WEBVTT 00:00.000 --> 00:05.400 This is a great chapter, and one of the verses that jumped out at me just as we were reading it 00:05.400 --> 00:09.280 kind of had to do with this morning's sermon where he said in verse 20, 00:09.280 --> 00:14.560 "...giving thanks always for all things, unto God and the Father, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ." 00:14.560 --> 00:19.240 It has to do with what I was preaching this morning about Thanksgiving coming up this week, being thankful. 00:19.240 --> 00:22.320 And look at verse 10, though. The Bible says in verse 10, 00:22.320 --> 00:27.160 "...proving what is acceptable unto the Lord." 00:27.920 --> 00:30.440 I like the short verse in the Bible that is succinct. 00:30.440 --> 00:33.720 "...proving what is acceptable unto the Lord." 00:33.720 --> 00:40.240 Now, unfortunately, what we consider acceptable, what we consider right, and what God considers acceptable, 00:40.240 --> 00:43.000 are often two very, very different things. 00:43.000 --> 00:47.480 And by the way, our society is not getting better. It's getting worse. 00:47.480 --> 00:51.760 God told us that evil men and seducers shall wax worse and worse. 00:51.760 --> 00:55.240 We're on a downward spiral in America. We're on a downward spiral in the world. 00:55.280 --> 01:00.640 And as the world gets further and further from what God preaches in the Bible, 01:00.640 --> 01:05.720 more and more of what the world considers acceptable is going to be condemned by the Bible 01:05.720 --> 01:11.400 because of the fact that Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever. 01:11.400 --> 01:17.200 And so as the world changes and changes and changes, Jesus stays the same, the Bible stays the same, 01:17.200 --> 01:21.920 God stays the same, His Word stays the same, there's a bigger and bigger gap 01:21.920 --> 01:29.080 between what a real Bible preacher preaches and what the Bible says and what the world thinks about it 01:29.080 --> 01:31.160 and what the world considers acceptable. 01:31.160 --> 01:35.440 Now, what I want to preach about tonight is actually the latter part of the chapter, which talks about marriage. 01:35.440 --> 01:37.880 It talks about husbands and wives and how to have a good marriage. 01:37.880 --> 01:39.680 Now, some of you guys are probably just thinking, 01:39.680 --> 01:42.520 well, I would just love to be married, you know, let alone have a good marriage. 01:42.520 --> 01:44.560 I just want to have a marriage, okay? 01:44.560 --> 01:46.320 And, you know, the Bible says, you know, 01:46.320 --> 01:49.720 "...whoso find the wife, find it the good thing, and obtain faith with the Lord." 01:49.720 --> 01:53.520 And, you know, I don't know what to tell you guys, but, you know, I just work harder, I guess. 01:53.520 --> 01:58.080 But I want to talk about this tonight because one day you will be married 01:58.080 --> 02:00.360 and you'll want to know how to have that good marriage. 02:00.360 --> 02:06.880 Or, you know, young ladies that someday will be married and need to know these things, even my children, 02:06.880 --> 02:09.160 and then those of us that are already married. 02:09.160 --> 02:11.920 You know, we can use these things and we need this preaching 02:11.920 --> 02:15.440 to help us have a marriage that's acceptable to God, that pleases God. 02:15.440 --> 02:16.560 And let me tell you something, 02:16.560 --> 02:20.440 it's not what the marriage seminar out there probably has to tell you from the world. 02:20.440 --> 02:24.240 They're probably going to tell you the opposite of what the Bible is going to tell you. 02:24.240 --> 02:26.000 And I'm not preaching my opinion tonight. 02:26.000 --> 02:28.960 I'm preaching Ephesians chapter 5 and other places in the Bible. 02:28.960 --> 02:32.200 Let's start where God starts. 02:32.200 --> 02:35.080 He says in verse 22, this is where it gets on the subject of marriage. 02:35.080 --> 02:40.520 He says, "...wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord." 02:40.520 --> 02:43.000 Now, what does the word submit mean? 02:43.000 --> 02:45.800 Does anybody have any idea what the word sub means? 02:45.800 --> 02:48.360 Have you ever heard of a submarine? 02:48.360 --> 02:49.400 Think about it. 02:49.400 --> 02:54.200 A submission is basically putting yourself under someone else's authority. 02:54.200 --> 02:55.080 That's what it is. 02:55.080 --> 02:56.680 Sub means under. 02:56.680 --> 03:02.640 And it says, "...wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. 03:02.640 --> 03:08.120 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, 03:08.120 --> 03:09.720 and he is the savior of the body. 03:09.720 --> 03:13.040 Therefore, as the church is subject unto the Christ, 03:13.080 --> 03:16.600 so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything." 03:16.600 --> 03:17.920 Now, stop and think about this. 03:17.920 --> 03:22.680 If God here is telling us that the way the wife submits to their husband 03:22.680 --> 03:27.440 should be equivalent to the way that the church is subject unto Christ, 03:27.440 --> 03:29.840 He said that twice. 03:29.840 --> 03:33.600 Now, that's a pretty strong statement, because as far as I know, 03:33.600 --> 03:35.240 I mean, if you came to church tonight, 03:35.240 --> 03:41.040 you probably expect the church to be subject to Christ, not Pastor Anderson's opinion. 03:41.040 --> 03:45.560 I mean, to what extent should we let Christ be the authority in our church? 03:45.560 --> 03:49.400 To what extent should the Bible determine what we believe, what we preach, what we do? 03:49.400 --> 03:55.520 You say, well, Pastor Anderson, the Bible is the sole authority of all matters of faith and practice. 03:55.520 --> 04:01.520 You'd say, if this is a Baptist church, of course the Bible, God's word, Jesus Christ, 04:01.520 --> 04:02.080 would be the authority. 04:02.080 --> 04:06.760 Not a man, not the pastor, not some other pastor in another city, 04:06.760 --> 04:10.240 not some pope or some president or some apostle. 04:10.240 --> 04:13.440 Or, you know, they have the president of the Southern Baptist Convention. 04:13.440 --> 04:15.720 They have the Archbishop of Canterbury. 04:15.720 --> 04:17.320 They have the pope in Rome. 04:17.320 --> 04:19.840 They have this prophet and this deacon. 04:19.840 --> 04:22.840 No, the Bible teaches that Christ is the head of the church. 04:22.840 --> 04:27.920 And you say, Pastor Anderson, everything we believe needs to be determined by Jesus Christ in the Bible. 04:27.920 --> 04:28.880 But wait a minute. 04:28.880 --> 04:31.880 If the church is subject unto Christ, the Bible says, 04:31.880 --> 04:37.280 even so, let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 04:37.280 --> 04:38.880 Now you say, oh man, I can't believe that. 04:38.880 --> 04:40.080 I don't agree with that. 04:40.080 --> 04:42.080 Then you don't believe the Bible. 04:42.080 --> 04:44.960 Why are you in a Baptist church if you don't believe the Bible? 04:44.960 --> 04:51.080 If you think that wives should not submit to their husbands, if you don't think that a wife has to be subject to her husband and everything, 04:51.080 --> 04:54.040 why do you even believe the Bible if you don't believe Ephesians 5? 04:54.040 --> 04:58.840 If you don't believe Ephesians 5, why even believe John 3.16? 04:58.840 --> 05:00.320 Because it's the same Bible. 05:00.360 --> 05:03.840 And you say, oh, but that flies in the face of everything that the world says. 05:03.840 --> 05:09.440 Yes, and the world is wicked and the world's wrong, but the truth of the Lord endureth forever. 05:09.440 --> 05:11.720 And so you can light it or lump it. 05:11.720 --> 05:13.760 This is what the Bible teaches. 