All right, we are in Proverbs chapter 7 and like most of the Proverbs so far
It's really just been a continuation of a father's advice to his son and we know that's Solomon and really this chapter has two parts
We're gonna talk about them in sections this evening verses 1 through 4 will address as one section and then the rest of the chapter as
the next so number one notice Solomon's call to
obedience Proverbs 7 verse 1 the Bible says my son keep my words and lay up my
Commandments with thee, you know, I like that we see here a father
commanding his son and telling his son what to do and telling his son to follow him and to obey his
Commandments and to do what he says and when I read this verse I think of the really
Stupid modern movement that's happening right now known as gentle parenting
You guys seen these videos of gentle parenting?
Where there's all these videos of people giving advice on how to raise kids and they'll say you never want to frame anything
Negative to a son or daughter you never want to say no to them
You definitely never want to spank them and you know instead of telling them no or to obey you
You just kind of say like well Johnny is that the best decision you could possibly make are you sure you're making the right?
Decision here by wanting to eat ice cream for you know for dinner every night, but I like Solomon's attitude
He's just like my son keep my words and lay up my what?
Commandments with the hey we need some dads in America that are gonna give their children some
Commandments and tell them what to do you know that's a blessing because children are foolish
Children don't know where to go in life
Children don't have all this wisdom on how to walk through life what to eat what to wear you know what to do with their time
They need someone who loves them to command them to do what's right you know foolishness is bound in the heart of a child
And if everything was just democracy we let kids run this world wow our world would be destroyed really quickly
I mean just imagine kids driving around kids making the food it would just all the houses would all burn down
It'd be chaos. We need some parents that are gonna give their kids
Commandments and most importantly of course is giving our kids spiritual commandments and pointing them to
God's commandments and commanding them to keep those commandments. That's the most important thing go to Genesis 18
Of course keep your place there in Proverbs chapter 7
Genesis chapter number 18 when you're there look at verse 17 the Bible says and the Lord said
Shall I hide from Abraham that thing which I do?
Seeing that Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation and all the nations of the earth shall be blessed in him
For I know him notice what it says that he will command his children and his household
After him and they shall keep the way of the Lord to do judgment and just
Justice and judgment that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath
Spoken of him. So notice God is kind of talking here saying am I gonna hide from Abraham?
What I'm going to do referring to the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah
And when he talks about Abraham one of the things that God loves about him and likes about him as a leader
Is he says that I know him that he will command his children and his household after him
You know, that's what I want God to be looking down from heaven and saying about me
Hey, I know that pastor Oz is going to command his family that he's going to tell his family to follow him and to
Serve the Lord and we got this idea nowadays, you know that everyone's a volunteer and everyone's you know doing their own program here
No, no. No, we need some dads that are gonna command their families to serve God where it's not like alright wife
What church would you like to go to? What's your what's the pastor you want to listen to?
What's the Bible you want to read? Do you want to go to the rock and roll church?
Do you want to go to the NIV preaching church? Do you want to go to the Catholic Church?
We just need some dads. They're gonna say we're going to anchor Baptist Church, and it's not a vote
It's what dad wants cuz dad needs to lay down the commandments dad needs to tell kids to follow him
Why cuz he's the spiritual leader not the wife not the children not asking the kids
What kind of church they want to go to because every kid's gonna want to go to the church
That has the candy and the video games and all the cool facilities
I mean, I rarely went to church as a kid, but I remember when I did there was Xboxes lined all around the walls
of the whole church just like Xbox station Xbox station Xbox station and there's like basketball and there's all these games and everything like
That's the church that kids are gonna want to go to but you know
We need some dads that are just gonna say no you're gonna go to a real church where you're gonna get the real word of God
We're gonna get real preaching and command them those things go back to Proverbs 7
But you know in order for you to be commanding your children and your wife to follow your commandments and to do what's right
You have to know what's right. You have to be going the right way, you know
And dads need to take their spiritual lives very seriously. Look at verse number two. It says keep my commandments and
live and my law as the apple of thine eye think about as
Parents the commandments that we give to children when they're very very young
a lot of these commandments are literally just to keep them alive and it's just like keep my commandments and
Live and there was a very literal and physical sense to that when you've got little kids, you know, it's like hey
Don't climb on that. Hey, don't open the front door and play in the front yard by yourself
Why because you could literally die if you get hit by a car or something bad happened to you
And so a lot of our commandments to our children are literally preventing them from the possibility of death and look
It's the same exact way with God's commandments
you could also look at this verse from the perspective of God saying keep my commandments and
Live and of course you could look at that as a physical sense that breaking God's commandments can oftentimes lead you down a dark path
That could ultimately lead to death and you know
If you ever you know read about true crime or have seen any of these true crime videos
It's funny how many times you could look at these situations and just start counting all the grievous sins that people do
Before they end up in those terrible situations now, of course time and chance happeneth to them all
What if a bomb drops on your head, right? What if you get shot by a random criminal it can happen
But oftentimes you read these police reports and all these true crimes and it's like oh they went they were at the bar
Check. Why are you at the bar? God says not to look at that stuff. You shouldn't have been there
You shouldn't have been around those people or it's like oh, you know man gets decapitated after sleeping with another man's wife
It's like well, what were you doing committing adultery?
it's like this wouldn't have happened to you if you weren't committing those sins and so oftentimes God's commandments can be protecting you
Literally from death and then of course you could look at it
Also as just a metaphorical death that sin is just gonna bring destruction and pain and misery to your life
It's gonna kill and destroy the life that you're trying to build, you know having a good family keeping your family tighten it
Loving each other sin is gonna destroy that sin is gonna destroy your relationship with God with other people
It will bring death wages of sin is death. Look at verse 3. It says bind them upon thy fingers
Write them upon the table of thine heart say unto wisdom thou art my sister and call
understanding thy kinswoman
So verse 3 talking about binding the commandments on your fingers
Writing them upon the table of thine heart, you know, I don't think you need to literally
You know tie a string around your finger and put some Bible verses on there
But you know, it'd be good is to have a Bible in your hand pretty often and have the Bible close to you
And you know nowadays we've got our phones at least have a Bible app on that or something have the Word of God very
Readily available to you and write it upon the table of thine heart. I think that's referring to
Memorizing the scripture and you know memorizing is a great Christian discipline that I cannot recommend enough to people and again
The main reason why I think it's such a great
Discipline is that it helps you learn the Bible better than any other method when you memorize a chapter
You truly know that chapter inside and out and when you've got it deep in your heart, you know in the future
You've got you've got a deep well now to draw from if you ever need those truths to help you in a situation
Says saying to wisdom thou art my sister and call understanding thy kinswoman
So kind of using this metaphor here of family familiar relationships with wisdom and understanding
I think it's just saying have these things close to you be very familiar with them
you want to be well acquainted with wisdom and
Understanding I'll read for you Psalm 119 verse 11
The Bible says thy word have I hid in mine heart that I might not sin against thee
So it's very helpful to memorize the word of God not just to learn it thoroughly
But also helps us in times of temptation where we're drawn to sin
And we oh remember that verse that truth that speaks to us that helps us get through those times
So number one Solomon's call to obedience number two attributes of a wicked woman verse four
He's saying hey saying to wisdom doubt my sister and call understanding thy kin's woman
Why now he's gonna start talking about verse five that they may keep thee from the strange woman
So man, this is just really on Solomon's mind. He is just not letting it go
Hope you haven't gotten tired of hearing about it because Solomon is just
Hammering this into his son over and over and over and you know one of the things that tells me
Is that you don't want to make this who?
