to that individual or whatever that doesn't work and look we can prove this scripturally look at Proverbs 13 verse 4 he that spareth is rod hated his son so look if you say well I love my son I love my daughter hold on a second but you're not disciplining them then according to the Bible you actually hate them I mean is God lying he hated his son but he that loveth him chasteneth him be times the Bible says look at the Proverbs 19 Proverbs chapter 19 Proverbs chapter 19 verse 18 says chasing thy son while there is hope and let not thy soul spare for his crying so what is the Bible telling us there's gonna come a time when there's no longer hope for your child when they grow up if you don't chastise them so if you don't chastise your children while they're young there's gonna come a point where they reach a certain age where they start giving you that look and it's basically like too late you can no longer chastise them they either leave your home they become just a complete rebel and you know what the Bible says chastise him or her while there is hope oh but you know it just kills me when they cry let not thy soul spare for his crying let not thy soul spare for his crying this doesn't mean be unmerciful it means discipline them and have strong character and the strong leadership and the love for your child to chastise them and say look this is gonna actually hurt me more than it hurts you it's not pleasant to spank your children we love our kids it's not pleasant at all but you know what if we don't want them to be to grow up to be these wicked people like you see on the streets these wicked individuals who don't respect authority they disrespect their elders they're they're walking around with their skinny jeans and their faggoty clothing or the women who look like hoochie mamas if you don't want to produce that then take care of it now the prison system is filled with people children who were not spanked when there were kids folks you know why I'm not involved in gangs you know why I'm not some sort of drug abuser you know why I'm not addicted to coke or heroin and involved in all kinds of manner of evil because my mom whooped my behind that's why consistently she did more than just whooped my behind she whooped me all over the place and look that's not good obviously you the Bible specifically you know God specifically has made an area for a child to be spanked in that's the rear end you know we don't abuse your children don't smack them across the mouth or do all that that's that's bad that's wicked okay you need to be able to control yourself but look you know what with my mom I'm glad she did all that it saved me from a world of hurt and it caused me to fear her and you know what it caused me to fear God and that's why I got saved look what it says in Proverbs 23 go to Proverbs 23 Proverbs chapter 23 verse 13 it says withhold not correction from the child for if thou beatest him with the rod he shall not die oh you're gonna damage the child not if you do it in the behind thou shalt beat him with the rod and look what it says and shall deliver his soul from hell now this isn't saying beat the hell out of your kids it's just saying that you kind of do kind of beat the hell out of them in other words they grow up recognizing the actions have consequences chastising children teaches them the actions have consequences when they grow up and they get they're given the gospel they're told about the wages of sin they're like I know this because I'm always get spanked when I did wrong right and so it makes the heart fertile to receive salvation when they're older okay God doesn't expect perfect children because foolishness is bound in the heart of a child but let me say this he expects parents to restrain their children who behave foolishly and let me just say this folks look there's children in our church that act very malicious towards other children and you know what it's not their fault let me just say this it's your fault parents and you need to deal with that and let me say this I'm tired of making these announcements every single Sunday every single Thursday telling you to control your kids and it's gonna get to a point folks where it's gonna happen again and you know what I'm gonna do I'm just gonna openly rebuke you before the entire church okay because there's it's been happening multiple times when there's children who are literally malicious towards other children the child or the mom goes to that parent and says hey your child did this and they're like oh apologize or come over here that's not the way to deal with it folks and look if my son does something malicious towards your child come tell my wife or come tell me and we'll deal with it immediately and when I say deal with that I'm saying he's getting a spank and he knows he's getting a spank it's not because I hate him it's not because I'm trying to overcompensate it's because of the fact that the Bible commands it I don't want my son to grow up to be some malicious person and he needs to learn that being behaving maliciously requires discipline being malicious requires a parent to teach them don't behave that way you're getting a spank I know it's getting a little serious tonight but I need to talk about this let me say this if it happens again listen up parents if it happens again I'm not gonna preach about it again I'm just gonna openly rebuke you in front of the whole church because we got we have a lot of like fellowship before and after and look and if you have the type of children that's just like they just can't hang you know they can't handle all the fellowship they just are too crazy you know what it is it's time to go home and put them to bed okay if they can't handle it if they if they're doing WWE style ECW and throwing chairs and hitting children it's time to go