05:13.760 --> 05:22.320 He says in verse number 23, said, for the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church and he is the savior of the body. 05:22.320 --> 05:27.360 Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 05:27.360 --> 05:30.080 You say, Pastor Anderson, that's not the formula for a good marriage. 05:30.080 --> 05:31.440 What is the formula for a good marriage? 05:31.440 --> 05:35.360 What the world has with their 75% divorce rate? 05:35.360 --> 05:37.000 Is that the way they have a good marriage? 05:37.000 --> 05:52.440 Is it the way where the world says where mom goes to work and dad goes to work and dad's flirting with this secretary and mom's flirting with this guy on the job and they see each other at the end of the day and they split the chores and they split the bills and they have separate bank accounts? 05:52.440 --> 05:54.240 Look, I don't care what the world says. 05:54.240 --> 05:55.480 I don't care what's normal. 05:55.480 --> 05:57.400 I don't care what the American way is. 05:57.400 --> 05:58.920 I care what the Bible says. 05:58.960 --> 05:59.960 Now I'm going to tell you something. 05:59.960 --> 06:04.320 The Bible says there's a leader in the home and that's the man. 06:04.320 --> 06:05.120 It's the man. 06:05.120 --> 06:09.480 Now, people will say, well, you know, you're saying that men are better than women. 06:09.480 --> 06:11.000 That's not what I'm saying. 06:11.000 --> 06:13.000 I believe that men and women are equal. 06:13.000 --> 06:18.000 I believe that God said that in Christ there's neither male nor female, neither bond nor free. 06:18.000 --> 06:20.360 It's not that one is better than the other. 06:20.360 --> 06:26.640 It's two different functions that God created and God created the man to be an authority according to the Bible 06:26.640 --> 06:29.200 and God put the woman under the man's authority. 06:29.200 --> 06:30.600 Not that one is better than the other. 06:30.600 --> 06:32.280 It's just different roles. 06:32.280 --> 06:35.360 I mean, am I better than you because I'm the pastor of the church? 06:35.360 --> 06:36.440 No. 06:36.440 --> 06:37.600 But I am the pastor of the church. 06:37.600 --> 06:40.360 I have authority in the church, but does that make me better than you? 06:40.360 --> 06:40.960 No. 06:40.960 --> 06:44.880 Your boss may not be better than you, but he's your boss at work. 06:44.880 --> 06:46.240 I'm talking about when you go to the job. 06:46.240 --> 06:48.880 Let's say you know more about the job than your boss does. 06:48.880 --> 06:51.720 He's still the boss because of that authority. 06:51.720 --> 06:53.280 It's not a question of who's better or worse. 06:53.280 --> 06:53.880 Think about this. 06:53.880 --> 06:56.080 You have a dishwasher and a washing machine in your house. 06:56.080 --> 06:58.360 Which one's better? 06:58.360 --> 07:02.600 One of them is better at washing the clothing and one of them is better at washing the dishes. 07:02.600 --> 07:04.480 And it has nothing to do with which one's better. 07:04.480 --> 07:06.000 They have a different function. 07:06.000 --> 07:12.520 And according to God here, in order to have a marriage that pleases God, the wife is subject under the husband. 07:12.520 --> 07:16.920 You can't have this two-headed monster where you've got two different opinions going two different directions. 07:16.920 --> 07:18.760 There has to be one leader. 07:18.760 --> 07:20.680 And that is the man according to the Bible. 07:20.680 --> 07:22.280 Look at verse number 25. 07:22.280 --> 07:29.760 It says, husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it, 07:29.760 --> 07:33.200 that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 07:33.200 --> 07:38.920 that he might present it to himself, a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, 07:38.920 --> 07:41.280 but that it should be holy and without blemish. 07:41.280 --> 07:45.480 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. 07:45.480 --> 07:49.640 He that loveth his wife loveth himself, for no man ever yet hated his own flesh, 07:49.640 --> 07:53.560 but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the Church. 07:53.560 --> 07:57.680 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 07:57.680 --> 08:01.760 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, 08:01.760 --> 08:03.120 and they too shall be one plate. 08:03.120 --> 08:05.520 So here we see the flip side. 08:05.520 --> 08:08.160 So the first thing he says, and let me just lay this down, 08:08.160 --> 08:12.240 the wife is to be subject under her husband's authority in everything. 08:12.240 --> 08:16.160 Just as Christ is the head of the church, the husband is the head of the wife. 08:16.160 --> 08:18.040 It's the same parallel authority. 08:18.040 --> 08:22.880 And then he said, but wait a minute, as the husband, your job is to love your wife, 08:22.880 --> 08:26.680 and just as the church is subject to Christ, that authority, 08:26.680 --> 08:32.640 you're to have as much love for your wife as Christ had for the church. 08:32.640 --> 08:36.600 So that's pretty extreme too, because one of them you say, well that's kind of extreme, 08:36.600 --> 08:39.720 that a wife is supposed to obey their husband and submit to their husband. 08:39.720 --> 08:44.960 But then you turn to the flip side, and the husband is supposed to have as much love for his wife, 08:44.960 --> 08:52.600 and he's supposed to be so self-sacrificing to his wife, just as much as Christ was for the church. 08:52.600 --> 08:55.720 I should be willing to lay down my life for my wife. 08:55.720 --> 08:58.680 I should love her so much that I'm going to give of myself. 08:58.680 --> 09:04.040 I'm going to nourish her, it says in verse 29, cherish her even as the Lord of the church. 09:04.040 --> 09:07.200 Now keep your finger here, and look over at Colossians. 09:07.200 --> 09:08.960 This is just a few pages to the right of your Bible. 09:08.960 --> 09:13.920 Look at Colossians chapter number 3. 09:13.920 --> 09:17.440 And Colossians 3 and Ephesians 5 are kind of parallel passages, 09:17.440 --> 09:20.400 where Paul is pretty much preaching about the same thing. 09:20.400 --> 09:25.120 Of course it's God's work, as all scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine. 09:25.120 --> 09:30.040 But look at Colossians chapter number 3 and verse number 18, the Bible says, 09:30.040 --> 09:35.240 wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. 09:35.240 --> 09:41.400 And then it says, husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. 09:41.400 --> 09:42.760 Now, think about this. 09:42.760 --> 09:45.800 What did Jesus Christ do for us when he died on the cross? 09:45.800 --> 09:49.400 Because he said in the same way that Jesus gave himself for us, 09:49.400 --> 09:51.280 he said that's how we should be toward our wives. 09:51.280 --> 09:55.760 And in the same way that we're supposed to obey Christ, the wife is supposed to obey her husband. 09:55.760 --> 10:01.320 This marriage is basically a picture of the relationship between Christ and the church. 10:01.320 --> 10:02.960 That's what it signifies. 10:02.960 --> 10:04.360 That's the picture. 10:04.360 --> 10:07.880 When we get married, that's the picture of Jesus Christ and the church. 10:07.880 --> 10:09.200 It's symbolic. 10:09.200 --> 10:13.880 And so basically, if you look at what Jesus Christ did when he came to this earth, 10:13.880 --> 10:19.800 he was beaten, he was spat upon, he was whipped, he was mocked, he was made fun of, he was abused. 