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not and if you be pleased to dwell with her let her not leave him for the

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unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife and the unbelieving wife is

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sanctified by the husband elsewhere your children unclean but now they are holy

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but if the unbelieving depart let her depart a brother or sister is not under

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bondage in such cases but God hath called us to peace for what knowest thou

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oh wife whether thou shalt save thy husband or how knowest thou oh man

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whether thou shalt save thy wife but as God hath distributed to every man as

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the Lord hath called everyone so let him walk and so ordain I and all the

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churches is there any man being called being uncircumcised let him not become

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uncircumcised is any called an uncircumcision let him not be

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circumcised circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing but the

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keeping of the commandments of God let every man abide and the same calling

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wherein he was called art thou called being a servant care not for it but if

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thou mayest be made free use it rather for he that is called in the Lord being

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a servant is the Lord's free man likewise also he that is called being

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free is Christ's servant you are bought with the price be not ye the servants of

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men brother and let every man wherein he is called therein abide with God now

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concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord yet I give my judgment as

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one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful I suppose therefore

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that this is good for the present distress I say that it is good for a man

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so to be art thou bound unto a wife seek not to be loosed art thou loosed

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from a wife seek not a wife but and if thou marry thou hast not sinned and if

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a virgin Mary she hath not sinned nevertheless such shall have trouble in

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the flesh but I spare you but this I say brethren the time is short it remaineth

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that both they that have wives be as though they had none and they that weep

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as though they wept not and they that rejoices though they rejoice not and

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they that buy as though they possess not and they that use this world as not

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abusing it for the fashion of this world passeth away by what have you without

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carefulness he that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord

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how he may please the Lord but he that is married care for the things that are

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of this world how he may please his wife there is difference also between a wife

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and a virgin the unmarried woman cares for the things of the Lord that she may

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be holy both in body and in spirit but she that is married care for the things

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of the world how she may please her husband and this I speak for your own

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prophet not that I may cast a snare upon you but for that which is comely and

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that you may attend upon the Lord without distraction but if any men think

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that he behaved himself uncomely toward his virgin if she passed the flaw of her

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age and need so require let him do what he will he senteth not let them marry

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nevertheless he that standeth steadfast in his heart having no necessity but

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hath power over his own will and has so decreed in his heart that he will keep

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his virgin do with well so then he that giveth her in marriage do with well but

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he that giveth her not in marriage do with better the wife is bound by the law

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as long as her husband liveth but if her husband be dead she is at liberty to be

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married to whom she will only in the Lord but she's happier if she so abide

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after my judgment and I think also that I have the Spirit of God let's pray do

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look God just thank you for this time we have tonight Lord to hear the

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Lord we pray that you're with us in the congregation that we may take this

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message Lord and apply to our hearts Lord and please bless pastor as he

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preaches your word unto us Lord give him boldness that he may preach your word to

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us with clarity Lord we pray this all in Jesus name amen

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amen we're in first Corinthians chapter 7 you have to excuse me I'm starting to

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lose my voice preaching all week and so if I start cracking please don't make

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fun of me all right first Corinthians chapter 7 the time I'm

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serving this evening is how to marry how to marry I want to preach on the

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subject of marriage this evening and I want to read through the pertinent

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scriptures dealing with the subject of Mary and specifically who to marry who

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not to marry and go into some principles on dating as well and so that's what

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we're gonna talk about this evening let's talk about who believers are

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allowed to marry the Bible is pretty explicit regarding who the Lord would

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command for believers to marry it says in first Corinthians 7 and verse 39 the

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wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth but if her husband be

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dead she is at liberty to be married to whom she will and I want you to notice

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this only in the Lord and that phrase there only in the Lord literally means

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someone who is saved okay just another way of saying someone who is a believer

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someone who is saved and it's very important for us to be specific what that

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means right like it's not saying anybody who calls himself a Christian it's

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referring to those who have believed on the Lord Jesus Christ those who have

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accepted Christ by faith and it's important to clarify that because today

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people just kind of take the blanket statement oh I'm a Christian

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automatically think this person is a believer but that's not necessarily the

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case now those of us who evangelize on a regular basis know that's a fact

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because we go knocking on doors we talk to people who claim to be believers but

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they're actually not you say what do you have to do to be saying they're like oh

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you got to repent of your sins oh you got to keep God's commandments oh it's

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by baptism so they can claim that they're Christian they can claim that

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they're a believer but according to the biblical standard they're not okay a

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believer according to the Bible is someone who's placed their faith

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exclusively upon the Lord Jesus Christ because here's the thing folks you know

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this this this this label Christian can kind of go across the board in

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mainstream Christianity even extending as far into Mormonism believe it or not

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we're not saying the Mormons are Christian I'm just saying when people

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think about Christianity in general they painted with a broad brush it often

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includes Catholics Orthodox Mormons anybody who names the name of Christ and

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automatically people think oh that's a believer that is a Christian because

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they believe in the God of the Bible whereas the biblical standard is someone

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who's in the Lord is referring to someone who's actually saved okay and

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I'll get it more into that in just a bit here in first Corinthians chapter 7 the

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Apostle Paul is explaining that the only way a person can marry someone else

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other than their spouse is if their spouse is dead okay this is what it

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means when it says that they're loose from the law of their husband referring

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to the fact that the only way they can get out of a marriage is not through

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divorce not by leaving their spouse it's literally if their spouse dies and this

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isn't permission to murder your spouse either right this is just simply saying

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in order for them to be loose from that the spouse has to die and now the

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husband and or wife has the permission to marry another person with this

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stipulation they have to be in the Lord and so the first thing we see here is

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that believers should only marry other believers other Christians not Muslims

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not you know Hindus not Buddhist not Jehovah's Witnesses not Catholics not

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Orthodox those who are actually saved okay that is like the the standard there

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that they have to be saved now go with me if you would go to Genesis chapter 6

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if you would Genesis chapter 6 we're gonna jump all over the place and so

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make sure you have your Bibles open God explicitly prohibits believers from

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marrying unbelievers in both Old and New Testament we actually see this of course

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we saw it in first Corinthians chapter 7 but the Bible also says in second

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Corinthians you're going to Genesis chapter 6 second Corinthians chapter 6

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verse 14 says

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now obviously in its literal context it's referring to the fact that we should not

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labor with those who are unbelievers we shouldn't have this ecumenical outlook on

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Christianity and just associate with people just because they say they're

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we need to make sure they have the right doctrine that they have the right beliefs

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about salvation but it's definitely applicable to marriage why because we

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saw in first Corinthians chapter 7 that the people the only people were allowed

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to marry are those who are in the Lord therefore second Corinthians chapter 6

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would apply and it's saying here that we should not be unequally yoked with

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unbelievers and he says that these two should not have fellowship one with

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another there's no communion why because we have different gods have

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different beliefs and again this is something we see in the New Testament but

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it's very explicitly mentioned in the old now look at Genesis chapter 6 if you

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would Genesis chapter 6 in Genesis chapter 4 and Genesis chapter 5 you

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actually have a listing of the lineages of both Seth and Cain of course Cain is

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in chapter 4 you have Seth in chapter 5 and this is made to give us a

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distinction between believers and non-believers we obviously know that Cain

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was not a believer he was not saved he's actually listed as being a false

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prophet in the New Testament the book of Jude but you know we see in Genesis

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chapter 4 that it gives Cain's lineage and these are people who are just kind

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of involved in worldly achievements worldly successes they're not

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necessarily believers and in fact the chapter doesn't even mention God okay

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when dealing with the lineage of Cain now when we get into the lineage of Seth