Taboo of a subject and I really think that the old IFB has done a whole generation of Christians a major disservice
By this just being so taboo that you're not even really getting detailed warnings about it
You're not really getting good training about it. You're not really being warned as a young man what to look for
What what are the danger signs for this type of a sin? It's kind of just like well, it's gross and it's dirty
so we're not gonna talk about it and it is gross it is dirty, but the Bible talks about it and
Anything that the Bible talks about we should talk about and look we could use language
That's not gonna defile anyone. The Bible is pure. There's no verse of the Bible that you could read
It's just gonna defile some young man or young woman or something like that. No, the words of the Lord are pure words
Reading Genesis 19 is not gonna ruin family camp. All right, it's not gonna ruin a sermon reading
Proverbs 7 is not gonna ruin church tonight
These are just things that the Bible talks about and look dads you should be talking to your kids about this when they're of age
It's important. I'm not saying when they're super young
But there comes a day where you got to sit down and you got to give them four chapters in a row of dad's
Proverbs against the whore why because it's man's biggest temptation. Let's not play around
Let's not pretend like it's not it is and it is a serious danger
Which is why from Proverbs chapter 2 all the way to Proverbs chapter 7. This has been mentioned in some way
It's a very serious issue and here Solomon was an expert on this issue because he had 300 lives and 700
Concubines and who knows how many strange women that he ran into in his life, but he seems to be a subject matter
You know expert here. He's bringing this up over and over but I want to give you for the rest of this sermon
Attributes of a wicked woman and here's the thing when I give these attributes
I'm not saying attributes of women. All right any MGTOW single guys that hate women out there that are listening online
Look, I'm saying that these are the attributes of the strange woman of the whore of a wicked woman
And the whole point really of going over all these things is because if you're a single guy
You need to know what to avoid, you know, once you're married you're stuck and you know fix yourself
If you're this woman and married, thank God, we don't have that in our church
But this is mainly just like the young men know what red flags are out there and avoid the strange woman as much as possible
Number one a wicked woman is a flatterer a wicked woman is a flatterer
Look at verse 5 that they may keep thee from the strange woman from the stranger which
Flattereth with her words the definition of flattery is excessive
insincere praise so someone just laying it on thick telling you how great you are
Going way over and aboard and above any compliment that would be appropriate
It's just flattery and it's not true. It's too it's excessive. It's too much
Here's a synonym a sycophant, which is a self-seeking
servile flatterer a
fawning parasite
sycophant someone who is a servile
Flatterer and really I think what's important in that definition is the part where it says they're self-seeking
Because when someone flatters you you have to realize that they're doing that because they want something from you
They are trying to manipulate you in some way shape or form for some motive when someone's flattering you
Just mark it down that person is trying to hurt you
The reason it's so dangerous is because man is just prideful by nature and in our flesh
We like our ego to be blown up by other people. We like it when people come to us and tell us you're so great
You're so wonderful. Even if it's not true. This is just man's sinful fallen condition, which is why it's so dangerous
Which is why we need to read the Bible and take heed to these warnings
Renew our mind with the Word of God so that when the woman comes up to you and flatters you you realize
This is dangerous. She wants something from me. Now. What are some reasons that a woman would flatter a man?
Well, here's a really obvious one. How about money?
You know if you're a man that has a lot of money
You should just realize that you could be a potential target for a woman that is a you know
A wicked woman a strange woman to take advantage of you to flatter you, you know
Just realize that when you see 21 year old 22 23 year olds
Marrying 70 year old football coaches. What's that NFL coach?
Yeah, Bill, what's his name Belichick? I think he's in his 70s and he married some girl like in his young 20s
Let me help you bill. She's in it for the money. She doesn't love you. She's not into your personality
She doesn't care about football. She probably doesn't know what a touchdown is
but you know what she knows to Ching to Ching to Ching and if you are a man with a lot of money or
People perceive that you have a lot of money because here's the thing if if this woman wants something from you
It's either because you have something she desires or at least she perceives
That you have something that she desires. So if you've got money, you got to realize hey
This could be a potential danger of these fawning
Parasitical, you know leeches that will flatter you to get something out of you be very careful with that
Here's another reason. I think that the strange woman would do this is power. This is just obvious right power whether real or
Perceived you could become a target of this strange woman that will try to flatter you to get to you for your power
And the reason I say real or perceived is because sometimes the person in a position of power will be targeted
That's obvious like a president or a CEO or something like that
but also sometimes people that are very close to positions of leadership will be targeted and
You know, there's a whole word for this that rhymes with espionage that happens with that within government
Where other governments will send women to flatter?
Government officials to trick them to be with them to get information out of them
This is a real thing that happens to use flattery. Here's another reason payback or personal feuds
You got to realize hey, sometimes she doesn't like you. She's not into you
She's just into using you to hurt someone else that she's got a personal beef with and this is a sick and demented thing
But I'm just telling you the reality of life
That wicked women out there who want to hurt someone sometimes they'll get with you to hurt someone else
And so if you're hearing the flattery beware go to Ezekiel chapter 16 Ezekiel chapter number 16
Here's another reason she might want to manipulate you and flatter you is just for the pure enjoyment of being a whore
Realize that yes, men are the ones that are primarily driven in this area, but it's not only men
Sometimes women are just driven by the enjoyment of this wicked sin and you have to be careful Ezekiel chapter 16 verse 30
How weak is thine heart sayeth the Lord God seeing thou doest all these things the work of an imperious
Horish woman in that thou buildest thine eminent place in the head of every way and make us thine high place in every street
And it's not been as a harlot in that thou scornest higher
So this this group of people here is kind of being compared to a harlot or an adulteress
But he's saying you're actually worse because you're scorning higher
What is one of the motivations for being a whore money? What's the motivation of someone being a prostitute making money?
They'll lay on the flattery why to make money from you, but some people are so wicked. They're not even taking money
They're just in it for the game verse 32
But as a wife that committed adultery which take its strangers instead of her husband
It's like hey a wife is being taken care of by her husband. She's
Financially taken care of she's going and committing adultery against her husband. It's not a financial motivation
Sometimes it's an emotional or lustful motivation. It is true that this happens look at verse 33
They give gifts to all whores, but thou give us thy gifts to all thy lovers. You're paying other people
You're giving rewards to other people to be with you
Newsflash women don't have to pay men for that in the in society prostitution is the other way around
It's just how the world works now give us like gifts to all thy lovers and hires them that they may come unto thee on
every side for thy
Hortum so notice this whore is not motivated by money. This whore is just motivated by being a whore
But whatever the person's motivation you got to realize I hear flattery dangerous woman stay away from that type of woman
It's the men that should be going out and finding the women and trying to woo the ladies of this world
It shouldn't be a woman coming to you and trying to woo you that is a red flag
That is a serious red flag go to Psalm 12 Psalm chapter number 12
Let's look at a verse on flattery here Psalm 12 verse 1 help Lord for the godly man
Ceaseth for the faithful fail from among the children of men they speak vanity everyone with his neighbor
Notice with flattering lips and a double heart do they speak so in verse 1 the godly man has ceased
so in verse 2 we're talking about an ungodly person and one of the biggest attributes of an
ungodly person is flattery and
Speaking with a double heart talking to you in person one way
Expressing their feelings and support towards you in person and then behind your back. It's all different
Flattering you giving you insincere praise just mark it down. You got to realize this someone's flattering you
That's a bad person and you don't want to surround yourself with these people whether it's the strange woman or whether it's just
Friends in life, you know classmates in school coworkers flatterers are dangerous people
Do not be friends with them. Do not be close with the flatterer mark it down as a red flag
Go back to Proverbs 7 Proverbs 7 verse 6 for at the window of my house
I looked through my casement and beheld among the simple ones
I discerned among the youths a young man void of understanding
So Solomon's saying look son. I was looking out of my window. I was looking outside
I was just checking out the scene and you know what I noticed
I noticed a bunch of simple boys a bunch of simple young men
You know that means stupid and it's funny how people be like
Oh, you can never call someone dumb or never call someone stupid Solomon's like listen son
I was looking outside and I saw a bunch of stupid guys and let me warn you what these stupid guys are doing
and you got to realize that the man that plays around with a strange woman the man that tries to get as close to
Adultery as he can without crossing that line that wants to play around with this type of sin. That is a stupid person
It's just as stupid and insane and absurd as one taking fire in his bosom or one
Walking upon hot coals you would look at someone doing that and say what is wrong with you?