home and spank them don't get quiet on me now folks and I'm not saying this from a heart that just I'm not I'm not angry towards you I'm not upset at the church family but I'm trying to correct this before it gets out of hand because I've had multiple parents come to me and say they're not doing anything about this so look this is what you need to do parents who have your children beam who have other children that are being malicious towards them you either need to go tell the dad by the way go tell the father and let me say this if my wife is not doing anything about chastising my son then come to me I will do something about it no I'll do something about myself about my wife obviously that's not gonna happen but what I'm saying is this at the end of the day we're the ones responsible here right so our family is a reflection of who we are now look I'm not saying that you're as malicious as your kids but I'm saying is this is that if your children are not being disciplined you're not correcting it multiple parents are saying you're not dealing with this and look we all know as parents that it's not the kids fault it's not their fault they're behaving in a manner in which their parents have allowed them to behave folks look when you go to the grocery store and there's some kid throwing himself on the floor because he wants a candy bar he's just like that's not the kids fault when I go to the store and I see that you know why I look at the parent oh my dude you're wicked you must hate your child to let him to get to that point folks I remember being a little kid and if I ever even like misbehaved in public my mom would just kind of give me the pinch and it's called a reminder you know what we knew I'm stopping right there because the next one's not gonna be a pinch once we get in that car I'm done and I remember being a little kid seeing kids do that I'm like wow that kid's not getting spanked if I did that my mom would kill me I'd be dead or if I did that that'll be the last time I ever did that parents you need to discipline and chastise your children and let me just give you some practical advice here okay because look my son is gonna sock your son too okay and when that happens come to me my wife and we'll take care of it but look this is what I don't want want my wife to do my son comes and just drop-kick some other kid and the parent is evidently upset because my son just just did a sidekick and knock your kid down and then the parent comes to you concern because of the fact that my son did this and she comes he or she comes to my wife and says hey your son did this and my wife just says hey don't do that that's not correct in the issue or hey come over here and just stand over here that's not correct in the issue I'm sorry we have to get this elementary but I have to get this elementary this is what you do there's a podcast room right there you're free to use it that's that's our woodshed and you chastise the child and let me just say this US parents will lose the respect of your brothers and sisters in Christ if you're not disciplining your children you will lose credibility you will lose the respect and in fact let me just say this people will become bitter towards you because you're not correcting the problem you do not want that to happen and I'm hoping that it doesn't happen again now again I'm not saying I'm the kids are gonna fight they're gonna do things and you know mess everything up and throw chairs at each other and all these things when I'm that's not the problem the problem is this you doing something about it when it happens and don't just turn a blind eye to it or look I was even told that there's times when the child would do something and the parent is just staring at him the whole time as they're doing it folks that's wrong do something about it okay sorry I gotta get awkward but I mean gotta do what I got to do for your sake too for my sake for your sake and let me just say I have no ill will towards any parent in our church I love every single individual in this church I love your children I want you guys to succeed but I will bring down the hammer publicly if it ever comes up again in love Proverbs 17 25 says a foolish son is a grief to his father and bitterness to him that bear him go to 1st Samuel chapter 3 and that's we'll finish here 1st Samuel chapter 3 your children are not gonna be good by osmosis okay now look I think I said this the other day you know the kids were like in the in the mother and you got WWF all over you know everyone's just throwing things around and my son was there and look I'm not we should obviously be merciful to our kids and not just flip out on them for every little thing that they do they obviously need warning sometimes they just don't know okay and if something is just being kids you understand but my son he was doing something and there's a lot of kids in there and they're all doing something and I'm not gonna correct your kids okay so what I did is I vicariously corrected your kids through my son and I was just like rebuking my son and obviously he's afraid because he knows he's about to get a spank but then all the other kids are like they're like helping put this stuff back and everything but you know that could only go so far you need to do something about it okay and let me say this parents let me just tell the whole thing okay don't let your children disrespect you in public like this what I mean by that is like hey if you have a child like if my son you know let's give an example let's say my son I tell him to do something he's just like that's I mean do it need I say more do I neither use my mom as an example when they give the evil eye and look the Bible specifically tells us in Proverbs 30 verse 11 there is a generation that cursed their father and doth not bless