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in chapter 5 we actually find out that these are people who are believers right

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so the chapters gives us a division a distinction between believers and

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non-believers exactly how God wants it to be he wants them to be separate one

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from another right and we see this throughout the Bible God wanted the

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Israelites to be separate from the Egyptians he separated the light from

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the darkness we see this pattern carried over into chapter 4 and chapter 5 well

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look at chapter 6 in verse number 1 it says in it came to pass when men began

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to multiply on the face of the earth and daughters were born unto them that

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the sons of God saw the daughters of men that they were fair and they took them

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wives of all which they chose so this is not referring to this Jewish fable known

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as these 450 foot giants they were created by you know these angelic beings

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coming into the daughters of men that is a Jewish fable that comes from the book

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of Enoch that is not scripture sons of God are referring to believers okay and

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that could be proven up and down sideways left to right in the Word of

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God the Bible tells us in John 1 12 but as many as received him to them give you

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power to become the sons of God even unto them that believe on his name first

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John chapter 3 says behold what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us

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that we should be called the sons of God right the Bible says in Hebrews chapter

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1 when talking about the Lord Jesus Christ he says unto which of the angels

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said he had any time thou are my son this day have I begotten thee the point

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that I'm making here is that sons of God in the Bible are referring to believers

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now that actually fits the context of Genesis chapter 6 because we just got

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finished going over the lineage of Seth that represents believers previous to

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that the lineage of Cain that does not represent believers so now in Genesis

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chapter 6 we actually have an amalgamation of the two we have an

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unholy union of the two the sons of God coming into the daughters of men this is

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describing the fact that you have believers marrying non-believers okay he

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says that the sons of God saw the daughters of men that they were fair and

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they took them wise of all which they chose and the Lord said my spirit shall

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not always strive with man for that he is also flesh yet as they shall be a

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hundred and twenty years there were giants in the earth in those days now

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this alone destroys this belief that these 450 foot giants were a byproduct of

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this unholy union between angels and women why because it places giants

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existing before that unholy union took place he says there were giants in the

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earth in those days also after that when the sons of God came into the daughters

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of men and they bear children to them the same became mighty men which were

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of old men of renown now the main thrust of the chapter of this particular

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passage is the fact that God is essentially describing the fact that now

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you have a crossing over of faiths right somewhat of an interfaith marriages

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between those who are believers and those who are non-believers and what is

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the result of that does the world become better because of it no it actually

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becomes more wicked why because at the end of the day when believers marry

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non-believers often the non-believers end up influencing the believers they end

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up corrupting things they end up kind of destroying things and so it's important

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for us to realize that even from the beginning God wanted his people to marry

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only believers so at its core the command is rooted in a biblical principle

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God's people are to be separated from the world right not just with friendships

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not just with the people that we closely associate with but yes even in marriage

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as well turn with me if you would go to Ruth if you would Ruth chapter 1

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Ruth chapter number 1 now let me also clarify something here that is a major

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misconception today especially on the internet and that is that there is zero

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prohibition regarding marrying other ethnicities let me repeat that again

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there is zero prohibition in the Bible regarding marrying other ethnicities

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okay like oh no I'm only gonna stick to white people you know Bob says we're

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wrong no it doesn't say that okay now if that's your preference then you know

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have at it right and but make sure you teach it as a preference not as a

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conviction because it's not a conviction in the Bible and we're gonna go over

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some examples here God is not against interracial marriages even though you may

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be you're like I'll never date a black person well you know what that's your

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preference and you know if that's what you want to do if that's what you don't

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want to do that's up to you but you just can't abuse the Bible and say that

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that's what the Bible teaches okay you know Mexicans can marry Asians white

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people can marry black people I'm not saying they will I'm just saying that

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they can Indians can marry Russians not that Russians would but it's a thing

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it's it's it's allowed in the Bible amen none of it is condemned in scripture

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and so you know you have these bozos online to try to say that the Bible

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teaches no interracial marriages God is against that but we're actually gonna

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look through the pertinent scriptures regarding this and show and demonstrate

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that that's not the case okay the Bible gives us clear examples of godly marriages

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across ethnic lines now let's look at the most well let me just show you one

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of the most famous ones and that's Moses okay Moses married an Ethiopian woman

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I was says in number chapter 12 verse 1 and Miriam and Aaron spake against Moses

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because of the Ethiopian woman whom he had married for he had married an

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Ethiopian woman so when I'm not gonna read through the entire chapter but

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obviously God ends up chastising Miriam with leprosy for speaking out against

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her brother and criticizing him for taking on an Ethiopian woman and I'm

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assuming you know she's black because it says Ethiopian there right and so you

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know he's in the black chicks or whatever and he gets this girl Aaron and

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Miriam are not into that they're criticizing him for it and God ends up

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smiting Miriam with leprosy because of it demonstrating that God is not against

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that Moses who is the major man of God of the Old Testament participated in

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interracial marriages now noted he was also you know polygamist or whatever and

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God does condemn that but we have an example here of him not being against

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interracial marriages look at Ruth chapter 1 Ruth who is a Moabitish woman

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married into Israel okay and here's the thing folks is that in the Bible God

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forbade the children of Israel marrying into these foreign nations and we're

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gonna look at that in just a bit but he forbade them marrying into the

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Canaanites and the Ammonites and even the Moabites not because of their

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ethnicity but because of their belief system Ruth chapter 1 verse 3 says in a

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limelight Naomi's husband died and she was left in her two sons and they took

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them wives of the women of Moab and the name of the one was Orpah and the name

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of the other was Ruth and they dwelled there about ten years skip down to verse

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15 so we have a clear example here of the children of Israel marrying some

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people who were of Moab even though the Bible clearly says not to they're not in

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any violation here look what it says in verse 15 and she said behold thy sister

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in law has gone back unto her people and unto her gods return thou after thy

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sister in law and Ruth said and treat me not to leave thee or to return from

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following after thee for withered out go with I will go whether that lodges

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I will lodge and here's the kicker thy people shall be my people and thy God my

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God what is it showing us it's showing us that Ruth converted to the religion

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of the Old Testament as known about the fact that she's claiming the God of the

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Bible as being her God okay go to chapter 4 if you would chapter 4 chapter 4 so

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Ruth is a Moabite a woman and of course we know that her husband ends up dying

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she returns with her mother-in-law back to Israel and then look what it says in

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verse 13 so Boaz took Ruth and she was his wife and when he went in unto her

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the Lord gave her conception and she bear a son and obviously we know that

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Ruth became part of the lineage of Jesus Christ these are very strong proofs that

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God is not against interracial marriages but he is definitely against interfaith

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marriages okay look at Joshua chapter 2 go to Joshua chapter 2 if you would so

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we have the example of Moses marrying an Ethiopian woman we have an example of

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Ruth marrying into Israel despite the fact that the Old Testament clearly

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forbade them to marry the Moabites because of their beliefs look at Joshua

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chapter 2 we have Rahab the harlots by the way from Jericho who joined herself

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to Israel through faith now we don't we don't have a specific verse that says

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who she married and that and whatnot but we know that that's the case because she

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was within the lineage of Jesus Christ as well right it says in verse 10 for

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we have heard how the Lord dried up the water of the Red Sea for you when he

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came out of Egypt this is this is Rahab speaking and what you did into the two

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kings of the Amorites that were on the other side Jordan, Sihon, and Og whom he

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utterly destroyed and as soon as we heard these things our hearts did melt

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neither did there remain any more courage in any man because of you for

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the Lord your God he is God in heaven above and in earth beneath and I do

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believe that this statement here is indicating that she's adopting the God