Like are you crazy? And in fact, I've seen a crazy person do this
You know, I used to live in Vancouver, Washington. And when I was there
I was working in the city of Portland and I was doing road construction. We had just laid down this fresh steaming hot
450 degree thing of asphalt that went on for like, I don't know half a mile
There's a long strip of hot asphalt and here comes this woman who seemed demon possessed. She was wearing no clothes. Welcome to Portland
She's carrying like a big, you know, big gulp from 7-eleven and she's like growling and grunting at herself as she walks by and
Barefoot, what does she do? She just walks on this hot fresh asphalt and she doesn't even react to it
There's no pain or anything and I'm looking at this person like you're crazy
And if she's not crazy, you'd say like you're stupid like you're insane. You're gonna hurt yourself
Well, it's like the same thing with young men that want to go after the horse
They're not interested in the chased meek quiet godly young lady
They're interested in the woman showing her body being a flatter being a whore. You are stupid
You would rather be with the girl that is godly and quiet and submissive and dresses modestly
Then the most attractive woman you could possibly imagine your mind
But who is a whore who is a strange woman?
Because that short time of pleasure of being with her is not going to compare to the pain
That's gonna come in your life because let me explain something to you. She's flattering you. She says you're the only one for me
You're the greatest no the strange woman wants to be with everyone the strange woman
You know opens her feet to all that pass by Ezekiel talks about you
Don't want to be with that type of woman and any guy that does you look at me
I just have to think you're stupid. You're a fool. You're gonna destroy your life
Look what it says in verse 8 notice what this stupid person is doing
Passing through the street near her corner and he went the way to her house
this is what fools do in any area of life is
fools try to get as close as they can to sin without crossing the line and
Sometimes maybe they even think hey, I'm not gonna go all the way
I'm never gonna do this big sin, but they get so close to the Sun if you will sometimes that
computational pull of the flesh pulls you in and you end up doing something you didn't intend to and
What doesn't matter whether you intended to or not the consequences that you're gonna face in your life are very real will absolutely
Destroy your life and so it's like look young men sometimes
They think it's so fun to play around with this type of a woman and see how close they can get and flirt with her
Don't ever go down that road. Don't it don't even play around with this sin and it's like married guys
You should not be flirting with other women. Period. And unfortunately, I've seen this in my life where I've seen married dudes where it's like
Well, they're not gonna cheat on their spouse. They would never go that far
They wouldn't touch the Sun if you will but they'll just get as close as they possibly can and it's wicked as hell and this whole
Stupid idea that a lot of worldly men have where it's like well, you know
I can't order off the menu, but I could look at it
No wrong, you got food at home your option is to eat at home your option is to drink at home
But you know once you're married all other restaurants are closed folks drink waters out of thine own well
That's what the Bible teaches
Marriage is to satisfy that don't play around with the porish woman. Also notice verse 9
It says in the twilight in the evening in the black and dark night
Notice how much the Bible is just emphasizing this point how it's just repeating it over over
He could have just said in the twilight and we could kind of figure it out
But he's like in the twilight in case you didn't understand that in the evening
In case you didn't understand that in the not just night
But the dark night not just the dark night the black and dark night
What is the Bible like emphasizing to us is that a lot of sin it goes on at night?
It's just true folks and it's like there's no reason why teen boys teen girls
Young singles married men should just be out and about at night alone. It's just not it's not appropriate
It's like why are you walking and it's you went to her house?
Because you know she's there you want to get close to her you want to play around with it
You want to flirt with her or whatever you go there on purpose and you go there in the dark and black night
How stupid how foolish go to a second Samuel chapter 11 second Samuel 11 and look obviously
It's a little bit of a metaphor here because there is nothing
Intrinsically sinful about working a job at night or doing something at night
But in general it is true that wickedness happens at night
When are people committing adultery at night?
When are people stealing and robbing and shooting drugs and drinking alcohol and doing all these wicked sins?
It's at night and you know what God's people should be sleeping at night. We're children of the day
Look at this mistake here in second Samuel 11 verse 1 and it came to pass after the year was expired
At the time when kings go forth to battle that David sent Joab and his servants with him and all Israel
And they destroyed the children of Ammon and besieged Raba, but David tarried still at Jerusalem
So there was an appropriate time for everything and here the Bible says that it was the time
That Kings go forth to battle and King David wasn't doing that King David wasn't where he was supposed to be at the time
He was supposed to be he's just tearing at Jerusalem. He's chilling out everyone's at war
He's staying back behind being lazy doing who knows what look what it says in verse 2 and it came to pass in and what?
Evening tide that's not a coincidence that the Bible mentions that that David arose from off his bed and walked upon the roof of the
King's house and from the roof. He saw a woman washing herself and the woman was very beautiful to look upon so
David's just chilling out. It's evening tide
It was a time of life that he shouldn't have even been home to begin with
He's supposed to be at war with everyone else not to mention that it's evening tide
When are you supposed to go to sleep at night and he's kind of just up. He's not working hard. He's not really tired
He's not sleeping and he just gets up out of his bed and starts walking around, you know
Just doing things just aimlessly at night is a pretty bad idea. Just oh, let's just go downtown middle of the night
Nothing bad could ever happen. Oh, really cuz few nights ago
there was a shooting downtown in Oklahoma City that shot seven people at a bar and
Look, I'm not saying you deserve to get shot because you go to a bar. That's terrible
But I'm saying is your chances of getting shot are much higher when you're out at a bar in downtown in the middle of
The night then if you were laying in bed at home
Oh, you can't sleep open up the Bible and read open up a book and read do something productive and godly rather than just all
Let's just walk around. Let's just go downtown. You know parents. Here's some good advice
Don't just let your teenagers just leave in the middle of the night. I was gonna hang out my friends downtown
Oh, we're just gonna go to the mall. We're just gonna walk around
That's a bad idea, and if you think that it's not you're just naive
I'm telling you kids want to go out at night with all their friends
That's not anything good that they're wanting to do. I'm just telling you that right now notice what it says
So he sees the woman washing herself and the woman was very beautiful to look upon
Hey, you know when men often get themselves in trouble
It's when they should be asleep and next thing you know they're seeing things that they shouldn't see you know
I wonder how many men that look on things on their phone that they shouldn't be looking on if it happens at night when they
Should be asleep probably doesn't happen at 8 a.m. At the job site
You know what probably happens at night when you should be asleep. Just up around. Oh look
There's a woman washing herself very beautiful to look upon verse 3 and David sent and inquired
After the woman and one said it's not this Bathsheba the daughter of Eliam the wife of Uriah the Hittite
David sent messengers and took her she came in unto him and he lay with her for she was purified for from her uncleanness
She returned unto her house go back to Proverbs 7
So, you know David went down this road and he ended up committing an extremely
Grievous sin here. He committed adultery. And where did it start started by him not being where he was supposed to be
It started by him being just up at night doing whatever and that's kind of what Solomon is noticing of these stupid simple people
Is there just out and about at night walking by the door of her house?