10:19.800 --> 10:22.680 And if you remember, when he hung on the cross, he said, 10:22.680 --> 10:25.440 Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do. 10:25.440 --> 10:31.680 I mean, these are the people that had spat in his face, buffeted him, whipped him, made fun of him, rebuked him. 10:31.680 --> 10:37.640 And he could have called upon, I think he said, six score legions of angels. 10:37.640 --> 10:41.560 He said, I could call upon these angels to come and set me free. 10:41.560 --> 10:45.120 But he said, how then should the scripture be fulfilled? 10:45.120 --> 10:49.680 He had so much love that he was obedient unto death, even the death of the cross. 10:49.680 --> 10:55.000 And when he was on that cross, he had nothing but love and forgiveness for those for whom he was dying, 10:55.000 --> 10:58.160 even the one who nailed him to the cross, who may have even gotten saved, 10:58.160 --> 11:00.240 because he did say when it was all said and done, 11:00.320 --> 11:01.880 truly this was the son of God. 11:01.880 --> 11:04.560 I believe that he believed on Jesus Christ at that time, 11:04.560 --> 11:08.620 when he acknowledged him as the son of God, the savior of the world. 11:08.620 --> 11:13.620 And so, as husbands, what character do you think we should have, 11:14.000 --> 11:16.400 more than any other character as a husband? 11:18.360 --> 11:21.480 Now you say love, but wait a minute, how did God show his love? 11:21.480 --> 11:22.640 By forgiving. 11:22.640 --> 11:25.160 See, that's why it says here, it says, 11:25.160 --> 11:27.640 love your wives and be not bitter against them. 11:27.640 --> 11:30.480 You see, bitterness is when you can't let things go. 11:30.480 --> 11:32.360 It's when you can't forgive. 11:32.360 --> 11:34.640 You know, if somebody does something wrong, 11:34.640 --> 11:37.600 and you can't move on from that, and it just eats away at you, 11:37.600 --> 11:41.520 you become bitter, you become mad, you hold a grudge, you harbor feelings. 11:41.520 --> 11:45.200 Now wait a minute, if Jesus Christ could forgive us of all our sins, 11:46.280 --> 11:49.040 can't we forgive our brother and sister in Christ? 11:49.040 --> 11:51.200 And even so much more, as a husband, 11:51.200 --> 11:54.320 can't we forgive our wife if she said something wrong? 11:54.320 --> 11:57.160 Even if she said something horrible to us. 11:57.200 --> 12:00.720 They said horrible things to Jesus, and he loved, he forgave. 12:00.720 --> 12:04.840 They said things to Jesus Christ, they spat upon him, they beat him. 12:04.840 --> 12:07.560 Now if your wife beats you up and spits on you, no I'm just kidding. 12:07.560 --> 12:10.520 But anyway, if she did, be not bitter about it. 12:10.520 --> 12:15.520 But anyway, the point is, that if Jesus Christ had this supreme love, 12:15.880 --> 12:18.080 as evidenced by his forgiveness, where he said, 12:18.080 --> 12:20.000 Father forgive them, they know not what they're doing. 12:20.000 --> 12:21.520 That's the love he's commanding us to have, 12:21.520 --> 12:23.880 that's why he's telling us, be not bitter against them. 12:23.880 --> 12:25.840 Hey, when you wake up in the morning, 12:25.840 --> 12:28.440 when God caused the sun to rise on a new day, 12:28.440 --> 12:30.800 you need to have all bitterness put apart, 12:30.800 --> 12:33.520 because he said, let not the sun go down upon your wrath. 12:33.520 --> 12:35.720 You shouldn't be mad today, 12:35.720 --> 12:37.040 about something that happened yesterday. 12:37.040 --> 12:37.880 And let me tell you something, 12:37.880 --> 12:40.800 if I could give you the best advice for your marriage, 12:40.800 --> 12:42.600 and probably if I could just tell people, 12:42.600 --> 12:43.920 one thing to have a good marriage is, 12:43.920 --> 12:46.700 you must let things go, you must forgive. 12:46.700 --> 12:49.000 You cannot have a good marriage without forgiveness. 12:49.000 --> 12:52.160 Because think about it, you're a sinner, as a man, 12:52.160 --> 12:55.800 you're a sinner as a woman, and let me tell you something, 12:56.640 --> 12:58.600 there are going to be bad things that both of you do. 12:58.600 --> 13:00.200 You're both going to do things wrong, 13:00.200 --> 13:02.560 you're both going to say things that you don't mean, 13:02.560 --> 13:04.920 you're both going to say rude or harsh things 13:04.920 --> 13:07.360 from time to time, you're both going to be selfish, 13:07.360 --> 13:08.960 you're both going to commit sin, 13:08.960 --> 13:10.160 and I'm going to tell you something, 13:10.160 --> 13:12.300 if you hold a grudge about everything 13:12.300 --> 13:13.920 that your spouse does wrong, 13:13.920 --> 13:16.080 you will never be able to have a good marriage. 13:16.080 --> 13:17.560 Because think about it, I've been married 13:17.560 --> 13:20.160 for over nine years. 13:20.160 --> 13:21.600 Well think about how many, probably, 13:21.600 --> 13:24.560 times that I've offended my wife in those nine years. 13:24.600 --> 13:25.680 And then think about all the times 13:25.680 --> 13:28.160 that she's probably offended me in those nine years. 13:28.160 --> 13:31.080 Well what if I was still mad about every wrong thing 13:31.080 --> 13:32.960 she's said or done for the last nine years? 13:32.960 --> 13:35.320 And if she's still mad at me and holding a grudge 13:35.320 --> 13:36.760 for every wrong thing that I've done 13:36.760 --> 13:39.220 in the last nine odd years, 13:39.220 --> 13:41.040 do you think we're ever going to be able to get along 13:41.040 --> 13:42.980 or have any kind of love in that relationship 13:42.980 --> 13:47.360 or any kind of a bond or a friendship 13:47.360 --> 13:49.640 that God expects us to have as a married couple? 13:49.640 --> 13:50.920 Absolutely not. 13:50.920 --> 13:53.600 And that's why we have to have this character of Christ's 13:53.640 --> 13:56.800 love where we can forgive and let things go 13:56.800 --> 13:58.980 and every day is a new start. 13:58.980 --> 13:59.820 That's why he said, 13:59.820 --> 14:01.720 let not the sun go down upon your wrath, 14:01.720 --> 14:03.940 neither give place to the devil. 14:03.940 --> 14:05.480 Because that's what's going to drive 14:05.480 --> 14:06.520 the biggest wedge in marriage. 14:06.520 --> 14:08.360 There's one thing that you must know 14:08.360 --> 14:11.880 is just let things go, just drop it, just forgive. 14:11.880 --> 14:13.800 I mean, you had a big fight on Tuesday, 14:13.800 --> 14:15.800 it shouldn't affect Wednesday. 14:15.800 --> 14:17.800 You say, pass your ass to having a fight? 14:17.800 --> 14:20.260 When I get married, I'm just never going to have a fight. 14:20.260 --> 14:22.120 Right, you've never been married before. 14:22.160 --> 14:23.940 That's obvious. 14:23.940 --> 14:25.920 Oh man, I'll never, we'll never. 14:25.920 --> 14:29.100 And people say like, oh yeah, never fight. 14:29.100 --> 14:31.800 Look, everybody who's married has a fight. 14:33.240 --> 14:34.080 Very basic. 14:34.080 --> 14:36.960 You know, and he'd say, oh I would say that, never fight. 14:36.960 --> 14:39.480 Wait a minute, a lot of people, the problem is 14:39.480 --> 14:42.140 they go into marriage with an unreasonable expectation. 14:42.140 --> 14:43.880 And then when the fight happens, 14:43.880 --> 14:46.340 oh, you know, we're not compatible. 14:46.340 --> 14:49.280 You know, even though they swore to God 14:49.280 --> 14:54.000 till death do us part for better, for worse. 14:54.000 --> 14:56.440 And they say, you know, to have and to hold 14:56.440 --> 14:59.560 from this day forward till death do us part. 14:59.560 --> 15:01.160 And then they say, oh, we're not compatible 15:01.160 --> 15:02.640 because we had this big fight. 15:02.640 --> 15:05.240 Now go into it with a real expectation. 