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of the Bible as being her God and in Matthew chapter 1 verse number 5 we have

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Rahab being listed within the genealogy of Jesus Christ okay so the issue is

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not ethnicity it is faith right where are you know who what is it that these

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four nations believe in what is it that these ethnic groups who do they worship

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if it's not the God of the Bible it doesn't matter you know then you can't

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marry them because the Bible clearly says that it's only supposed to be

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believers now why is that why is it that God forbade marrying someone who

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worships a different God and someone who doesn't believe in the Bible why is that

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well because God knows that a spouse has the power to influence the spouse's

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heart right go to Exodus chapter 34 Exodus chapter 34 he doesn't want

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believers to be led away from him okay and we see this we're gonna look at a

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couple of examples of this and of course the most explicit devastating example is

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Solomon but look at Exodus 34 in verse 12 says take heed to thyself

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lest thou make a covenant with the inhabitants of the land with the dog

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lest they be for a snare in the midst of thee but ye shall destroy their

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altars break their images and cut down their groves for thou shalt worship no

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other God for the Lord whose name is jealous is a jealous God lest thou make

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a covenant with the inhabitants of the land and they go a-whoring after their

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gods and do sacrifice unto their gods and one call thee and thou eat of his

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sacrifice and thou take of their daughters unto thy sons and their

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daughters go whoring after their gods and make thy sons go whoring after

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their gods we have a pretty explicit passage here that says hey I don't want

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your children marrying the heathen because the heathen don't believe in the

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God of the Bible and here's the problem is that if you end up marrying into

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these different ethnic groups that have different beliefs these strangers these

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foreigners then they're gonna become spiritual whores okay and what does that

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mean it means that they are gonna basically add the God of the Bible to

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all these other false gods and it's gonna incur the wrath of God upon them

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go to Deuteronomy chapter 7 Deuteronomy chapter 7 if you would now what is what

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is the equivalent today to this well it would be like a Christian marrying a

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Buddhist right it'll be like a Christian marrying a Hindu and you know this

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creates a plethora of problems in marriage because of the fact that oh

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yeah you know you thought she was really pretty then she was really cute then

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you're so physically attracted to her but you know that stuff wears off and

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when you want to get serious about the things of God when you actually want to

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read the Bible and go to church and have a godly marriage you're gonna have a

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major roadblock called false religion to overcome and you know what this happens

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time and time again because people don't read the Bible they don't have the

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convictions of the Bible to tell us don't marry someone who does not have

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the God of the Bible as their God right and what ends up happening is they have

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major conflict and this not only applies to these pagan type religions like

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Hinduism and Buddhism but even within the canopy of Christianity right where

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you have Christians who are believers marrying Orthodox people or something

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and it's like well you know worship the same God you know they believe in Jesus

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Christ no they don't and let me explain to you what it means to believe in

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Jesus Christ because that's a term that people throw around a lot and all of a

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sudden it's just a blanket statement to just say oh we're just Christians to

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believe on Jesus Christ means you place your faith exclusively upon him for

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salvation plus nothing minus nothing yeah faith alone okay well show me in the

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Bible faith alone therefore we conclude that a man is justified by faith without

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the deeds of the law without the diesel the law means that it's by faith alone

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not of works unless any man should boast that's called faith alone not that hard

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when the Bible how about this the Philippian jailer asked this what must

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I do to be saved and the Apostle Paul responded believe on the Lord Jesus

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Christ get baptized keep the sacraments you know take the Eucharist go to church

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no actually he just said believe on the Lord Jesus Christ that demonstrates that

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salvation is exclusively by believing on Jesus Christ and by the way it includes

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believing in one saved always saved and includes it how do we know because it's

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called eternal life what does he turn me means is without end so if eternal life

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is a gift that means you can't merit salvation therefore you can do nothing to

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lose salvation because you did nothing to earn it to begin with that's what the

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Bible teaches are you saying that we could just live however you want and

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nothing will ever happen to you know whom the Lord love if he chastened it

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and scourge it every son whom he received it how about that that's what the

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Bible says no one who believes in one saved always saved believes you could

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just live however you want and nothing will ever happen to you nobody who

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actually believes in one saved always saved actually teaches that okay what we

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teach is that salvation is a gift of God it literally says but to him that worketh

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not but believeth on him to justify at the ungodly his faith is counted for

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righteousness well that's not what the church fathers believe they're dead

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bro sorry church fathers can't come here and defend your doctrine what we have is

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actually the Bible you know and so this is what the Bible teaches so and and

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here's the thing folks like there's people they're Christians that will

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marry into other Christian sex right they'll marry Orthodox Catholics God

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forbid Mormonism you know things of that nature and they'll have major problems

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and marriage thereafter why because they were so general about the requirements

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for salvation about the requirements for being a Christian that they didn't take

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other things into account and then they marry a spouse and the spouse is like I

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don't really believe in the Bible you know I want to go and worship idols and

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bow down before them and believe in purgatory and all this false doctrine and

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then you're just grieved you're like oh man this is my spouse but like we're

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unequally go now by the way that doesn't mean that you could just divorce your

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spouse because the Bible is against divorce God literally said that he hates

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putting away so there you have it you know Jesus Christ forbade getting

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divorced in the New Testament you know and we'll go over in just a bit what

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you're supposed to do if that actually happens if you do marry an unbeliever

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the point that I'm making here is that God has repeatedly stated in the Bible

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specifically in the Old Testament that believers are to marry believers that's

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what's important for you to know what you believe okay know what you believe

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don't be so general about this stuff look at Deuteronomy chapter 7 verse

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number 1 when the Lord thy God shall bring thee into the land whither thou

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goes to possess it and hath cast out many nations before thee the Hittites

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and the Girgashites the Amorites and the Canaanites and the Parasites and the

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Hivites and the Jebusites seven nations greater mightier than now and when the

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Lord thy God shall deliver them before thee thou shall smite them and utterly

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destroy them thou shall make no covenant with them nor show mercy unto

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them now a lot of people criticize passages like this because it seems as

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though God is just wiping out these nations but you got to keep it keep it

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keep in mind that these nations were given hundreds of years to get right

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with God like God was very merciful to them just giving them opportunity after

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opportunity and people you know you have these atheists they're like oh you're

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against abortion but what about God saying you know to wipe them all out and

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wipe out all the children well how about the fact that these nations were already

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committing infanticide how about that or how about the fact that because they

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were committing infanticide there's barely any children left it's not like

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there is a slew of children running through the villages of these places

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they were literally offering their children unto Moloch onto these false

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gods and you know God gave him hundreds of years all of a sudden God strikes

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them down and then you have these blue-haired atheists are like yeah but

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what about God doing this? What kind of nonsense is that?

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you know he gave them an opportunity to get right to believe on the Lord all of

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them had the knowledge of God you know they knew that sodomy was disgusting

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they knew the bestiality was was an abomination they understood the standard

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of God and they continued in their wicked ways so God just wiped them all

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out okay verse 3 says neither shalt thou make marriages with them thy daughter

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shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt not give unto thy son." So it's just like,

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hey, don't marry them because they're going to, that woman's going to kill your child.

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She believes in Moloch. She's going to want to burn your child in the fire. Don't let them marry

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together because they will pervert your lineage. They will destroy your family because they are of

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a different faith. They're sodomized, they're perverts, they commit infanticide, they commit

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all manner of abomination. And so yeah, you may think that he's handsome. You may think that she's

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pretty, but all that stuff wears off. And then when the things of substance are important to you,

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there's nothing you can do about it. You're stuck. He says in verse four, for they will turn away

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thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods. So will the anger of the Lord be

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kindled against you and destroy thee son? And so notice, you know, when he says, hey,

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don't let your sons marry, don't let your sons marry their daughters and vice versa.