Nothing good is gonna come from that situation. Don't be up super late at night for no reason
Let's get the second attribute of a wicked woman here number two a wicked woman dresses like a whore verse 10
The Bible says and behold there met him a woman with notice the attire of an harlot and subtle of heart
Hey, the Bible says that there is such a thing as the attire of an harlot
There are people out there that dress like whores. What's a harlot a whore?
And what does a whore do a whore tries to attract customers and how does she do that?
She does that by the way
She dresses by exposing parts of her body and this is what the strange woman will do
Also when she picks out her victim when she picks out the man
She wants to manipulate for whatever her motivation is money power
Personal vendetta whatever it is. She will weaponize her body by dressing like a whore and young men
You have to be careful about ladies that just flaunt themselves all over you that expose their bodies to you that dress around like a whore
That is a bad sign. Now. Look I will also just say this as a caveat
We live in a society where dress standards have gone completely out the window and have for
Generations and generations and a lot of these young ladies have just been raised and groomed
By even their own parents to dress like whores. I mean, I've had people before give us gifts for our daughters
It's like short shorts
We just threw it in the trash because I'm not gonna dress my daughter like a whore
But I don't even think they meant anything by it. They're just like, oh, yeah, this is just how girls dress
Oh, yeah, of course girls just short shorts, of course. Oh bikini, of course, you know yoga pants
Of course, this is what every girl wears and that's what a lot of people think
so what I'm not saying is like never even give a young lady a chance who's dressed inappropriately, you know
I think if you're interested in a girl and you get her saved and you start teaching her the Bible
She starts growing and you can see that she has a good heart that she's receptive to change
I'm not saying trash that woman because there's plenty and plenty of
Godly ladies that are soul winners right now serving in church right now that probably didn't dress the most appropriate in the past
You know what that should be forgiven and not brought over their head and them not be ridiculed for that
But here's the thing the woman that just dresses like a whore and stays dressing like a whore and flaunts herself to everyone
It flaunts herself to you. That is a red flag. It's a bad sign. And again this stupid man
It's like I went out and I beheld the simple ones
It's like it's so dumb how easily men will fall from it just from how a woman will dress
But look you got to renew your mind with the Bible and say yeah, she may look good
She may look like something that's desirable, but a woman that's dressed like a whore is bad news
Why because it says that she's subtle of heart and you know the way that you dress reveals your heart. It's true
I mean, why was it that the false prophets and the Pharisees?
Why was it that they went around in long clothing?
It was because they had a wicked heart and they wanted to show everyone look how spiritual I am
Look how godly I am. I'm a man of God. I'm a scribe. I'm a Pharisee and Jesus said hey
Beware of those that go in long clothing
Why would he tell us to worry about what they're dressed like if it had nothing to do with their heart?
No, it's a reflection of their heart. And you know, I always say when I see a woman wearing a certain dress
I just assume this woman has a good heart. I just assumed this is a good person
Why because we live in a society where the default?
Where the normal is for at the minimum women to be wearing pants, which is a man's garment
usually very immodest at that and
Very commonly you just see women walking around wearing practically nothing at all and you know what it is shameful
It's embarrassing and you know who it's really embarrassing for is dad and who it's really embarrassing for is
Husband oftentimes. I mean you see husband and wife walking down the road holding hands
It's like do you have no shame that just everyone could see what your wife looks like
You've got no shame in that whatsoever. You should be ashamed of yourself. It's gross
It's inappropriate and I understand that a lot of ladies are growing up in this culture and they just think it's normal
But let me warn you there's a lot of ladies as well that dress that way because they're wicked don't get this idea
Oh good only God could judge me. Don't ever judge someone by how they dress
No, no, no the attire of and harlot the Bible says and you know what if I don't have any sons
I've only got daughters and so my job is to make sure my daughters don't grow up and dress like whores
You got boys. You need to warn your boys. Hey, don't talk to that girl. She's dressed like a whore
Hey, why don't you talk to the girl at church?
Why don't you you know meet a nice girl?
And here's the thing anchor Baptist Church in like 15 years is gonna be packed with ladies because I've got all girls
I got other families just got all girls just pumping out all these girls
You know, we're gonna have people moving from all over the world to come to anchor Baptist Church in a few years
But so us as men as protectors of our wives and daughters, we've got to say, okay
You know, we've got to do we've got to make sure that our daughters don't dress like whores
We got to make sure that they're not wearing the attire of an harlot that they're dressed modestly
The way the Bible says and you could say there I'll read for you
first Timothy 2 9 in like manner also that women adorn themselves in modest apparel with shame faceless and
sobriety not with broidered hair or gold or pearls or costly array
Bible says that women should be wearing modest apparel with shame faceless
Meaning if a woman was to be exposed if a woman's nakedness was to show she would actually be embarrassed by that
Not that she's going around trying to do that
It's like there's so many women out there today that they're not embarrassed by being naked
They're not embarrassed by people seeing their body. They're doing it on purpose
The Bible says women should be modest and you know what you should be modest at all times
My wife goes to the gym my sister-in-law goes to the gym. You know what they wear at the gym skirts and dresses
Whoa, it's so crazy. It's so fundamental. It's so insane
No, I guarantee you there's people that look at them and respect that and there's probably a lot of whores that despise them
But nuts to the whores because they're actually gonna be godly
They're actually gonna dress modestly and you know, obviously my wife is married
My sister-in-law is married but young ladies if you're out in the world and you're even going to the gym and stuff like that and you're
Dressed modestly the right type of men are gonna take notice of that because I think what ladies think is well
If I don't show my body no man's gonna care. No man's gonna be attracted to me wrong
It's just that all this, you know all the pieces of garbage all the crappy guys all the scumbags
Those guys aren't gonna be attracted to you
But you know who's gonna be attracted to you godly men men that want to honor the Lord men that actually want to be
Faithful to you because men that will just you know be whoremongers
They don't care how she looks because he's gonna leave her as fast as she's gonna leave him
He's not interested in staying faithful to her
But you know a man that actually wants a wife wants a woman that's gonna be modest
So he doesn't want to share her. He doesn't want her to be open to everyone else. He wants her for himself
Do not marry the type of woman dresses like a whore verse 11 of Proverbs 7. Here's the third attribute a
Wicked woman is loud and stubborn look at verse 11
She is loud and stubborn her feet abide not in her house
Let me tell you something man run away from the loud and stubborn woman
A lot of guys are stuck with this type of a woman after marriage, but if you are not married yet boy
Oh, boy, do you need to watch out for a woman's heart and a woman's attitude the strange woman a woman that is ungodly
She's loud and stubborn now. There's a phrase in our society now that I think kind of
Encapsulates this idea and it's called a pick-me-girl raise your hand
Have you ever heard of a pick-me-girl or am I just bringing the Gen Z lingo up here? Okay?