15:05.240 --> 15:07.880 It's not like the rock and roll song that you heard 15:07.880 --> 15:11.640 where you just saw each other and it was da da da da da 15:11.640 --> 15:14.000 and you saw each other and everything was perfect 15:14.000 --> 15:17.520 and you just, oh, this is perfect and wonderful 15:18.080 --> 15:22.400 and I only live for your happiness and blah, blah, blah. 15:22.400 --> 15:24.520 It's not true because why else would God 15:24.520 --> 15:27.680 put this verse in the Bible, be not bitter against them? 15:27.680 --> 15:29.080 You know, those of us who are married 15:29.080 --> 15:31.000 know what that means, okay? 15:31.000 --> 15:32.880 We understand what it means when God said 15:32.880 --> 15:34.480 be not bitter against them. 15:34.480 --> 15:37.680 And wives know what that means, not to be bitter. 15:37.680 --> 15:39.640 Okay, to forgive, to let things go. 15:39.640 --> 15:40.800 But people who've never been married, 15:40.800 --> 15:42.280 they might not know what that means 15:42.280 --> 15:44.700 because their head is so far in the rock and roll music 15:44.700 --> 15:46.440 and all the TV and the movies. 15:46.440 --> 15:48.920 They live in a false reality. 15:48.920 --> 15:51.200 Now look, my wife and I have a great relationship. 15:51.200 --> 15:52.520 I love being with my wife. 15:52.520 --> 15:53.760 My wife and I spend a lot of time, 15:53.760 --> 15:55.480 yeah, I've met a lot of people that are married 15:55.480 --> 15:57.200 and they don't really spend a whole lot of time with us 15:57.200 --> 15:58.820 but they just kinda have a date like once a week 15:58.820 --> 16:00.960 and just kinda, you do your thing, I'll do my thing 16:00.960 --> 16:03.000 and we'll get along great because we'll just, you know, 16:03.000 --> 16:04.560 hang around every once in a while together. 16:04.560 --> 16:06.700 You know, my wife and I are very close. 16:06.700 --> 16:09.320 We talk a lot, we spend a lot of time together 16:09.320 --> 16:11.040 but because of that closeness, 16:11.040 --> 16:13.040 sometimes there are gonna be times 16:13.040 --> 16:14.520 where you get on somebody's nerves 16:14.520 --> 16:16.040 or where you get in a fight 16:16.580 --> 16:17.420 or where you have a problem 16:17.420 --> 16:18.880 and so the key is not to say, 16:18.880 --> 16:21.000 well, we're never gonna sin. 16:21.000 --> 16:22.400 We're never gonna commit sin. 16:22.400 --> 16:23.640 We're never gonna do anything wrong. 16:23.640 --> 16:25.600 We're gonna be perfect. 16:25.600 --> 16:27.480 That's a dumb goal because you can't reach it 16:27.480 --> 16:28.720 because you're a sinner. 16:28.720 --> 16:30.640 There's no righteous, no not one. 16:30.640 --> 16:32.480 A better goal is to say, you know what, 16:32.480 --> 16:34.880 there will be problems but you know what, 16:34.880 --> 16:35.840 I'm gonna forgive. 16:36.760 --> 16:39.400 When my wife does wrong to me, I'm gonna forgive. 16:39.400 --> 16:41.860 When I do wrong to my wife, I hope she'll forgive 16:41.860 --> 16:45.200 and we can move on and have a loving, good relationship. 16:45.240 --> 16:46.680 Aren't you glad that God moves on? 16:46.680 --> 16:48.320 Aren't you glad that God's not still mad at you 16:48.320 --> 16:50.880 for something you did two years ago? 16:50.880 --> 16:52.280 Aren't you glad that when you get to heaven 16:52.280 --> 16:54.640 and stand before God as a believer in Jesus Christ, 16:54.640 --> 16:56.080 your sins are washed away? 16:56.080 --> 16:57.880 Aren't you glad that when you stand before God, 16:57.880 --> 17:00.640 he's not gonna run through all your sins with you? 17:00.640 --> 17:02.040 But they're already separated from you 17:02.040 --> 17:03.440 as far as the East is from the West? 17:03.440 --> 17:07.260 So why would you bring up stuff that your wife did? 17:07.260 --> 17:10.680 You know, years ago, months ago, days ago. 17:10.680 --> 17:12.880 Why would you bring up stuff that your husband did? 17:12.880 --> 17:15.160 Why wouldn't you have the same forgiveness 17:16.000 --> 17:18.360 and say, hey, if Christ can forgive us, 17:18.360 --> 17:20.160 we can forgive each other, we can move on. 17:20.160 --> 17:22.320 That's the best advice that God gives here, 17:22.320 --> 17:25.440 I think, when he says, don't be bitter, forgive. 17:25.440 --> 17:28.760 Let not the sun go down upon your wrath, he said. 17:28.760 --> 17:30.400 Look back at you, I wanna show you that in Colossians, 17:30.400 --> 17:32.720 but get back to Ephesians chapter five. 17:32.720 --> 17:34.480 We're gonna finish this passage up. 17:35.520 --> 17:36.800 So what have we learned so far? 17:36.800 --> 17:39.960 A review, he said, hey, wives, submit to your husband. 17:39.960 --> 17:42.420 How much, how much do I submit, a little bit? 17:42.420 --> 17:45.540 Well, how much did the church submit to Christ? 17:45.540 --> 17:46.460 Okay, well, that's how much 17:46.460 --> 17:47.980 the wife should submit to her husband. 17:47.980 --> 17:49.700 And then he said, well, how much, okay, 17:49.700 --> 17:50.740 husbands love your wife. 17:50.740 --> 17:52.380 Well, how much am I supposed to love her? 17:52.380 --> 17:54.260 Well, how much did Jesus love the guy 17:54.260 --> 17:57.220 who beat him and spat on him and nailed him to the cross, 17:57.220 --> 17:58.220 and he turned around and said, 17:58.220 --> 18:00.480 Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do. 18:00.480 --> 18:02.100 That's how little you're supposed to be bitter 18:02.100 --> 18:03.060 against your wife. 18:03.060 --> 18:05.140 That's how much you're supposed to love her and forgive her 18:05.140 --> 18:07.920 and you ought to cherish her and nourish her. 18:07.920 --> 18:09.260 What does nourishment mean? 18:10.260 --> 18:12.660 Sounds like food, right? 18:12.660 --> 18:14.060 Feed your wife, you know, 18:14.060 --> 18:15.860 and this is the key to a good marriage, guys. 18:15.860 --> 18:19.260 You gotta feed her, all right, I'm just kidding. 18:19.260 --> 18:21.460 But you gotta nourish her, I'm just teasing. 18:21.460 --> 18:22.860 But you know, you ought to be nourished, 18:22.860 --> 18:24.420 you ought to pay the bills. 18:24.420 --> 18:26.500 You ought to provide, you ought to nourish, 18:26.500 --> 18:28.180 and what does cherish mean? 18:28.180 --> 18:31.420 Cherish is loving, it's kindness, 18:31.420 --> 18:33.580 it's gentleness, it's compassion. 18:33.580 --> 18:37.180 So he said, nourish your wife, cherish your wife. 18:37.180 --> 18:39.140 That's feed your wife, love your wife, 18:39.900 --> 18:41.620 take care of your wife, and he said, 18:41.620 --> 18:43.460 you know, basically, forgive your wife, 18:43.460 --> 18:44.900 love your wife, be good to your wife. 18:44.900 --> 18:46.620 But let's keep reading. 18:46.620 --> 18:49.580 He said in verse number 30, 18:49.580 --> 18:51.420 for we are members of his body and of his flesh 18:51.420 --> 18:53.140 and of his bones, for this cause 18:53.140 --> 18:55.420 shall a man leave his father and mother 18:55.420 --> 18:56.980 and shall be joined unto his wife 18:56.980 --> 18:59.180 and they too shall be one flesh. 18:59.180 --> 19:00.180 This is a great mystery, 19:00.180 --> 19:02.680 but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 19:02.680 --> 19:06.540 Then he kind of basically sums it up in verse 33. 19:06.540 --> 19:08.740 This is kind of just the summary statement at the end. 19:09.300 --> 19:12.740 He says, nevertheless, let every one of you in particular 19:12.740 --> 19:16.360 so love his wife even as himself. 19:16.360 --> 19:19.840 He said, you know, love thy neighbor as thyself. 