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He doesn't say in verse four, for they're going to teach them how to eat curry or something, you know,

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they're going to have really dark skin and they're going to have all, they're going to be ugly looking.

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They're going to have all these deformities. They're going to come out looking like this,

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that and the other. He didn't say anything about that because he didn't care. Cause you know what?

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At the end of the day, you know, can the thing form, say to him that formed it, why has thou made

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me thus? What is God's main concern here? His main concern is what they believe. They're going to

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cause you to stop worshiping the God of the Bible. Go to Ezra chapter nine, actually go to Nehemiah

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chapter 13, Nehemiah chapter 13, Ezra and Nehemiah are historical records. They shouldn't be used

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necessarily to teach doctrine, but rather for historical reference. We obviously know that

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it's the word of God, but it's just the historical record. And the reason I say that is because,

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you know, there's some things that took place here that God does not approve of, but he is recording

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the behavior of his people. But this particular thing we're going to look at, you know, was

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commanded in the Bible. God did prohibit this from taking place. He says in Nehemiah 13 verse 23,

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in those days also, I'm sorry, in those days also saw I Jews that had married wise of Ashtod,

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of Ammon and of Moab. And their children spake half in the speech of Ashtod and could not speak

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in the Jews language, but according to the language of each people. So, you know, the God's

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people had intermingled with the those of Ashtod, Ammon and Moab. And it caused the offspring to not

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necessarily have the culture of Israel as known about the fact that they were speaking in different

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languages. Okay. It's like half Jews language. It's like a bastardization of the Jews language is

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what he's saying. He says in verse 25, and I contended with them and cursed them and smote certain

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of them and plucked off their hair. So, you know, Nehemiah is not messing around, you know, he's just

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like upset that they're intermingling with these other faiths, these other nations that are

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worshiping other gods. And he's literally just grabbing them by the hair and plucking it out.

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He's grabbing their beers and just plucking it out. Right. He's pretty, he's pretty mad.

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He says here and made them swear by God saying, ye shall not give your daughters unto their sons,

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nor take their daughters unto your sons or for yourselves. Did not Solomon, king of Israel,

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sin by these things. So, you know, Nehemiah is not plucking out their hair because he's just like,

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no son of mine is going to marry a black guy or, you know, he's not upset over their skin color.

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What is he really flipping out about? He's saying in verse 25, did not Solomon, king of Israel,

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sin by these things. Yet among many nations was there no king like him who was beloved of his God

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and God made him king over all Israel. Nevertheless, even him did outlandish women

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cause to sin. Now outlandish here isn't necessarily being used the way we would use

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outlandish today. Outlandish simply means like foreign. Okay. Those who are alien,

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those who are alien, okay. To the nation of Israel. And it's saying here that the foreign women

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that Solomon married caused him to sin. So that was the major occasion here of why he is plucking

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out their hair. He's rebuking them. He is cursing them for that reason. Verse 27 says, shall we then

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hearken unto you to do all this great evil to transgress against our God and marrying strange

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wives? Now, obviously we can't condone what he's doing as far as plucking out the hair, but

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you know, he's just upset. You know, he's really mad. He, he has a major conviction about this

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and he is disciplining, disciplining them physically for intermingling with those who are

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unbelievers. Go to Joshua chapter 23, Joshua chapter 23, as you're going there, I'm going to

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read to you from Ezra chapter nine and verse number one. It says, now when these things were done,

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the princes came to me saying the people of Israel and the priest and the Levites have not

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separated themselves from the people of the lands, doing according to their abominations,

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even of the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Parasites, the Jebusites, the Ammonites,

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the Moabites, the Egyptians and the Amorites, for they have taken of their daughters for themselves

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and for their sons so that the holy seed have mingled themselves with the people of those lands.

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Yea, the hand of the princes and rulers has been chief in this trespass. So both the northern

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kingdom and the southern kingdom participated in this intermingling of other nations. The

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difference is this, when that northern kingdom went into captivity, the Assyrian captivity,

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they essentially just remained there and they were permanently dispersed and intermingled with the

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heathen. They never regained their ethnic identity thereafter. Look at Joshua 23 and verse 12. It

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says else if you do in any wise go back and cleave unto the remnant of these nations,

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even these nations that remain among you and shall make marriages with them and go in unto them and

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they to you know for a certainty that the Lord your God will no more drive out any of these nations

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from before you, but they shall be snares and traps unto you and scourges in your side and thorns in

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your eyes until you perish from off this good land which the Lord your God hath given you.

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What do we see here? We see the potential of your spouse who is an unbeliever causing you to

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disobey the Lord, right? Causing you to participate in abominable rituals, causing you to go to a

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Catholic church, an Orthodox church and participate in pagan rituals that God is not pleased with.

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And you know what? That's going to cause the curse of God to come upon your life. Okay? This is what

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the Bible is saying here. And you may think to yourself, well you know I know this Catholic girl,

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I know this Orthodox chick and I think I'm just gonna I'm gonna be able to win them.

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Okay? Well do it before you get married first and foremost. Okay? That's the best case scenario.

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If that's the route you're going. But I don't even recommend that though. Okay? I recommend you marry

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them and if they want to come to a church where they're actually preaching the Bible and get

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grounded in the Word of God and you know start living like a Christian and practicing like a

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Christian, take it into consideration. But you better be careful though. And look folks, I'm

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talking from experience. I've seen people who have married outside of their faith and it just it ends

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up being a thorn in their side. It ends up being pricks in their eyes. Why? Because the honeymoon

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eventually is over. Okay? They get married, they're all happy. Then you know it's just

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hell from there. Okay? Because after a while you're just like, man I want to start worshiping God. I

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want to go to church. I want to read the Bible. But this person doesn't believe in the Bible or

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this person is an idolater. This person is participating in things that the Bible doesn't

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approve of. They're not listening to you. They're not wanting to read the Bible. They don't want to

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go to church with you and it becomes a major grievance unto the person who is actually saved.

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Like so what's the answer? How about just marry an actual saved person?

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Let's just start there. Right? Because at least the saved person has the Holy Spirit of God

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dwelling within them. And obviously there's multiple other things that you should look for.

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Like the person should be teachable. So if you're marrying a saved person and you know

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maybe they're a babe in Christ. Maybe they're newly saved. Well ask yourself is this person

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teachable though? Are they humble? Are they learning? Are they growing? Or are they constantly

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fighting what the Bible actually says? Right? At that point you need to kick that person to the

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curve if that's the case. Because I'm telling you right now you need to have some foresight,

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some prudence to look down the road and say you know what this is going to turn out to be a

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disaster if I don't do something about this right now. Okay? Yeah but they have like Ephesians 2

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in their bio or something. They have Believer in their bio. They have you know the Crusades in

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their bio. Yeah run screaming in the opposite direction. You know I'm kind of tired of these

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Instagram bios that tries to like portray themselves as being spiritual or something.

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And then you know it's just the exact opposite. Okay? There's no substance to it. Look at where

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we're at here. You're in Joshua 23. Go to 1 Kings chapter 11. 1 Kings chapter 11. I remember there's

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a guy in our church many years ago and he was married to a Mormon. And you know what he did?

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He would go to the Mormon Tabernacle every once in a while with his wife. Just because he didn't

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want to fight with his wife. He said where's that guy now? Not in church. And you know what? No,

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you're not honoring your spouse. You're Mormon spouse by going to the Mormon Tabernacle. You're

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dishonoring God is what you're doing. You're like well here's the thing though. Like I think God

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wants me to have harmony in my marriage. So in order for me to have harmony I have to participate

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in that. Wrong. Wrong. God expects 100% loyalty to him. And you know what? If that causes a

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rift between you and your spouse then so be it. Obviously the ideal situation is that your spouse

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would follow you. That you would be in church. That would get saved. That would adhere to the Bible.