So here's what a pick-me-girl is a woman who seeks malvalidate. I'm sorry male validation
By attention or and attention by subtly or overtly trying to appear
Different or better than other women often in ways that align with traditional masculine interests or values
So pick me girls. You might also have heard like I'm not like other girls anyone heard this kind of stuff
it's like a girl will be super loud and obnoxious and ask and I'm sorry act in a
Masculine way to show that she's not like other girls and she'll kind of even pretend sometimes to take male interest
Thinking that she's gonna garner all this male attention
And she'll even kind of like be loud and act walk like a man talk like man make crude jokes
Like a man and try to be one of the boys. She's not like other girls. She's a pick-me-girl. That's scary
I don't know why girls think that guys like this, but no no
We don't want to hear young ladies girls that are potential suitors of men telling dirty jokes
Walking around all like all like a man being all loud and you know when I was a teenager when I was going school
Here were the pick-me-girls now. I'm not against you if you've ever been involved in any of these things
This was just my anecdotal experience the pick-me-girls were softball players and rodeo girls the softball players
They just loved to act like men and walk like men and talk like men and some of them were like butch
Lesbians even and they just thought they were so cool and that we they were gonna impress the baseball players
We're just like like you guys are weird like no baseball player was into any softball player you think like oh
It's almost the same game. No, it's not but oh, it's almost the same game
You know they're gonna be into each other wrong and then for some reason the rodeo girls
It's just if you ever go to a rodeo. It's just cringe
It's just I like the actual event like the rodeo itself is cool
But it's just cringe the way that the girls will dress and talks like why does that girl have a huge dip in her lip?
Oh, yeah, cuz she's a pick-me-girl. She's not like other girls. She's a cowgirl. She can ride a bull so stupid
and you know we went to a rodeo recently from Cameron and Miss Jennifer and
there was a bunch of these rodeo girls and they strapped themselves on the bull and
One woman got like almost crushed to death like we could hear her screaming. She's like
It's like why are you doing this like it's dumb enough that men get on top of these thousand pound animals
But look pick me girl. We're not impressed. I don't know about you, you know, I'm not single. Thank God
But if I was I wouldn't want to marry a woman
That's walking like this for the rest of her life because she had to ride a bull, you know
Hey be feminine ladies, and here's here's a feminine attribute being meek and quiet
What's the wicked woman like loud and stubborn?
You know the virtuous woman the Bible says their husband is known in the gates
You know, it's a red flag when your family unit is not known by the husband
It's like oh the the husband of so-and-so that's a red flag
What does that tell you it tells you that someone's a loudmouth woman
It's that someone's loud and stubborn and has the attributes of a wicked woman according to the Word of God
Ladies that want to please God. What are they meek and quiet? They're not trying to be the star of the show
they're not trying to garner all this male attention especially when you're married for crying out loud and that's what a whore does even if
She's married she wants to try to get as much male attention as possible. That is wicked. That's a red flag
Don't be a pick-me-girl, please. Please go to 1st Peter chapter number 3 1st Peter chapter 3
1st Peter 3 verse 1 the Bible says likewise you wives be in subjection to your own husbands
That if any obey not the word they may also without the word be won by the conversation of the wives
so this is opposite of stubborn and rebellious a godly woman is in subjection to her husband and if she's not married she's in
Subjection to her father and you know if you young men are looking at potentially marrying a girl
You should see the way that she treats her dad the way that she speaks about her dad the way that she responds to
His commands or his correction does she buck and complain and whine and moan
Well, it's gonna be way worse with you because he probably spanks her, you know, despite what some pastors think he probably spanks her
It's like you're not okay, and I don't recommend that you do
I think that's weird but just saying like how a woman treats her dad
It's a revelation of her character if a woman just despises her dad refuses to obey him bucks at his command
It's like you're in for a world of hurt for the rest of your life and your life's gonna suck and just don't marry that woman
Marry the submissive woman says verse 2 while they behold your chaste
conversation coupled with fear
Who's adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plating the hair and of wearing of gold or putting on of apparel
But let it be the hidden man of the heart in that which is not corruptible
Even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit notice this which is in the sight of God of great price
God looks down and he sees a lady that is meek and quiet and submissive and godly and that is a woman of great
Price in God's eyes, you know ladies like that. I believe if they're praying to the Lord
They're asking for a good husband. They're asking, you know for a good man to be led to find her
I think God's gonna answer that prayer more than he would from the loud and stubborn and rebellious girl who dresses like a whore
No, you need to honor God honor his commandments and that is the best way to get blessing in your life
Says verse 5 for after this manner in the old time the holy women also who trusted in God adorned themselves
Being in subjection unto their own husbands even as Sarah obeyed Abraham calling him
Lord whose daughters he are as long as you do well and are not afraid with any amazement
So notice holy women that trust in God. What are they they're in subjection to their own husbands
And this is just a truth the godlier of a woman you are the more submissive
You're gonna be to your husband the godlier of a woman. You are the better wife
You're gonna be the godlier of a man. You are the godlier of a husband the better of a husband
You're gonna be it's the godly women. It's the holy women that are in subject their subjection to their husband
It's the strange woman who's loud and stubborn that makes a scene that publicly contradicts her husband
That is a bad sign. You should not be behaving that way go back to Proverbs 7 number 4 another
Attribute of a wicked woman is that a wicked woman is common. She's common look at verse 12
Now is she without now in the streets notice and lieth in wait at every corner
What's funny about the I'm not like other girls is that yes, they are
They're exactly like the other girls the Bible says that the whore the wicked woman the woman that's just loose
She's on every corner
But a godly woman the Proverbs 31 woman a righteous woman the Bible saying like who could find her price is far above
Rubies and look men in here that are already married that have a godly wife you ought to thank God for that blessing
You ought to appreciate her you ought to love and cherish her and honor her as the weaker vessel and never take her for
Granted because they are not a dime a dozen. They're like rubies. They're extremely valuable
They are great blessings. You know, the whore is on every street corner. You want to find a loose woman?
You want to find the strange woman? Okay here pick anywhere on the map and you'll find her doesn't matter if it's a red state
A blue state doesn't matter what country it's just those type of women are everywhere
But you know a woman that decides I want to be a godly woman. I want to submit to my husband
I want to go to church. I want to raise children. I want to read the Bible
I want to go soul-winning these women are not just everywhere folks. They are great great blessing
You should never take that for granted heard of Proverbs 31 since we're already in Proverbs
I just want to show you that verse there Proverbs 31 verse 10 notice what it says who can find a
Virtuous woman for her price is far above rubies. It's like how do you guys find these ladies?