19:19.840 --> 19:21.420 And he says, and the wife, 19:21.420 --> 19:23.060 see that she reverenced her husband. 19:23.060 --> 19:26.180 So what is the wife basically looking for 19:26.180 --> 19:28.260 from her husband according to this verse? 19:28.260 --> 19:30.500 She's looking for her husband to love her. 19:30.500 --> 19:33.100 And what is the man looking for from his wife? 19:33.100 --> 19:34.860 Reverence, respect. 19:34.860 --> 19:36.620 A man wants to be respected. 19:36.620 --> 19:40.180 It says, see that the wife reverenced her husband. 19:40.180 --> 19:41.300 Now, today we live in a time 19:41.300 --> 19:44.140 where women do not have respect for their husband. 19:44.140 --> 19:46.700 Children do not respect their parents. 19:46.700 --> 19:49.340 Employees do not respect the boss at work 19:49.340 --> 19:51.100 because we basically live in a society 19:51.100 --> 19:53.900 where people just don't respect any kind of authority at all. 19:53.900 --> 19:55.480 They don't respect the law. 19:55.480 --> 19:57.040 They don't respect a parent. 19:57.040 --> 19:59.080 They don't respect a husband. 19:59.080 --> 20:01.000 They don't respect a boss at work. 20:01.000 --> 20:03.140 They don't respect the owner of the company. 20:03.140 --> 20:06.320 And it's wrong because God commands us to respect authority. 20:06.880 --> 20:09.520 And he says here, see that the wife reverenced her husband. 20:09.520 --> 20:11.760 Today, children do not obey their parents. 20:11.760 --> 20:12.600 Look at the next verse. 20:12.600 --> 20:15.160 Right after that, he says in verse one of chapter six, 20:15.160 --> 20:19.200 children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 20:19.200 --> 20:20.520 Honor thy father and mother, 20:20.520 --> 20:22.240 which is the first commandment promised, 20:22.240 --> 20:23.320 that it may be well with thee, 20:23.320 --> 20:25.280 and thou mayest live long on the earth. 20:26.360 --> 20:28.860 My sister went to the doctor's office the other day 20:28.860 --> 20:30.840 in Fort Worth, Texas. 20:30.840 --> 20:32.440 And she's sitting in a doctor's office 20:32.440 --> 20:34.760 and there's the pediatrician that she goes to. 20:34.800 --> 20:37.080 You know, this pediatrician tells them, 20:37.080 --> 20:38.480 and this is the way doctors are now. 20:38.480 --> 20:39.960 They're not just doctors. 20:39.960 --> 20:42.740 They like tell you how to live your life. 20:42.740 --> 20:45.400 They ask you if you have guns in your house. 20:45.400 --> 20:48.140 My sister's doctor's asking her husband, you know, 20:48.140 --> 20:48.980 do you have any guns? 20:48.980 --> 20:50.480 Where do you keep the guns? 20:50.480 --> 20:52.160 He's asked him all these different questions 20:52.160 --> 20:53.120 about his personal life. 20:53.120 --> 20:54.760 And my sister told me that when your kids get 20:54.760 --> 20:57.360 to a certain age, this pediatrician that she takes them to 20:57.360 --> 20:59.560 sits them down and explains to you, 20:59.560 --> 21:01.280 do not spank your children. 21:01.280 --> 21:03.040 You're hurting their psyche. 21:03.040 --> 21:05.880 You can't spank, you know, do timeouts. 21:05.880 --> 21:08.400 And she's like teaching parenting. 21:08.400 --> 21:09.720 I guess because it's a doctor, 21:09.720 --> 21:11.360 they know how to parent your child. 21:11.360 --> 21:13.880 And they're gonna tell you, contrary to God's word, 21:13.880 --> 21:17.160 which God's word says that the rod and the proof 21:17.160 --> 21:18.240 give wisdom. 21:18.240 --> 21:20.520 It says, thou shalt beat him with the rod 21:20.520 --> 21:22.440 and shall deliver his soul from hell. 21:22.440 --> 21:25.580 It says, withhold not direction from the child, 21:25.580 --> 21:28.480 for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. 21:28.480 --> 21:31.680 The Bible says to beat your child with the rod. 21:31.680 --> 21:33.840 They say, oh, I can't, that's what the Bible says. 21:33.840 --> 21:35.920 Read the book of Proverbs, says it repeatedly. 21:35.920 --> 21:38.960 Beat the child with the rod, that's what it says. 21:38.960 --> 21:40.560 It's the Bible, okay? 21:40.560 --> 21:43.280 And people will say, oh no, don't spank. 21:43.280 --> 21:44.320 You're gonna hurt the child's psyche. 21:44.320 --> 21:45.640 Well, let me tell you the story. 21:45.640 --> 21:49.180 So my sister's sitting in this doctor's office waiting room. 21:49.180 --> 21:52.180 And this lady's there and she's got a very small child 21:52.180 --> 21:53.460 like a toddler. 21:53.460 --> 21:57.060 And then she's got a son who was about nine years old. 21:57.060 --> 21:59.620 And this nine year old son is sitting against the wall 21:59.620 --> 22:03.140 like this and he's basically got a video game. 22:03.140 --> 22:05.220 And what it was, though, was the cell phone. 22:05.220 --> 22:08.180 You know how on a cell phone you can download a video game? 22:08.180 --> 22:11.900 So he's playing a video game on his mother's cell phone. 22:11.900 --> 22:13.420 And so he's sitting there playing the video game, 22:13.420 --> 22:14.420 playing the video game. 22:14.420 --> 22:18.620 Well, this lady, she talks to the lady behind the counter, 22:18.620 --> 22:20.220 the reception desk, the doctor, 22:20.220 --> 22:22.940 and the lady behind the reception desk says, 22:22.940 --> 22:26.140 well, your insurance, there's a problem 22:26.140 --> 22:28.700 because the new child has not been added to the insurance 22:28.700 --> 22:31.180 so you're gonna have to make some phone calls and so forth. 22:31.180 --> 22:33.920 So basically this lady needs to make a phone call. 22:33.920 --> 22:36.500 So she says to the eight year old child, she says, 22:36.500 --> 22:37.900 I need to use the phone now 22:37.900 --> 22:40.100 because I have to make this call about the insurance. 22:40.100 --> 22:41.140 And the kid says, no. 22:42.960 --> 22:44.340 And she says, look, I need to call. 22:44.340 --> 22:45.380 You know, I need to make this call. 22:45.380 --> 22:46.220 You know, this and that. 22:46.220 --> 22:47.140 And he's like, no, argh! 22:47.140 --> 22:49.900 You know, she tried to take it from her, he yanks it away. 22:49.900 --> 22:52.020 Well, finally she takes the phone. 22:52.020 --> 22:55.620 And listen, this story is as true as the day is long 22:55.620 --> 22:57.100 and it was unbelievable. 22:57.100 --> 22:58.900 My sister said, I've never seen anything like this. 22:58.900 --> 23:01.140 This was just about a week ago. 23:01.140 --> 23:05.580 The child began to beat his mother in the face, literally. 23:05.580 --> 23:07.940 He started to slap her. 23:07.940 --> 23:10.600 He started punching her in the face. 23:10.600 --> 23:12.640 I mean, and it was to the point 23:12.640 --> 23:14.900 where literally there were marks on her face. 23:14.900 --> 23:16.580 I mean, it wasn't just a little, 23:16.580 --> 23:18.940 I mean, he was pummeling his mother. 23:18.940 --> 23:20.980 I mean, he was punching her, slapping her. 23:20.980 --> 23:22.540 She's saying, stop, stop, don't do that. 23:22.540 --> 23:24.140 And she started bawling and crying. 23:24.140 --> 23:27.180 And this child was literally beating his mother's face in. 23:28.500 --> 23:30.020 And I mean, she was all red. 23:30.020 --> 23:34.380 She had finger marks and marks from being beat up. 23:34.380 --> 23:35.620 And everybody in the waiting room 23:35.620 --> 23:39.020 was just looking on in horror, okay? 23:39.940 --> 23:43.060 And finally, you know, finally what happened was 23:43.060 --> 23:45.540 that the nurse comes out and basically says, 23:45.540 --> 23:47.220 you know, you need to go sit in this other room 23:47.220 --> 23:48.060 and this and that. 23:48.060 --> 23:49.500 You know, because the nurse was just embarrassed 23:49.500 --> 23:50.800 that this was even happening. 