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But if you have to choose between your spouse and God you choose God. That's just a fact. Right?

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And we're talking about in regards to sinful things. Okay? You know if your spouse wants you

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to go to some other church or something. Meet somewhere in the middle or whatever it may be.

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Then whatever. You know you got to kind of deal with that. But if they're like well if you want

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to make me happy we need to go to this Mormon Tabernacle. Say you know I'll see you after church

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service because I'm not going. You know? Right. Now we'll never step inside a Mormon Tabernacle

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church. A bunch of people will floor right stairs and you know I don't want a planet. Okay?

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I don't want to have eternal babies for the rest of my life. Obviously that's not going to happen.

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You know? And you know I don't want to be a part of a pedophile you know religion.

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Right. Yeah.

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Plain and simple. You know that goes for Islam too. I don't care how conservative you think

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you know Muslims are or how modest they are because they got their ninja outfit and they're

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not showing anything. Don't marry a Muslim. Well that's disrespectful. Well this is the house of

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God. Amen. We don't respect other religions in the house of God. That's right. Plain and simple. God

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doesn't respect other religions and he doesn't respect us to respect them either. That's a fact

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because other religions are asserting that they are an alternative way of salvation aside from

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Jesus Christ and if you believe that then you're in the wrong church. You know Christianity is the

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superior religion. Christianity is the superior belief system and Islam is simply Mormonism in

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the Middle East. It's a pedophile religion. It's garbage and you know what? Muslims are not our

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friends. Don't try to team up with Muslims just because you don't like Jews and they don't like

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Jews. Don't let them be part of the club just because they're against Jews.

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Because at the end of the day once they outnumber you they're going to come after you

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and it's not cool to be a Muslim. You've seen their stash? They ain't got one.

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They got a funny looking beard. They got no stash. They're constantly advocating and defending

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their pedophile leader who married a six-year-old and consummated the marriage at nine. Oh so much

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better. It's nonsense. It's garbage. Islam is a wicked religion and every Muslim was split

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whole wide open. That's a fact. Okay. They're like well I know this Muslim lady and she's just

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really nice and you know we both don't like the Jews and we don't like Zionists or whatever

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but you know that's where the commonality stops though and you know what? You can find anybody

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who doesn't like Jews. That's not good. What is that? You act like that's like a really like

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unique thing or something like that. We found Belizeans in Belize who didn't like Jews.

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Oh wow. It's not that hard. They already have the curse of God in their lives. It's not hard

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to not like them and so you know and don't marry Muslims. Don't marry Islamists. We're not you know

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I see this on Instagram a lot where it's just like Muslims Christian against Jews you know.

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Say whoa don't touch my hand. Touch not the unclean thing. Come out from among them.

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Say it the Lord and touch not the unclean thing and I will receive you and be a father unto you

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and he shall be sons and daughters unto me. Second Corinthians chapter six in context of not being

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unequal you together with unbelievers. Okay. They're godless. They don't believe in the Bible

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and yeah given you know they may be a little nicer when we talk about the things of God

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than Jews are but you know what saying that Jesus Christ is a prophet not enough.

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Not enough and you know what if you're into the whole hijab thing and all that modesty you know

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get out of the Islam world. Okay get off of the Instagram posts that talk about that nonsense.

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It's garbage. We should not have any union with any Muslim or Islamists. We're not for them.

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I mean if you don't believe that you know check out the video where we threw out that

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Muslim off the property. You think I would be like oh hey you're against Jews?

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Brother pray all you want to your false god. Is that what we're supposed to do?

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It's nonsense. They're going to split whole wide open just like the Jews are. The difference is

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the Jews are going to be in the lower hell than the Muslim for sure but they're both going to hell

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though and then if that offends you then go to a mosque. All right let's move on here. The point

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that I'm making here is oh man you just sound like Nehemiah. I hope so.

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I mean I guess I'm not as you know I'm not as cool as Nehemiah because of the fact that I'm

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not plugging out hair. Look at first Kings chapter 11 and verse number one it says,

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But King Solomon loved many strange women together with the daughters of Pharaoh,

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women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites of the nations concerning

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which the Lord sent into the children of Israel. Ye shall not go into them neither shall they come

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in unto you for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods Solomon clave unto these

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in love. So this guy is rich. He has all kinds of money. He has all kinds of clout and even though

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he possesses wisdom he's not exercising wisdom obviously. Keep in mind this is the same guy who

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gave us the book of Proverbs. At least the majority of the book of Proverbs. He's the one

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that warned us about the strange women and yet here we have him going after strange women.

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You know that tells me you can have wisdom but if you don't exercise it doesn't mean anything.

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You can know the Bible but if you don't do anything with it doesn't mean anything. Solomon's the

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wisest man of the Bible and he's over here marrying foreign women together with the daughter of Pharaoh

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and what is he doing? It's causing him to turn away from the Lord. He's cleaving unto them in love.

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Look at verse three and he had 700 wives. What? What's the point? So he's just like you know I'll

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take you you you you. Like how could he even date all of them? How long would that take? Did anyone

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do the math on that? You know 700 wives princesses and 300 concubines and his wives turned away his

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heart. Yeah yeah that's what happened. When you have all of these foreign wives who have false gods

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eventually they will influence Solomon and anybody else to turn away from worshiping God

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despite the fact that he possesses all kinds of wisdom. Says in verse four, for it came to pass

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when Solomon was old that his wives turned away his heart after other gods and his heart was not

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perfect with the Lord his God as was the heart of David his father. For Solomon went after Asteroth

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the goddess of the Zidonians and after Milcham the abomination of the Ammonites and Solomon did

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evil in the sight of the Lord and went not listen to this fully after the Lord as did David his

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father. Then did Solomon build in high place for Chimosh the abomination of Moab in the hill that

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is before Jerusalem and for Molech the abomination of the children of Ammon and likewise did he for

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all his strange wives. So he's building these altars not because he he personally believes in

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these false gods or that he personally has a conviction to worship them he's doing it for his

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strange wives. Okay he's going you know to the orthodox church for Easter right he's doing it to

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like appease his wives he's participating in it not because he has a personal conviction but because

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he's a compromiser and you know what God's not cool with that so you think well you know if I go

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here God knows my heart and so he's not going to get mad at me if I start trying to just to help

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my relationship with my wife if I go to this church where they preach on heresy or they go to

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you know this organization where they don't believe in the God of the Bible no actually he

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is very much concerned with that he does take that personal you know why because it's not just a

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matter of the heart it's a matter of the hands as well cleanse your hands you sinners that's what

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the Bible says so he's not only concerned with the heart he is concerned with what you do as

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noted by the fact that he is constructing these altars to these false gods and God's not happy

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with that okay and in fact he says he's doing evil in the sight of the Lord God's not like well I

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know his heart I know he actually believes in me and you know no one's perfect it's just you know

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that's what happens when you have 700 wives he's just like you're just doing evil in my sight

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it says in verse 9 and the Lord was angry with Solomon because his heart was turned from the

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Lord God of Israel which had appeared unto him twice and had commanded him concerning this thing

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that he should not go after other gods but he kept not that which the Lord commanded so I want

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you to notice that God associates you know what he has in his heart with what he does so it's not

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just a matter of what you're thinking what you believe he's concerned with what you do as well