their mother there is a generation that are pure in their own eyes and yet is not washed from their filthiness there is a generation oh how lofty are their eyes and their eyelids are lifted there is a generation whose teeth are as swords and their jaw teeth as knives to devour the poor from off the earth and needy from among men verse number 17 the eye that mocketh at his father and despise it to obey his mother the ravens of the valley shall pick it out and the young eagle shall eat it so this it was that really happened I don't want to find out I'm just gonna believe it you should not have children who mock you right you should not have children who openly mock you or another adult in our church right if a child ever mocks and I'll give you an example my son was in the office with me and I don't know if Marcos or someone I don't remember who it was he imitated one of the guys in there and the guys thought it was funny not dad he got a whooping and we told them we do not mock adults we do not mock adults that's disrespectful you need to teach your children not to mock adults and especially not mock you to give you the evil eye what is that come on folks let's wake up when the children begin to mock their father and despise to obey their mother that's a huge problem and it needs to be taken care of swiftly do it be times early in life so they don't become a grief to you later on and look if they're already becoming a grief now the worst is yet to come look at first Samuel chapter 3 in verse 10 and the Lord came and stood and called as at other times Samuel Samuel then Samuel answers speak for thy servant heareth so what's going on here God is speaking to Samuel Samuel is about to be a prophet of the Lord a judge of Israel he's about to replace Eli okay and God is coming to Samuel to explain to Samuel the judgment that he's gonna bring upon Eli which is another prophet by the way I mean Sam is a young man at this time so it kind of shows you that God like is revealing this stuff to you like a young child and the Lord said to Samuel behold I would do a thing in Israel I which both the ears of everyone that heareth it shall tingle you ever hear something so bad it's like that's what he's saying in that day I will perform against Eli all things which I have spoken concerning his house when I begin I will also make an end for I have told him that I would judge his house forever for the iniquity which he knoweth so is this something that Eli was ignorant of I was says that he knew about this look what it says because his sons made themselves vile and he restrained them not he said you know I'm I'm really mad at Eli is because his sons made themselves vile and he didn't discipline them he didn't restrain them he didn't stop them and look Eli's sons were sons of Belial they're already adults there are reprobates but that started somewhere that started when there were children and he did not restrain them when there were children and therefore I have sworn into sworn into the house of Eli that the iniquity of Eli's house shall not be purged with sacrifice nor offering forever now obviously this is an extreme case but let me say this we all need to restrain our children now look please don't go overboard on this too don't take my commandment or my preaching and just completely go over the top and then like the rest of the night tonight you're just smacking your children all over the place and spanking them and just trying to overcompensate I don't expect that from you God doesn't expect that for me and look if you overcompensate is just showing you you're not doing it enough at home okay and don't think that your children are not gonna misbehave after church tonight because they are my kids are your kids are it's part of the training that when they do it we restrain them we restrain them we spank them we discipline them because we love them okay but let me just finish on this I'm done I'm closing the Bible and putting my notes in here we're done let me just say this is that if it happens again I will bring the hammer down publicly and I'm not referring from the pulpit I'm talking about I will openly rebuke you before the church in an open setting because you're not taking care of it and this doesn't mean I'm angry you doesn't mean I'm upset at you doesn't mean that I hate you it doesn't mean I have you know ill ill will towards you it means that as the as the bishop of this church as the overseer of this church I need to make sure that I take care of this because of the fact that now it's it's commonly reported amongst various people that this is taking place take care of it because it doesn't happen by osmosis amen inspire heads on our board of prayer father we thank you so much for your word for the engrafted word help us to continue to receive it and I pray that all of us receive the teaching that we heard tonight and not just think that this is for someone else may we all take heed to the instructions tonight Lord and God we all fall short I know I fall short as a parent I fall short as a husband and I make mistakes Lord and but Lord I want to be able to have a track record where I am loving my children and spending time with them and training them loving them chastising them when needed and obviously the chastisement is is doesn't play a major role but it played it does play an important aspect of the of the training of a child when you do other things with them but one of the most important things is that we need to chastise them help us not to help us to reject this fallacy that some of these things just happen by osmosis we need to recognize that we need to put in the effort in order to make these changes in our lives we love you so much Lord and we thank you pray these things in Jesus name amen please turn to your song books to song number 425