23:50.800 --> 23:52.860 I mean, it was to the point 23:52.860 --> 23:55.120 where my sister almost wondered like, 23:55.120 --> 23:56.840 are the police gonna be called? 23:56.840 --> 24:00.140 Just because this kid had like beaten up his mom so bad. 24:00.140 --> 24:01.180 It was weird. 24:01.180 --> 24:03.020 It was strange. 24:03.020 --> 24:05.420 And basically, finally what happened was, 24:05.420 --> 24:06.740 you know, they're crying and they're moved 24:06.740 --> 24:08.540 into another room and then the dad shows up 24:08.540 --> 24:11.620 and takes them off and do it. 24:11.620 --> 24:13.580 This is the society we're living in. 24:13.580 --> 24:15.940 And as soon as my sister gets seen by the nurse, 24:15.940 --> 24:19.260 the nurse is saying, man, somebody needs to spank that kid. 24:19.260 --> 24:21.300 They're saying, you know, this is the one where 24:21.300 --> 24:23.620 they tell you, like, oh, don't spank, this and that. 24:23.620 --> 24:24.980 They're all singing a different tune now. 24:24.980 --> 24:27.900 They're saying, man, you know, I would have spanked that kid. 24:27.900 --> 24:29.620 That kid needed to be spanked. 24:29.620 --> 24:30.860 That kid needed a beating. 24:30.860 --> 24:32.080 I mean, give me a break. 24:32.080 --> 24:33.900 That kid is out of control. 24:33.900 --> 24:35.220 But let me tell you something. 24:35.220 --> 24:38.700 If you spare the rod, the Bible says this. 24:38.700 --> 24:40.380 And remember, this is God's word. 24:40.380 --> 24:44.220 He that spareth his rod, hateth his son. 24:44.220 --> 24:47.500 But he that loveth him chaseth them betis. 24:47.500 --> 24:49.420 And so these parents, you say, oh, I love them 24:49.420 --> 24:50.260 too much to spank. 24:50.260 --> 24:51.860 You don't love them at all, according to the Bible, 24:51.860 --> 24:53.460 if you don't spank your children. 24:53.460 --> 24:54.580 Yes, I said that. 24:54.580 --> 24:56.620 If you don't spank the child, you don't love the child. 24:56.620 --> 24:59.460 You love yourself more than you love your child 24:59.460 --> 25:00.820 because you want them to like you 25:00.820 --> 25:03.860 or you want to be the, oh, you're too loving to spank. 25:03.860 --> 25:05.580 No, you're not loving enough to spank 25:05.580 --> 25:06.620 because that child's not happy. 25:06.620 --> 25:08.740 He's going to grow up and probably be a criminal. 25:08.740 --> 25:10.740 God knows what he's going to be when he grows up 25:10.740 --> 25:12.260 because he's never had any boundaries. 25:12.260 --> 25:14.940 He's never had anybody love him enough to correct him. 25:14.940 --> 25:17.580 The Bible says, whom the Lord loveth and chasteneth 25:17.580 --> 25:19.700 and scourges with every son whom he receiveth. 25:19.700 --> 25:21.820 God loves us, therefore he disciplines us. 25:21.820 --> 25:23.780 And we ought to discipline our children. 25:23.780 --> 25:27.500 But today, we have children who have so little respect 25:27.500 --> 25:29.620 for their parents that they would literally 25:29.620 --> 25:31.580 beat their mother. 25:31.580 --> 25:35.900 She won't spank him, but he'll spank her. 25:35.900 --> 25:40.220 And I'd rather spank my child than be spanked by my child. 25:40.220 --> 25:41.980 And it sounds funny, but you know what? 25:41.980 --> 25:44.020 It's pretty sad when you're getting spanked. 25:44.020 --> 25:44.820 It was sad. 25:44.820 --> 25:47.420 I mean, my sister felt bad, and she tried to talk to the ladies. 25:47.420 --> 25:48.900 She tried to give her the gospel. 25:48.900 --> 25:52.180 She wanted to talk to her and get her saved. 25:52.180 --> 25:55.020 And also, she told her, she said, look, 25:55.020 --> 25:56.660 you've got to spank your kid. 25:56.660 --> 25:58.540 I mean, she explained this to us like, 25:58.540 --> 26:02.780 you can't just let your child just beat you up. 26:02.780 --> 26:04.980 But that's the extreme date, and I've seen it. 26:04.980 --> 26:07.780 I've seen it in the store, kids throwing themselves 26:07.780 --> 26:09.580 on the ground, screaming for it. 26:09.580 --> 26:11.060 Ah! 26:11.060 --> 26:15.260 And nobody does anything about it. 26:15.260 --> 26:16.820 Johnny. 26:16.820 --> 26:18.220 Johnny, that's not nice. 26:18.500 --> 26:21.000 Ah! 26:21.000 --> 26:24.340 Johnny, do you want a Popsicle later? 26:24.340 --> 26:27.340 Ah! 26:27.340 --> 26:28.820 Good night. 26:28.820 --> 26:30.740 My pastor in California, this is what 26:30.740 --> 26:32.300 he used to say to people in public. 26:32.300 --> 26:33.900 He'd tell them, give him what he wants, 26:33.900 --> 26:36.420 or give him what he needs. 26:36.420 --> 26:39.860 You know, but like, I don't want to listen to him. 26:39.860 --> 26:42.420 Either give him what he wants, or give him what he needs. 26:42.420 --> 26:44.620 That's what he used to tell people, that's true. 26:44.620 --> 26:46.660 But today, we're living in this topsy-turvy world 26:46.700 --> 26:48.940 where the child spanks the parent. 26:48.940 --> 26:52.820 The husbands are a reference of the wife. 26:52.820 --> 26:55.940 They're scared of their wife in many cases. 26:55.940 --> 26:58.340 You try to tell them, hey, you know, 26:58.340 --> 27:00.340 we're going to do this, what should we do? 27:00.340 --> 27:04.260 Well, you know, let me call the boss. 27:04.260 --> 27:05.540 They're like, what? 27:05.540 --> 27:06.700 And then they're calling their wife, 27:06.700 --> 27:07.860 and they literally say that. 27:07.860 --> 27:09.900 Who's ever heard somebody say that? 27:09.900 --> 27:11.620 Well, I'm going to call the boss. 27:11.620 --> 27:12.900 And they call their wife. 27:12.900 --> 27:14.380 Are you even a man? 27:14.380 --> 27:15.860 What's wrong with you? 27:16.420 --> 27:18.220 Why don't you just stop calling yourself a man? 27:18.220 --> 27:19.900 Why don't you go move to California, 27:19.900 --> 27:21.940 and you could use one of those restrooms 27:21.940 --> 27:23.780 that has both pictures on the outside, 27:23.780 --> 27:25.700 where it has the male and female restroom. 27:25.700 --> 27:28.540 Why don't you use the family restroom, OK? 27:28.540 --> 27:29.820 Be a man. 27:29.820 --> 27:31.700 How can you call yourself a man, 27:31.700 --> 27:33.700 and you're in submission to your wife? 27:33.700 --> 27:36.540 Hey, the Bible says that's what a woman's supposed to do. 27:36.540 --> 27:40.060 Why don't you be a man and be in charge in your home, 27:40.060 --> 27:42.300 and not live in fear of your wife? 27:42.300 --> 27:43.580 No, it's wrong. 27:43.580 --> 27:45.460 And you say, well, it's our society. 27:46.020 --> 27:48.660 Yes, we've changed for the worse. 27:48.660 --> 27:50.900 And children don't care what their parents say. 27:50.900 --> 27:53.060 Wives don't care what their husbands say. 27:53.060 --> 27:55.020 Employees don't care what the boss says. 27:55.020 --> 27:58.100 It's just a disrespectful society that we live in, 27:58.100 --> 28:01.580 because everybody just thinks that anything goes. 28:01.580 --> 28:03.820 Well, anything doesn't go in my house, 28:03.820 --> 28:05.940 and anything doesn't go in God's Word. 28:05.940 --> 28:08.300 And so we need to get off this modernistic stuff, 28:08.300 --> 28:10.240 and get back to what the Bible clearly says. 28:10.240 --> 28:12.660 Look at 1 Peter 3, in case you don't believe me. 28:13.500 --> 28:15.180 Look at 1 Peter 3. 28:18.100 --> 28:20.900 And by the way, you say, oh, this is degrading to women. 28:22.780 --> 28:24.020 Is it degrading to children 28:24.020 --> 28:26.460 that they have to obey their parents? 