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right and so he's anger with Solomon his heart was turned from the Lord his God it says in verse

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11 wherefore the Lord said unto Solomon for as much as this is done of thee and that was not

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kept my covenant my statutes which I have commanded thee I will surely rend the kingdom from thee

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and will give it to thy servant go to first Corinthians chapter 7 again first Corinthians

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chapter 7 the point is don't marry an unbeliever and it's it's high time that Christians just kind

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of get off of social media because it makes them so diluted to this they just think like oh anything

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that proclaims himself to be Christian is Christian let's get a little more strict than our doctrine

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folks let's get a little more strict than our convictions and let's let's put some definitions

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to these words just because someone says they believe in Jesus doesn't mean they're a Christian

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you know and no I'm not joining with another Catholic against Jews it's not going to happen

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I'm not joining with Orthodox against Jews I'm not joining with Islamists against Jews I don't

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care if they speak highly of Jesus Christ if they don't believe on the Lord for salvation I want

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nothing to do with it and obviously I'm already married but you know what I'm saying is I'm not

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going to be unequally yoked together with other unbelievers well you know we just need to see the

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bigger picture or something the bigger picture is just the Bible and if they're just obeying the

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Bible they're done I want nothing to do with that yeah but that's damaging Christianity you're

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giving Christianity a black eye no you know who gives Christianity a black eye is compromisers

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and you know what if I give Christianity a black eye at least I'm it's because I'm fighting

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right instead of these compromising Christians that are not willing to draw the line because

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they don't want to lose their followers they don't want to offend people it's time to just

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draw the line and explain to people where we stand in this regard this is a major thing in

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social media and we need to make sure that we draw the line and say hey just want to let you know

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that's not what the Bible says we're to marry believers and believers are those who trust in

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the Lord okay and again not just trust in the Lord we're talking about the gospel talk about

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one saved always saved talk about eternal security of the believer okay all right first

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Corinthians chapter seven now here's the thing you say well thanks for rebuking me but I've

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already married an unbeliever I've already married someone of a different religion so what should I

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do should I leave them and the answer is no okay you know God wants you to stay together with that

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person for the rest of your life okay or at least for the rest of theirs understand you know that's

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God's will because he doesn't want you to break that covenant and people need to understand you

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know when we get married we're making a covenant before God and we need to talk about that covenant

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more often and recognize how important a covenant is in the eyes of God you're making a vow unto the

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Lord till death do us part that's not some poetic thing that you're saying at the wedding altar

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just to make a nice video or something like that just because you they're not fillers in the marriage

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ceremony you're literally making a covenant before God saying you know for better for worse for richer

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for poor you know till death do us part you're telling God I'm gonna stay with this person for

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the rest of my life no matter how bad it gets and I know we like to talk about the for good part

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or for better part you know because that marriage is full of the better parts but it's also filled

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with a lot of bad parts too and that's why it's important for us to you know hold to those vows

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honor those vows you're like what if my spouse doesn't deserve it well yeah but God deserves it

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though and so if you made that vow you need to keep that vow we need to stop raising a generation

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that just quits on marriage just when it gets so hard it's so difficult well too bad that's just

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that's the value you made be a person of integrity and keep your vows keep your oaths keep your

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covenants before the Lord because God is worth it you know if you're going through a hard time

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in your marriage you know I get it you know people go through hard times when you go through those

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hard times view your spouse as unto the Lord do it for God okay and so I'm not preaching against

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those of you who you know maybe in times past you didn't keep that covenant I'm trying to

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warn the coming generation to make sure they keep it but you know what I know people who are going

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through an extremely hard time in their marriage and you know what the the d war never comes out

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of their mouth never does you say well like how do you know because I've never heard them talk about

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it and they're they're willing to stick it out until death and that's an honorable thing that's

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a respectable thing and you know what that is right to do now I'm not saying you have to endure

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your marriage because here's the thing the New Testament though it teaches us to marry believers

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it gives us some instructions in case you don't because let's just let's just be honest you know

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sometimes people get saved later on in life so prior to them you know getting saved they might

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have gotten married to an unbeliever because they were an unbeliever right now they're saved now they

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have an unbeliever and sometimes people say pastor what should I do I marry this person

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you know bc you know I married this person before I got saved should I it wasn't God's will yeah but

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it's God's will now though you have to understand that and you can't just break that vow it's a

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godless thing to do God views it as an abomination you need to stick it out but look what it says in

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first Corinthians chapter 7 verse 12 it says to the recipe guide not the Lord if anybody other

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have a wife that believeth not and she be pleased to dwell with them let her not put her away

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and the woman which hath an husband that believeth not and if he be pleased to dwell with her let her

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not leave him now let me just say this before I continue God is just for staying together no

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matter what and I'm not just talking about divorce I'm talking about even when you're going through

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a problem just stay together like you know if my wife and I are bickering it doesn't happen very

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often but you know it happens you know there's not this thought in my wife's mind is just like

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I'm gonna go home to mama and if there was and she expressed that to me I would say funny

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that's you're a comedian you think I'm just gonna let my wife just leave and go to like her you know

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obviously are there instances where maybe that's the best case scenario because you guys are

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slitting each other's throat maybe but in general you know what stick it out you know I don't need

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and I don't want to say my mother-in-law would do this but I don't need my mother-in-law let's

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let's just say my mother-in-law was just a rebellious loudmouth just godless woman right

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and she's not but let's just pretend she was you know I'm not gonna let my wife go to my mother-in-law's

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house and fill her mind against me right because here's the thing you know once all that is said

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and done and Sarah has just blasted me to her mom and said what kind of bad husband I am and I don't

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pick up my socks and you know I don't you know compliment her and you know all this that and the

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other you know once she comes back and she's like oh dang you know I miss my husband you know oh man

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you know he's looking kind of good right now I kind of miss him and then we kiss and make up

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guess what her mom is still bitter at me but she's not so here's a good rule of thumb

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keep your in-laws out of your marriage keep your in-law let me repeat that again keep your in-laws

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out of your marriage mind your own business in-laws we don't need you know in-laws to influence

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the marriage let them figure it out on their own support them and support the authority which is

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the man let me just say this you know the man is the boss of the house this is what the bible

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teaches you know screw this feminist society it says oh man well what are you like a male chauvinist

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hog yes pig no this is the biblical way of doing things you know why marriages are so screwed up

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it's because women have been given a little too much liberty to make these decisions and it's

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just like well you know I just feel like the woman should have a right and a decision sorry

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that's my rib she's my help me and you know what yeah my wife you know is my wife to help me succeed

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let me look at people make sure they're not you know offended here I'm gonna look at the eyes of

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the women here make sure everyone's following okay yeah that's biblical that's what the bible

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says you know oh man you know you just sound like so abusive you know I'm gonna talk to your wife

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you know I remember one time there's like there's a there's a some listener online and they were so

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appalled right by my preaching and they couldn't believe I was acting that way so they sent my

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wife a letter okay and with money in it to get away from me they're just like they're like I'm

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so sorry you're in this abusive relationship and you know what this husband here's like I think

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she's having like ten dollars I was like that wouldn't even get her to the corner what do you

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do you know what I did I took that and I bought some like coffee with it I'm like thank you you

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just purchased my next meal right here I'll go ahead and take that oh I'm so sorry you're in

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this abusive relationship yeah I'm so abusive that my wife gets to stay home keep the house

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have the best husband ever amen bear children guide the house and fulfill her god-given role

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and you know and she gets the she gets the credit card she gets the debit card she can do whatever

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she wants with that and just live her life how oh how abusive that I don't let her work at some

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restaurant as a waitress where other men tell her what to do and how much they want their drink