How do you find her? It's hard to find her price is far above rubies
And of course, there's a similar principle with men because in Psalm 12 the Bible saying the godly man sees if you know
The faithful fail from among the children of men help Lord
So it's not like there's just tons of just wonderful independent fundamental Baptist soul winner guys, too
But it just seems like there's more of those guys than there are of ladies in most churches
I've seen and been to there's been way more single guys than single ladies
Those single ladies get picked up pretty dang quick and you know, I praise the Lord for the time of life
I was in because in
2017 when I met my wife at the red hot preaching conference
It was funny because there was like six seven eight other couples that met at that same week who are married
It's like I had like the best time now. All these single guys are just like alright
What country do I got to go to to find you know, I mean and hey praise the Lord
That's fine. As long as you just don't find the wicked woman as long as you don't find the whore
Just don't go on every street corner find her at a Baptist Church at least even if it's in a different country
Get her saved if not number five another attribute of a wicked woman a wicked woman is
Easy, she's easy. What do I mean by that? Look at verse 13
So she caught him and kissed him and with an impudent face
Said unto him. This is not the way it should work, you know wicked guys worldly guys
And this is wrong, but I'm just telling the reality of what they do
I mean, they're falling all over themselves to get a woman to be with her or to be with him
He's trying to do anything to get this girl
It's usually not that women are just throwing themselves at dudes like that's crazy
But what this woman is is she's loose. She caught him and kissed him with an impudent face
Said unto him. I have peace offerings with me this day. Have I paid my vows now?
I'll be honest. I don't fully understand why she's bringing this up
It seems very random because this woman is obviously very wicked to just grab a guy and start kissing him
Like that's insane behavior. That's really weird
But I almost think that maybe it's kind of symbolism of how sometimes people when they know you're a Christian
They will they will put on a show of spirituality
So that it doesn't feel like oh, you're not really going down that bad of a road because this person's spiritual to this person's religious, too
Oh, no big deal. You know, God will forgive us. The grace of God will cover us man. No big deal
Maybe she'll kind of use some spiritual lingo to put your guard down
That's kind of my best interpretation of this verse, but I'm not dogmatic on that. Like I said, it does kind of just seem random
That's my best guess there. But look at verse 15
It says therefore came I forth to meet thee diligently to seek thy face and I have found thee
So here comes the flattery the reality of the situation is that Solomon sitting in his house and he sees these dummies
These young men just walking around walking around in the black and dark night walking by the way of her house
And it says that she came to him. She came out to hitch now. She is without so she's without the house
She caught him. She kissed him and now she's laying it on thick. Oh, I found you
I've been searching for you my whole life. Oh, I've just been wanting you for so long
But we couldn't and now we can't it's flattery. It's lies. Look at verse 16
I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry
So all spiritual lingo is out the table now when you start talking about the bed, you need to literally run away
Literally run away like Joseph did when Joseph's master's wife literally said to him lie with me
I mean doesn't get any clearer than that. She's not using any spiritual lingo and what did he do?
He ran and he ran so fast that she had his clothes in her hand still
When he left and it's like look if it's gotten to this point, you've already failed so many steps behind
But at that moment, hey, don't worry about that. Just get out of there because you don't want to go all the way
You don't want to commit this wicked sin
She's like I've decked my bed with coverings of tapestry with carved works with fine linen of Egypt
I have perfumed my bed with myrrh aloes and cinnamon come let us take our fill of
Love until the mornings now. She just comes right out and says her intentions. Let us solace
ourselves with love
Now go to 1st Thessalonians chapter number 4 1st Thessalonians 4 you have to realize that a woman that is easy
A woman that is loose and this would also apply to men
Men that just want to be with you on the first date men that are just whoremongers
these people do not love you and
Teens and young adults when they're going through that dating phase and all of us have felt it too with our spouse
If we're married that initial phase of being in love or falling in love or that initial infatuation with someone
It's that phase where just everything is easy
There's no effort you have to put into the relationship
The feelings are super strong and your heart is just beating around them and those feelings
Happen with the woman that you end up marrying
but sometimes people could be in bad situations where those feelings are equally as strong in a negative situation and it's extremely dangerous but
realize that just because
You're feeling those feelings does not mean that that person loves you it does not mean that you love the other person
Because sin by nature is not loving the Bible says love is the fulfilling of the law
And anytime you are sinning you're not loving God and you're not loving your neighbor, so you could call it love
It's not love fornication is not love adultery is dead sure not love you may have this feeling of infatuation
It may feel so real in your chest in your body, but it's not it's wicked
It's not love and you know I think about the story of Amnon and his sister Tamar
You know Emma Amnon was so sore vexed with desire for his sister. He wanted to have her and he had this friend
John a dab that concocted this wicked plan that he would feign sick and that
Tamar would take care of him and he ended up forcing his sister
Terrible story one of the saddest stories in the Bible
it just hits me in the gut every time I read it and
After he forces his sister
She walks away crying and weeping and putting dust and ashes on herself and she you know
Gets rid of her nice coat and everything like that. And then the Bible says something interesting
It says that at first, you know, he was sore vexed for his sister
But then after he had forced her the hatred that he had towards her was stronger than the love
That he felt before he actually forced her and this is just the reality of fornication and don't be an idiot to where you're like
Oh, I need to experience this to be true. Just take my word for it that you may feel those desires of infatuation
It may feel good. It may feel so strong. It may feel so real, but the moment you do it
You know what's gonna happen guilt shame and sometimes hatred sometimes couples. They're dating they're in love
They're together. They're happy and then they commit fornication. You know what sometimes happens. They stop loving each other
Why because they just by nature did something harmful to each other. They just wronged each other
They just wronged God and you know what that guilt and shame sometimes can ruin relationships and look God doesn't want that
You know, he wants he wants you to get married and then you could enjoy that without any guilt without any shame for the rest
Of your life and it could be a blessing and something that you treasure and that is great in your life
But you know what not before marriage and not outside of marriage, you know people want to make fun of purity culture today
Well, you know what purity culture leads to great marriages purity culture leads to not having bastard children
purity culture leads to not having STDs purity culture leads to not having millions and millions of babies slaughtered by
People who got pregnant outside of wedlock and of course everyone loves right everyone loves. Oh, let's talk about the exception the exception
Let's talk about incest and rape and in the case of the mother
but let's just be real you want to know the vast majority the
Ninety nine point nine nine nine percent of the reason babies are killed in abortion is cuz mom was a whore
Cuz mom was a whore and cuz some stupid man was a whore monger. That's the rule
Not the exception and so a purity culture. It's so terrible. Okay, you know what?
You're terrible for supporting fornication when it leads to babies being killed or babies being raised without a parent
Babies being raised in the foster system and getting sold to sodomites now
I mean sodomites can adopt babies in some places now. That's the result of fornication
But you know what in here would any of you ever give up your children to a sodomite?
Not over you not over your dead body right, but you know what the rule is that fornication destroys lives
adultery destroys
lives first Thessalonians 4 verse 1 furthermore then we beseech you brethren and
Exhort you by the Lord Jesus that as he have received of us how you ought to walk and to please God
So you would have bound more and more for you know what commandments we gave you by the Lord Jesus
For this is the will of God even your sanctification
That ye should abstain from fornication that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in
sanctification and honor not in the lust of concupiscence
even as the Gentiles which know not God that no man go beyond notice this phrase and
Defraud his brother in any matter because that the Lord is the avenger of all such as we also have forewarned you and testified
For God have not called us to uncleanness but unto holiness he therefore that despiseth
Despiseth not man, but God who hath also given unto us his Holy Spirit. Hey
I'm telling you fornication. You know if you commit fornication you are sinning against your own body, but you know what?