28:26.460 --> 28:28.620 No, it's just the natural order of things 28:28.620 --> 28:29.900 that God has established. 28:29.900 --> 28:31.260 Why is it degrading to women 28:31.260 --> 28:34.580 that they have to obey and submit to their husband? 28:34.580 --> 28:36.060 Because the Bible does say to obey, 28:36.060 --> 28:37.600 it says in, you don't have to turn there, 28:37.600 --> 28:42.600 but in Titus 2, it says that they may teach 28:42.820 --> 28:46.180 the young women to be sober. 28:46.180 --> 28:48.220 That's a good place, that's always a good place to start, 28:48.220 --> 28:50.540 as a young woman, be sober. 28:50.540 --> 28:53.620 That means get off the drugs, get off the alcohol, 28:53.620 --> 28:54.620 be serious. 28:54.620 --> 28:58.420 He says to love their husbands, to love their children, 28:58.420 --> 29:02.460 to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, 29:02.460 --> 29:05.380 good, obedient to their own husbands, 29:05.380 --> 29:07.600 that the Word of God be not blasphemed. 29:08.740 --> 29:10.500 Because God says that the Word of God 29:10.500 --> 29:13.140 be blasphemed because of Christian women 29:13.140 --> 29:14.820 who are not obedient to their husbands. 29:14.820 --> 29:15.780 That's what he said. 29:15.780 --> 29:17.820 He said women need to be obedient to their husbands, 29:17.820 --> 29:20.420 that the Word of God be not blasphemed. 29:20.420 --> 29:22.980 Now look at 1 Peter 3, 29:22.980 --> 29:24.820 and 1 Peter 3 is not something 29:24.820 --> 29:27.300 that you're gonna hear preached in most churches. 29:27.300 --> 29:28.900 But yet there it is in the Bible. 29:28.900 --> 29:30.100 Look at verse one. 29:30.100 --> 29:32.100 It says, likewise ye wise, 29:32.100 --> 29:34.980 be in subjection to your own husbands, 29:34.980 --> 29:36.980 that if any obey not the Word, 29:36.980 --> 29:38.500 they also may without the Word 29:39.220 --> 29:41.060 be won by the conversation of the wise, 29:41.060 --> 29:43.020 while they behold your chaste conversation 29:43.020 --> 29:44.300 coupled with fear, 29:44.300 --> 29:47.060 whose adorning, let it not be that outward adorning 29:47.060 --> 29:49.840 of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, 29:49.840 --> 29:51.500 and of putting on of apparel, 29:51.500 --> 29:53.740 but let it be the hidden man of the heart, 29:53.740 --> 29:55.560 in that which is not corruptible, 29:55.560 --> 29:58.580 even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, 29:58.580 --> 30:01.400 which is in the sight of God of great Christ. 30:01.400 --> 30:02.740 So what's the opposite of a woman 30:02.740 --> 30:04.660 having a meek and quiet spirit? 30:05.700 --> 30:07.340 Proud and loud. 30:07.340 --> 30:08.700 That would be the opposite of meekness, 30:08.700 --> 30:11.340 would be pride, arrogance, the haughtiness. 30:11.340 --> 30:13.260 What's the opposite of quiet? 30:13.260 --> 30:14.580 This is a hard one. 30:14.580 --> 30:16.540 Isaac, what's the opposite of quiet? 30:16.540 --> 30:17.380 Loud. 30:17.380 --> 30:18.460 See, isn't that hard to understand? 30:18.460 --> 30:19.700 He's not even married yet. 30:19.700 --> 30:21.420 He's got this figured out. 30:21.420 --> 30:24.140 It says the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, 30:24.140 --> 30:26.060 which is in the sight of God of great Christ. 30:26.060 --> 30:27.900 For after this manner in the old time, 30:27.900 --> 30:30.860 the holy women also, who trusted in God, 30:30.860 --> 30:33.260 adorned themselves, being in subjection 30:33.260 --> 30:34.460 unto their own husbands, 30:34.460 --> 30:37.820 even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord, 30:37.820 --> 30:40.160 whose daughters ye are, as long as ye are due well 30:40.160 --> 30:42.060 and are not afraid with any abasement. 30:42.060 --> 30:44.460 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them 30:44.460 --> 30:47.420 according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife. 30:47.420 --> 30:49.640 So this is not a degrading thing, is it? 30:49.640 --> 30:52.500 He says giving honor unto the wife 30:52.500 --> 30:55.300 as unto the weaker vessel. 30:55.300 --> 30:56.700 That's what the Bible says. 30:56.700 --> 30:59.140 Now, honey, why don't you come up here right now, honey? 30:59.140 --> 31:01.380 We're gonna do an illustration here. 31:01.380 --> 31:02.540 Come on up here, honey. 31:02.540 --> 31:03.700 Because the Bible says here 31:03.780 --> 31:06.020 that the wife is the weaker vessel, okay? 31:06.020 --> 31:06.860 Come on up here, honey. 31:06.860 --> 31:08.460 We're gonna see if this is really true. 31:08.460 --> 31:10.940 Because so many people are there questioning the Bible, 31:10.940 --> 31:12.540 and especially they question the Bible 31:12.540 --> 31:14.220 on this subject of marriage, 31:14.220 --> 31:16.780 and on this subject of the roles of men and women in society 31:16.780 --> 31:17.700 and question the Bible. 31:17.700 --> 31:20.540 So we're gonna settle this right now, okay? 31:20.540 --> 31:23.620 I wanna know, and this, okay, fine, left hand. 31:23.620 --> 31:25.500 You know, you choose your hand, honey. 31:25.500 --> 31:26.340 No, wait a minute. 31:26.340 --> 31:27.620 We gotta get to this. 31:27.620 --> 31:29.980 Now look, I wanna see whether the Bible's really true. 31:29.980 --> 31:32.220 Is the woman the weaker vessel, okay? 31:32.220 --> 31:34.100 Yeah, that wasn't that hard, folks. 31:34.100 --> 31:36.700 Now, I challenge any woman in this room right now. 31:37.860 --> 31:39.700 Brianne, come on up here. 31:39.700 --> 31:43.820 I'll challenge any woman. 31:43.820 --> 31:44.740 You wanna challenge me? 31:44.740 --> 31:45.700 Wait, I saw that. 31:45.700 --> 31:46.540 Come on up here. 31:46.540 --> 31:47.780 All right, yeah. 31:51.500 --> 31:52.340 All right. 31:52.340 --> 31:53.260 I don't even know how to do this. 31:53.260 --> 31:54.100 You got it. 31:54.100 --> 31:54.940 You look like you did it. 31:54.940 --> 31:56.780 Are you like one of these people 31:56.780 --> 31:58.100 who pretends like they don't know, 31:58.100 --> 31:59.780 and as they gamble, they win? 31:59.780 --> 32:00.600 All right, ready? 32:00.600 --> 32:01.540 Somebody call, go. 32:01.780 --> 32:02.620 Go, go. 32:02.620 --> 32:03.540 Yeah, yeah! 32:04.820 --> 32:05.660 See? 32:05.660 --> 32:06.500 All right, go ahead and sit down. 32:06.500 --> 32:07.540 It's physical. 32:07.540 --> 32:08.380 All right, sit down. 32:08.380 --> 32:09.620 That isn't only physical. 32:09.620 --> 32:13.020 So basically, what's the Bible say, the weaker vessel? 32:13.020 --> 32:15.380 Oh, oh, oh, we just proved it. 32:15.380 --> 32:17.260 That's the strongest woman in this church. 32:17.260 --> 32:18.100 No, I'm just kidding. 32:18.100 --> 32:20.860 But anyway, the point is that the Bible teaches here 32:20.860 --> 32:23.140 there is a difference between men and women. 32:23.140 --> 32:26.020 Do the men and women compete together in the Olympics? 32:26.020 --> 32:28.420 No, there's a physical difference, okay? 32:28.420 --> 32:30.580 But you know, there's not just a physical difference. 32:30.580 --> 32:33.360 There is an emotional difference between men and women. 32:33.360 --> 32:35.340 Men and women have different emotions. 32:35.340 --> 32:37.660 Men and women have different talents and abilities. 32:37.660 --> 32:39.380 Men have certain talents and abilities. 32:39.380 --> 32:42.020 Women have other talents and abilities that are different. 32:42.020 --> 32:44.900 Men have different strengths in certain areas. 32:44.900 --> 32:46.780 Women have different strengths in other areas. 32:46.780 --> 32:47.860 There's a difference. 