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filled and whatnot retards they are retards you know the biblical motto is this my friends is that

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and look I'm not saying that women are like worse than men or something like that don't don't

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misunderstand me dykes are but not just women in general they are I'm not saying that okay

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my wife is just the best to me okay I love my wife and I couldn't do what I do without my wife

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I need my wife she she completes me you know all the hallmark phrases that you want to hear that

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you know I love her and you know I was in Belize and you know I'm just thinking about my wife and

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you know absence makes the heart grow fonder and you know and I was happy to see her when I came

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back and all that you know she knows it but you know what I'm serving God and but that and that

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doesn't change the roles though okay the role the biblical role is not that the husband is better

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than the spouse it's just the husband is in charge okay and so um well how do I get off on that what

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was we were talking about does anybody remember well let's read here look at verse 13 the woman

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hath the husband that believeth not and if he be pleased to dwell oh that's what I was talking

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oh yeah so don't leave okay you know if you're having problems in marriage the the answer is not

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let me just leave my spouse the answer is let me grind this out that's the answer the answer is not

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quit the answer is let's work this out because if thou faint in the day of adversity thy strength

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is small so the bible says work it out you know if you cuss each other out okay but as long as you

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stay together though okay if you insult each other whatever as but just stay together

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you know these garbage pastors out there that are constantly trying to get people to separate

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and constantly admonishing women encouraging women to leave their husbands these are godless

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trashy pastors that are that should not be pastoring they're not reinforcing the biblical

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model stay away from people like that why because they're the reason we're in this mess to begin with

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they're the reason why feminism has permeated society to begin with can i get an amen

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the point that i'm making here from first Corinthians chapter 7 though

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is that look what it says in verse 14 for the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife and

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the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband else were your children unclean but now are they

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holy so this is saying you know now that you're married or you're saved and let's say you're

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married to someone who's not a believer well now you need to make sure first of all that you stay

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married because you made that covenant but get this now they have a higher chance of getting saved

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because of you because you're a believer you know you have a higher chance of influencing your

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children influencing your spouse and that's god's will god's will is that you save your spouse god's

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will is that you save your children okay and so um you're still in first Corinthians chapter 7 so

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what's the first half of the sermon about and the second half is not going to be that long

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it's simply this you know make sure you marry someone in the lord make sure that you guys have

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the same biblical convictions and don't have this general statement of oh a believer or a Christian

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you got to make sure they're they're actually saved and they believe in the bible they have

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the same biblical beliefs as you okay and look this first corinthian 7 thing about saving your

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spouse who's unsaved i've seen it happen i've seen it happen in our church i've seen it happen

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where one spouse you know is saved the other is not that spouse can't stand my preaching and then

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they get saved now they just love my preaching and they're loyal and they're great church members

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it can happen okay all right let me give you just really quick some dating principles for you singles

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out there okay now here's the thing is that you know i can't be dogmatic about this because of

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the fact that the bible is not necessarily clear when it comes to dating principles so a lot of

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this is just my preference okay if people ask me my advice on this this is what i'm going to tell

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them you don't have to adhere to this this is just simple experience and wisdom okay so if you're

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single here's a couple things i want to give you and not in any particular order this is kind of

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out of order first of all you got to make sure whoever you're dating aside from the fact that

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they're saved be on the same page doctrinally okay be in the same page in your general preferences

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in other words like if you're dating someone who's a believer and you're three to thrive but

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they're only sunday morning glories you know that kind of doesn't add up right you want to make sure

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that you're you're dating someone who's on your level spiritually speaking if not a little bit

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ahead of you or at least on the same playing field that's my advice okay and someone who understands

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and obeys biblical roles okay in other words you should date someone who recognizes that the woman

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should be a keeper at home to guide the house bear children that she doesn't want to be a boss

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babe or something you know she's not trying to be a erica kirk or candace especially not a candace

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owens or something you know they're trying to actually be and fulfill their biblical role and

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vice versa okay so be on the same page here's another thing get your parents involved or at

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least ask for their advice in counsel okay you know obviously if you don't have believing parents

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you have to kind of go out of your way to do so and so ask for their blessing make sure they're

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involved keep them in the loop of who you're dating you know because you need god's blessing

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and part of that is having your parents involved in the process as much as possible as much as they

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want to be okay uh date with the intent to marry not to play the field date with the intent to marry

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not to play the field okay christian shouldn't be dating to fornicate that you're sinful bro

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that's that's disgusting what are you doing you know abstain from fornication the bible says

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you should date with the intent that you want to find you know your spouse okay i don't recommend

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long engagements i think marriage should come no longer you know after about six to nine months of

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engagement okay why because you know once you get engaged a relationship begins to grow and you know

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love begins to grow and so you don't want to tempt each other and so in order for it to grow

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organically i believe it takes about six months or so um so i i i recommend that i don't recommend

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dating without chaperones man all right i don't recommend dating without chaperones why because

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it's just a wise thing to do you know you don't want to put yourself in a situation where you

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might commit some sin and because you're just alone with the love of your life you know you

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you know your hormones are raging it's good to have an uh a capable and discerning chaperone

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not your three-year-old little brother or sister okay you know here's an ipad you know just like

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send them off or something like that all right here's here's a big one and i do believe this is

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conviction and that is i don't recommend touching before marriage okay what i mean by that i don't

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think you should be like making out hugging each other holding hands now here's my scriptural

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evidence to substantiate that first corinthian 7 1 now concerned things wherever you wrote them

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to me it is good for a man not to touch a woman that's pretty explicit there okay and you know

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i've heard the alternative to this interpretation like oh that's saying well you can't shake hands

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well yeah but that's not the context though is it because it says nevertheless to avoid fornication

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so the idea here the touching is referring to touching that would incite those passions that

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should not be wakened up during this particular time of engagement or dating right so you know i

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don't think it's wise for you to make out with the person you're dating because you know it's

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going to cause you to get excited all right and you're like well i think i can handle that

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what bro i'm married and i still can't handle it what do you mean like

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what are you talking about you you got low testosterone high estrogen how do you handle that

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it says to avoid fornication let every man have his own wife and let every woman have her own

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husband in other words fulfill these things in marriage now i'm not talking to those of you who

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are already married and maybe you did that i'm talking to those who have not gotten married yet

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okay so i don't recommend touching before marriage i don't recommend just holding each other

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you know save that for marriage okay i recommend moderate communication first and increasingly more

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the longer you date meaning that when you start dating if you have a plan you want to get married

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like in a year or something i recommend do you moderately communicate first and obviously

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that is at your discretion but what i mean is like i don't think you should be texting uh and on the

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phone all night long right off the bat okay why because that's how you catch feelings and become

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overly obsessed and that that happens okay you just become overly obsessed and your bible reading

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is not getting done you're not you're all sleepy and tired when you're working you can't focus on

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anything else it needs to be moderate and it needs to increase the longer you're dating obviously

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once you get engaged then you're on the phone all the time you're communicating all the time

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because it's building up to that that wedding night you understand so that's what i recommend

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i recommend moderate communication first increasingly more the longer you date and keep in mind this is

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not in the bible so don't say oh you're teaching things against the bible i'm giving you my

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preference okay it's it's me who's speaking not the lord but i believe i had the spirit of the lord

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okay uh participate in spiritual activities together okay make sure you guys go soul hunting

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together you know sit in church together amen you know it's good you know sit in church together

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fellowship with one another talk about the bible with one another you know do stuff like that talk

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about spiritual things um i don't think people should compete for one woman

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you know i think you know i don't i think it's it's kind of weird when a girl has many suitors