You're also fraught defrauding your neighbor. You're also angering God
You know think about it like this young man you go and commit fornication with some woman
You know that woman is gonna be some man's wife someday, and you know you're defrauding that man
You're harming that man
You're causing her to be defiled and vice versa the strange woman that goes after a man and defiles him
You know that's some godly ladies Lord willing future husband and a lot of times these issues brought into marriage
Can cause a lifetime strife in marriage when you have all this baggage and look I believe
With all my heart that couples can work through that the couples who have made mistakes in the past
Can have a healthy marriage kind of a blessed marriage can have a happy marriage
But you know the ideal situation and who's more likely to have a blessed and happy marriage is when it to
Virgins marry each other and they stay married together
That's gonna be God's ideal plan and look can keep my commandments and live
God wants you to live both physically and you know
He wants you to live a better life - Christ came to give us life and to give us life more abundantly
And you got people right now attacking God's commandments attacking preachers that preach God
Commandments saying we're acting like a pope if we preach God's holiness and God's standards and God's Word and that we're teaching doctrines of
Devils by telling people live holy lives. That's what pastor Jones recently taught but you know what?
I'm actually trying to help you by ripping face against fornication and by telling you how wicked it is and by trying to get you
to avoid the strange woman. Why? Because the guilt and shame of me preaching this sermon is not gonna hurt you.
The guilt and shame of actually committing fornication is gonna hurt you and bringing that stuff into your marriage in the future.
That's what's gonna hurt you. This sermon is not gonna hurt you. Calling whores whores is not gonna hurt you.
Telling women stop dressing like whores is not gonna hurt you. Telling men watch out for the flattering woman is not gonna hurt you.
You know what's gonna hurt you? Disregarding God's warnings.
Disregarding the commandments of God.
Disregarding chapter number seven of the book of Proverbs. That's what's actually going to hurt God's people. Go back to Proverbs 7.
Number six, another attribute of a wicked woman.
Wicked women are not protected. Have you noticed that? Look at what verse 19 says, "For the good man is not at home."
He's gone a long journey. He hath taken a bag of money with him and will come home at the day appointed.
You know, the devil loves feminism. He loves it so much. The devil loves that he's convinced women that they're so strong and independent on their own.
They don't need no man. They don't need no husband. They don't need their dad looking after them.
That's what the devil wants you to think because you're in a vulnerable position to either get taken advantage of or just because you have no leader.
You have no one protecting you. You have no one forcing you to make the right decision sometimes.
Sometimes you can go down a dark path to where you become this woman. You become this strange woman.
The strange woman is not your wife, folks. The strange woman is not your daughter.
You know who the strange woman is? It's the woman where the good man is not at home.
And whether that's dad or husband doesn't make any difference whatsoever because, you know,
I believe that a man should leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife and they twain shall be one flesh.
You know, children and especially girls should go under the authority of dad straight to the authority of their husband.
And the world today wants to push that it's so important for girls to spread their wings, experience life,
and go live in their 20s in a different country or a different state and go to college and join all the fraternities.
It's a recipe for disaster.
And the devil wants to convince you that it's something that's enriching and something that you've got to experience it or you're missing out on life.
Let me just tell you what you're experiencing.
You're experiencing drugs, you're experiencing alcohol, you're experiencing whoredom.
That's what a lot of college experience is.
And you know what? My daughters don't ever need a time in their life where they're just out in the world unprotected by themselves.
They need to go from my authority straight to husband.
That's why we literally have the symbolism of in a wedding, who walks the bride down the aisle?
The father does. And the pastor says, "Who gives this woman's hand in marriage?"
And the man says, "Her mother and I do." Right?
And then she walks to her future husband.
Then she gets married. That happens for a reason.
And it's a picture of the fact that she goes from being protected, watched, supervised, loved, cared for,
commanded, instructed by dad straight to the husband.
Don't buy into this feminist garbage that women need to go experience the world on their own.
It's a recipe for disaster.
And I'll show you that actually. Go to, if you would, Genesis 34.
While you're turning there, Mark 3 verse 27 says,
"No man can enter into a strong man's house and spoil his goods except he will first bind the strong man.
And then he will spoil his house."
You know what the devil wants today?
Let me just help you, let me help all these people that apparently have stopped reading their Bible
and are just so easily tossed and fro to and fro with false doctrine.
The devil, what he wants today is not for Baptist preachers to scream and thunder forth God's commandments.
That's not what the devil wants.
You know what the devil wants actually is to bind the strong man.
Because when the devil has bound the strong man, now everything else is vulnerable.
And you know, in your home, who the devil wants to bind, he wants to bind dad.
He wants to bind the authority of dad.
He wants to promote movies and TV shows where dad is stupid, dad's an idiot, dad's a country bumpkin, dad doesn't know anything.
Or if he's a Christian, he's like abusive and a terrible monster and an evil person.
The devil wants to absolutely destroy dad's authority.
The devil actually wants to promote preaching that would be hurting the authority of dad.
And you know, in a church, you know what the devil wants to do?
The devil doesn't want a pastor that's going to stand strong in the word of God, that's going to preach hard sermons against sin, that's going to say, "Thus saith the Lord."
You know what the devil wants is the devil wants the strong man to be bound.
The devil wants to come in your ear, not whisper you to keep God's commandments,
not whisper that salvation is by faith alone.
The devil wants to come in your ear and whisper, "Preach soft sermons.
Stop preaching so hard. Stop preaching the truth."
That's actually what the devil wants, folks.
This idea that, oh, the devil, you know, the new IFB, we're being influenced and led by devils.
It's like, what the hell is wrong with you? What are you talking about?
No, no, no. The devil wants to bind the strong man.
He wants to bind you, husbands. He wants to support preaching that binds dad,
that binds husband, that binds pastor.
No, we need to empower men today. We need to empower dad. Why?
Because dad should be protecting baby daughter from birth till 18, 19, 20.
Whenever that lady gets married, dad should be protecting her.
Dad should tell her what to do. Dad should tell her what to wear.
And then after that, you know what? It's not, yay, feminist,
yay, loud and stubborn wife, yay, she's in charge,
yay, you know, we're equals. No, no, no.
Then it goes to in obedience and submission to her husband
who is also there to protect her.
And you know what? It's not just about having a boss.
By the way, husbands, you are the boss.
But it's not just about having a boss.
It's about having a protector.
It's about having someone to guide you and show you what's right and lead you.
You know, like I told you on Sunday, I told my wife,
"Look, I know the doctrine. I know what the Bible says. I know what's right.
Follow me, and I'm going to lead my wife in the right direction."
You know what the devil would love for my home is for me to not be in charge.
That's what the devil would love.
The devil would love for you and your home to not be in charge.
The devil loves things like this.
Genesis 34, verse 1, the Bible says,
"And Dinah, the daughter of Leah, which she bare unto Jacob,
went out to see the daughters of the land."
What's she doing? What's the point?
She got any goals? She got any missions?
She's accomplishing anything?
No, she's just out to see the girls.
Just out to see the daughters of the land.
She's out on her own. No brothers, no dad, no husband,
no someone looking after her.
Okay, she's out to see the daughters of the land.
Verse 2, "And when Shechem, the son of Hamor,
the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her,
he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her."
Oh yeah, so strong, so independent.
You're a superwoman. No one could ever get to you.
No one could ever deceive you.
You know what? That's a prideful attitude.
God has given ladies authority for their whole life to be under,
and you know what? You can get mad about that.
You can say it's not fair, whatever.
You know what? God actually loves you, ladies.
God actually loves you, and He knows what's best for you.
And you know what? It's not good for you just to be out in the world by yourself,
no one taking care of you, no one watching you,
no one to report to or answer to, just all on your own.
That's a bad idea.
And look, I'm not saying that, oh, you know, ladies can never go to the grocery store
or anything like that.
Look, hey, there's this thing called guns.
It's great.
I'm for women getting trained and carrying those suckers for when I'm at work
and I can't protect my wife.
Hey, I'm all for that.
But you know what?
Ladies should not be going this long period of their life
where no one's taking care of them, no one's watching after them.
That is a recipe for disaster.
And, you know, I went to Germany last year
and I saw a bunch of ladies walking around holding hands.
And guess what?
They weren't even lesbians.
They're just afraid of the roaming hordes of Muslims that have absolutely dominated Europe.
And here's these straight normal girls walking around holding hands.
It's like, it wouldn't be nice if you were actually married.
It wouldn't be nice if you actually had a dad protecting you.
Instead of you just, oh, hope Muslims don't get you. Good luck.
It's a bad idea.
Back to Proverbs 7.
In conclusion here, let's just look at the result of what this stupid man does,
playing around with sin, getting too close to it, the effects it has.
Verse 21, "With her much fair speech, she caused him to yield.
With the flattering of her lips, she forced him."
This is kind of a striking verse because men are stronger than women.
And here it's saying like, "She forced him."
How does that work?
This works because, like I said, let's just be honest,
this is the strongest temptation that men ever face.
And sometimes it could almost be like you play around with this, you get too close.
It's almost like you could reach this just point of no return,
where I don't know if guy's brains just shut off or it's just too strong of a temptation,
but it's saying like, "She caused him to yield. She forced him."
That's why you don't even want to go down this road, why you don't want to play with it,
why you don't want to take it lightly.
No, flee fornication, the Bible says.
Get as far away from it as possible.
Verse 22, "He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks."
Anyone in here has ever slaughtered a cow?
All right, I know this is Oklahoma.
Nice, we got one, that's cool.
Okay, I've never slaughtered a cow.
I've slaughtered an antelope, some chickens, some birds, stuff like that.
And it's like, it's a brutal process.
It's just like, it's going to the end, it's done, it's over, it's just you grab that chicken's head and you just slit its throat.
It's just dead.
Like that's the imagery that the Bible's using about this stupid man, like an ox going to the slaughter.
Look at verse 23, "till a dart strike through his liver as a bird hasteth to the snare, and knoweth not that it is for his life."
You know, when you're going to slaughter an animal, it's not intelligent.
It's not like you're saying, alright chicken, you are now going to be killed.
Just let you know, you want to say goodbye to your friends, you want a last meal.
No, it's just like, it's picked up, it has no clue what's happening to it, and it just lights out.
And then it just becomes Rooster-Lotus in my house, we call it Rooster-Lotus.
It's great, Inch-a-Lotus, it's great.
But you know, it's just, that's what this young man is like, he's just an idiot.
He's just going towards a trap, and he doesn't even know it's a trap.
He's going towards death, he doesn't even know it's death.
Oh, you think she's pretty, you think she's nice, no, it's a trap.
The Bible says a whore is a deep ditch.
What is a whore? Dictionary definition, deep ditch.
And you know what a deep ditch is? It's dangerous, it's treacherous, it's a trap.
How do you get out of a deep ditch? Oh, you don't. You die.
And you know what? Play around with fornication, watch your life get destroyed for forever.
And I don't want that for you. I'm just telling you what could happen.
I'm just trying to actually love you enough to tell you the truth.
You want to see your life get destroyed forever? You want to even possibly die?
Go ahead and commit adultery. Go ahead and commit fornication.
You might piss someone off so bad that they kill you. It's just reality.
Look at verse number 25. "Let not thine," this is very important, "heart decline to her ways."
Go not astray in her paths. It takes both. You want to avoid this sin?
Notice, don't give your heart to her or go in her paths.
Don't sit here and lust after her beauty. Don't let her take you with her eyelids.
Don't play flirtatious games. Don't be playing around and getting close to it
from an emotional point of view with your heart. And also, don't even go near her physically.
And you know, these are two great safety mechanisms to help you never commit this sin.
It's like, how does some men go their whole lives being faithful to their wife,
and some men are just complete whoremongers? It's this right here.
It's one is an idiot and allows his heart to be taken by it and goes near the way of her house
and gets close to her and tries to play with it a little bit.
And then the other person is wise and says, "This is dangerous. This is wicked.
I'm not going to sit here lusting after her. I'm not playing any flirtatious games.
My heart's staying away and my feet are staying away too."
Notice what it says in verse 26, "For she have cast down many wounded."
Many what? "Strong men have been slain by her. Her house is the way to hell,
going down to the chambers of death."
Do not get so prideful, men, that you think, "Oh, I never have to think about this.
This sermon really doesn't apply to me. I'm good. I'll never fall into this temptation."
No, you ought to take heed to this and make sure that your heart is constantly
not being given into that kind of stuff, that your heart is staying tender to God,
that your heart is getting renewed with the words of God. You're not letting your heart
being taken after a strange woman, and you need to make sure that you're constantly having safeguards
in your life that don't even physically allow you to do it. And the moment you start thinking,
"Oh, no big deal. I'll never go down that road," is the moment you're now in danger.
Because I'm going to tell you the reality is that you're a human being with a sin nature,
and you can commit this sin. And people that get out of church, stop reading the Word of God,
stop living a godly life, they can go down that road. And guess what? Many do.
That's why the Bible says many. She's cast down many wounded. Many strong men have been slain by her.
Let's finish in Proverbs 31, Proverbs chapter 31.
I think that's why the Bible just focuses so much on this, is that this is not a small issue.
This is not affecting a small number of people. This is affecting many. This is affecting most.
Most men out there are committing fornication. Most ladies out there are committing fornication.
It's wicked, but it's true. Proverbs 31, verse 3. Let's close with this verse.
"Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings."
What does the Bible say? That many strong men have been slain by her.
Oh, you know, you think you're so strong. You think you're so tough.
And some guys even brag and boast about how many girls they're with.
You know what a real strong man does? What a real man of character, what a real man of integrity does?
Is he doesn't give his strength unto women, plural. You know what he does?
He awards his strength to one woman. That's what a real man does.
A real man finds one woman and he awards his strength to her and he awards his love to her
and his care and his protection and his guidance and his authority and his leadership and his love.
He awards that to one woman. And so look, how do you avoid the whore?
You know, you do these things we talk about, but make sure that you're being with your wife.
Make sure that you get married. Make sure that you're drinking waters out of your own well,
not having to even think about going down this road because it will destroy our lives.
Let's pray. Lord, we thank you for your word. We thank you for the warnings therein.
I pray that every young man in here would take these things very seriously, Lord,
that they realize what a grievous sin that fornication is, that they would avoid women
as potential suitors for them in marriage that match these characteristics.
I pray for all the people in here who are not married, who desire to be someday,
that you would help them find godly spouses, that you bless them in their future marriages,
and also pray for all the people in this room that are married, that you would help us
to be blessed in our marriages and to never go down this road.
In Jesus' name we pray.