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that are going for at the same time or something like that you know i personally would not do that

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i'm not for like being uh you know a b or c okay you know if i was if you know back in the day if

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i was interested in a girl and another guy was i'll be like you go for it bro that's on you

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because i'm not i'm not just gonna you know i don't think i don't think it's it's it's good

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i don't think women should pursue men

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i don't think women should pursue men okay what i mean by that you know i think the men should

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be pursuing the woman you know i don't think the i don't think the woman should be giving him a

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rose or something you know it's just like you know actively pursuing him or something like that

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that's weird you know you get off your rear end and go you know you be the one who's the aggressor

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okay um i don't think men should follow the woman either no dude here should ever move

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to a different church as the manner of some is to go you know find a spouse or something like that

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and the dad's just like you need to move over here if you ever want to date my daughter

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or just hang up

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that's that what is that are you the help me

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meat

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little sugar

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let me say this and again this is preference okay and you may not agree with this uh but

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this is kind of how i grew up and this is the philosophy that i had i know others who have it

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as well i believe it's lame to pursue a woman who's already dating someone

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okay yeah but does she got a ring on her finger no but someone's talking to her

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they're dating already and look man like growing up for me it was just like you know that it's just

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disrespectful philosophically whatever you want to call it's just to me it was just a disrespectful

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thing yeah but she's not a ring on her finger so why don't you go for it now you know i'm not going

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to overstep my bounds here because then you know you know if something if you do then there's

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conflict or whatever you know let your let your boy do his thing okay i think it's wrong to do it

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obviously i can't prove it from the bible it's just a preference of mine you know i think it's

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lame to pursue a woman who's already dating someone and i think you should have that preference okay

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respect your brothers in christ i would hate it if someone's trying to pursue if someone was

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trying to pursue my wife you know while i was actively trying to pursue her you know i wouldn't

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like that at all i i take that as a disrespectful thing but you may have a difference of opinion

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uh don't expect for your the person you're dating to act like your spouse immediately

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right yeah you guys aren't married yet you know so don't don't she needs to fall in line you guys

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aren't even married though you guys are just dating okay the relationship has to grow don't expect

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the the person you're dating to just know you right off the bat and know your likes and dislikes and

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tries tries to behave in accordance to that you know you guys are getting to know each other

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you're not married so don't act like you are yet okay you both have to grow into that particular

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particular situation and let me just finally say that it is appropriate to call off the relationship

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if you feel it isn't working out okay it's perfectly appropriate but you know i don't

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think it's appropriate to just call off the relationship for any stupid little thing either

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though you understand and if they do then you know what you're probably dating an immature person

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or you're just divulging too much of yourself you understand and so you know and along with that

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you know you shouldn't be someone who just when you're dating your your future spouse or whatever

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your boyfriend or girlfriend you know the the conversation should always be centered on them

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right it should always be you know if you're the man you should be talking about the girl

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asking her questions and vice versa okay um you know and so i'm not giving you here how to date

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or what restaurants to go to i'm just saying you know these are just basic things that i think you

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should be doing as people who are young people who are dating but it is 100 appropriate to call

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off the relationship you don't have to have guilt or something like if you feel like there's red

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flags and you're just like this is not working out i just don't want to hurt this person's feelings

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or something it's completely appropriate to just call off the relationship and this this happened

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obviously before i got married but you know i was dating someone and quite frankly i was peer

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pressured into this relationship just because people like she's a missionary you know she's

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godly she wins all kinds of souls you know and so we were talking and you know i just saw some red

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flags and i remember you know she lived in fresno at the time and i i thought to myself well i'm

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gonna go to fresno and i told her i said i'm gonna come visit you and your family and she's like oh

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what are we gonna do i was like well actually i'm coming to meet your dad like i want to talk to

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your dad and the reason i wanted to do this because i want to see how she treats her to her her dad

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i want to see how respectable she was with her father that's key right there by the way

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you know why because if she marries me she's going to treat me the way she treats her father

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right and so i was like i just want to meet your dad and he said well he doesn't really go to

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church i'm like even better because i'm really going to see how you treat your father who doesn't

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go to church so i got there and i just saw a bunch of red flags okay she was disrespectful she's just

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you know not necessarily the person i was looking for and i was just like this is not going to work

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out and her pastor at the time was kind of mediating this whole thing and so he really

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wanted me to marry her he really wanted to work out and so he was just kind of like overseeing

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the entire process my pastor at the time was not he's just like do what you got to do whatever let

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me know if you need any help so then you know i came back home and i thought to myself well

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i've seen enough you know i'm gonna go ahead and call this off so i called the pastor and i was

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just like hey just want to thank you for everything but it's not going to work out and so um you know

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i'm kind of calling it off and he's like why and i was like because it's just all some red flags

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things that i don't agree with and he's just like but why and i'm just like hey i'm trying to be

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like appropriate here i'm not interested just take no for an answer he's like well that's not right

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and i'm thinking to myself you know there is no ring on this finger we're literally just dating

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for like maybe a month if that and all of a sudden he's just like this isn't right you need to rethink

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this and i'm just like no i'm good all right i'm hanging up i'm hanging up now all right bye and

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then you know a couple months later he came to preach for us at the church and uh one of the

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leaders is like hey pastor stone stone wants to talk to you and i'm like it can't be for this

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so he meets with me afterwards and he's just like i want to meet with you because i want you to

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reconsider and i'm just like no i'm not i'm not gonna be peer pressured and let me just say this

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don't be peer pressured into any relationship if you don't like the chick move on don't let your

01:13:53.820 --> 01:13:58.540
boys peer pressure into dating someone just because your boys keep pushing you for it okay

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you know just tell your boys leave me alone leave me alone you know just just say leave me alone

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just say leave me alone okay don't be pressured into dating anybody you know why because if you

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are you're going to be with that person for the rest of your life and your boys aren't going to

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be there to help you out okay so don't be pressured and so you know i just said i told him i said i

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it's the same answer and he's like can you pray can you pray about it first i was like man this

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guy is just like insufferable i was like fine i'll pray about it so then he was preaching at

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the church that night and i went to my my my now he's my father-in-law but my pastor at the time

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and i said hey this guy keeps telling me this he wants me to reconsider and he wants me to pray

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he said just pray real quick just pray real quick

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because you said you were gonna just pray and just tell him no all right so i just quickly quickly

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prayed like you know flood the world if you want you know something crazy you know

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so after the service i just went up to him i said i prayed and no the answer is no so that's it

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you know and he was really big on it and i was just thinking myself like looking back i'm like

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man i'm so thankful i didn't allow this pastor peer pressure me into like being with this person

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understand and so you know it's always appropriate to call up the relationship if there's major red

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flags don't be peer pressured by you know outside influences to marry someone because that's that's

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the person you're going to be with for the rest of your life okay pray for wisdom pray for

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discernment get advice not from your peers necessarily but from those who are older than

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you godly you know from your parents because they have your best interest in mind and so forth and

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that's pretty much it let's pray father we thank you so much for your word lord help us as your

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people to esteem the union of marriage to esteem our covenant that we made before the lord the

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vows that we have made and marriage is a wonderful thing but it doesn't mean it's not a hard thing it

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can be hard it can be very difficult and it's those times of difficulty that we need to honor

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the covenant that we made before the lord and so let no man put us under that which you've joined

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together i pray that you'd help our singles to grow into that role that they would find someone lord

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who would love them care for them and be willing to spend the rest of their lives with them

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and serve the lord together and i pray that you bless this as we go on our way we love you we

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thank you pray this thing's in jesus name amen amen turn your hymnals to song number 296 follow on

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song number 296 follow on