32:47.860 --> 32:51.220 It's not that she's less honorable, 32:51.220 --> 32:53.560 but it's that she's the weaker vessel, 32:53.560 --> 32:55.780 and therefore is subject unto the husband. 32:55.780 --> 32:57.340 That's what the Bible says. 32:57.340 --> 32:58.960 And then did I read the whole thing there? 32:58.960 --> 33:00.420 Is there one more verse? 33:01.300 --> 33:02.140 I think that's it, it says, 33:02.140 --> 33:05.620 and he husbands dwell with them according to knowledge, 33:05.620 --> 33:08.100 giving honor unto the wife as of the weaker vessel 33:08.100 --> 33:10.460 as being heirs together of the grace of life, 33:10.460 --> 33:12.380 that your prayers be not hindered. 33:12.380 --> 33:14.980 Look over, if you would, at 1 Timothy chapter two. 33:14.980 --> 33:16.380 1 Timothy chapter number two. 33:17.740 --> 33:19.180 He says in 1 Timothy two, 33:19.180 --> 33:21.780 just go back a few pages in your Bible toward the beginning. 33:21.780 --> 33:24.500 1 Timothy chapter two verse eight. 33:24.500 --> 33:25.380 It says this, it says, 33:25.380 --> 33:28.140 I will therefore that men pray everywhere, 33:28.140 --> 33:31.260 lifting up holy hands without wrath and doubting, 33:31.260 --> 33:34.180 in like manner also that women adorn themselves 33:34.180 --> 33:35.740 in modest apparel, 33:35.740 --> 33:37.800 with shamefacedness and sobriety, 33:37.800 --> 33:41.320 not with broided hair or gold or pearls or costly array, 33:41.320 --> 33:43.780 but which becometh women professing godliness 33:43.780 --> 33:44.860 with good works. 33:44.860 --> 33:47.480 Verse 11, let the woman learn in silence 33:47.480 --> 33:48.820 with all subjection. 33:48.820 --> 33:51.620 But I suffered not a woman to teach, 33:51.620 --> 33:53.660 nor do you serve authority over the man, 33:53.660 --> 33:55.120 but to be in silence. 33:55.120 --> 33:57.780 For Adam was first formed, then he, 33:58.300 --> 33:59.420 and Adam was not deceived, 33:59.420 --> 34:02.020 but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. 34:02.020 --> 34:03.580 Flip over to 1 Corinthians 11. 34:03.580 --> 34:05.580 Go back to 1 Corinthians 11. 34:05.580 --> 34:06.860 I'm sorry, 1 Corinthians 14. 34:06.860 --> 34:08.780 Just go back a few pages in your Bible. 34:08.780 --> 34:10.740 1 Corinthians chapter 14. 34:11.740 --> 34:14.620 And let's begin reading in verse number 34. 34:14.620 --> 34:16.820 It says in 1 Corinthians 13, 34:16.820 --> 34:19.220 I'm sorry, 14, 34, 34:19.220 --> 34:20.380 let, watch this, 34:20.380 --> 34:23.860 let your women keep silence in the churches. 34:25.180 --> 34:27.320 For it is not permitted unto them to speak, 34:27.720 --> 34:29.320 but that they are commanded to be under obedience 34:29.320 --> 34:31.000 is also safe for all. 34:31.000 --> 34:32.240 And if they will learn anything, 34:32.240 --> 34:34.000 let them ask their husbands at home, 34:34.000 --> 34:37.280 for it is a shame for women to speak in the church. 34:37.280 --> 34:39.080 One time I showed this to somebody 34:40.280 --> 34:43.320 who went to a church of a woman pastor, woman preacher. 34:43.320 --> 34:45.020 And I showed this, I read this to him. 34:45.020 --> 34:45.860 And he pointed at it and said, 34:45.860 --> 34:46.760 do you believe that? 34:48.960 --> 34:51.120 You know, yeah. 34:51.120 --> 34:52.320 Of course I believe it. 34:53.800 --> 34:54.920 No, I don't believe it. 34:54.920 --> 34:57.040 Let's all, does anybody want to go out to eat or something? 34:57.600 --> 34:59.400 Why are we, what are we doing here? 34:59.400 --> 35:00.240 Of course I believe it. 35:00.240 --> 35:01.600 If I didn't believe it, I wouldn't be a preacher. 35:01.600 --> 35:04.320 If I didn't believe it, I wouldn't have memorized, 35:04.320 --> 35:05.960 you know, a hundred some odd chapters of the Bible 35:05.960 --> 35:07.660 if I didn't think it was God's word. 35:07.660 --> 35:08.680 If I didn't think it was real, 35:08.680 --> 35:10.080 if I didn't think it was the truth, 35:10.080 --> 35:11.760 I wouldn't even be up here tonight. 35:11.760 --> 35:13.480 Of course I believe it. 35:13.480 --> 35:15.600 And yet today, women preachers abound. 35:16.720 --> 35:19.240 Women preach, oh, well they're just filling the void 35:19.240 --> 35:21.240 because there's not enough men preachers. 35:22.120 --> 35:24.240 The Bible says no. 35:24.240 --> 35:25.400 The Bible says, you know, 35:25.440 --> 35:28.640 my son Isaac's not gonna get up here and pastor the church. 35:28.640 --> 35:30.360 Solomon's not gonna pastor the church. 35:30.360 --> 35:32.040 Children are not gonna pastor the church. 35:32.040 --> 35:34.280 But you know, not everybody is qualified 35:34.280 --> 35:36.280 to pastor the church and the Bible makes it clear 35:36.280 --> 35:39.080 that when it comes to church, when we're in the church, 35:39.080 --> 35:40.560 women are to learn in silence. 35:40.560 --> 35:43.240 That's what the Bible said, that they learn in silence. 35:43.240 --> 35:45.600 Now does that mean they can't sing the songs or fellas? 35:45.600 --> 35:48.120 No, but they're not the ones who get up and speak. 35:48.120 --> 35:49.320 They're not the ones who preach. 35:49.320 --> 35:50.720 They're not the ones who leave. 35:50.720 --> 35:54.520 Men are, one time I knocked on the door, I was holding. 35:54.520 --> 35:57.920 And I asked this lady, I said, you go to church anywhere? 35:57.920 --> 35:59.480 And she said, well, I'm the deacon 35:59.480 --> 36:00.640 that so-and-so's church. 36:01.760 --> 36:03.040 And I said, really? 36:03.040 --> 36:04.720 I said, you're the deacon? 36:04.720 --> 36:06.140 She said, yeah. 36:06.140 --> 36:08.480 I said, hey, I said, really, I said, 36:08.480 --> 36:11.760 I said, you know, forgive me for being surprised 36:11.760 --> 36:13.400 that you're a deacon. 36:13.400 --> 36:15.440 But I said, because I read this in the Bible, 36:15.440 --> 36:18.120 I said, you know, the Bible says right here, 36:18.120 --> 36:21.200 it says, let the deacons be the husband of one life, 36:21.200 --> 36:24.760 ruling their children in their own house as well. 36:24.760 --> 36:26.480 And I said, according to this verse, 36:26.480 --> 36:28.400 it says the deacon is to be the husband of one life. 36:28.400 --> 36:29.560 I said, I was just surprised 36:29.560 --> 36:31.520 that you were the husband of one life. 36:33.520 --> 36:36.200 And she just looked at me like, huh? 36:36.200 --> 36:39.200 I said, well, I just didn't know that you had a wife. 36:40.720 --> 36:43.820 Like, I mean, I would have thought you would have a husband. 36:43.820 --> 36:46.120 I said, it just shocks me that you have a wife. 36:46.120 --> 36:48.960 You know, and she says, uh-oh, whoa, whoa, whoa. 36:49.560 --> 36:51.280 You know, and you say, oh, man, I can't even believe 36:51.280 --> 36:52.100 you said that. 36:52.100 --> 36:53.440 That's what the Bible says. 36:53.440 --> 36:56.000 And we live in a topsy-turvy world. 36:56.000 --> 37:00.560 We live in a world where 10% of United Methodist pastors 37:00.560 --> 37:04.320 are homosexuals, are the most filthy perverts 37:04.320 --> 37:06.420 under the sun, according to what the Bible says. 37:06.420 --> 37:07.680 The Bible says it's vile. 37:07.680 --> 37:09.560 These are God's words to describe it. 37:09.560 --> 37:12.440 Vile, he uses that word vile. 37:12.440 --> 37:14.640 You know, vile means disgusting. 37:14.640 --> 37:15.960 He said they're vile. 37:15.960 --> 37:18.080 He used the word filthy. 37:18.080 --> 37:21.880 He used the word wicked, and they put a vile, filthy, 37:21.880 --> 37:24.120 wicked person behind the pulpit of the first 37:24.120 --> 37:26.560 United Methodist Church of Tempe. 37:26.560 --> 37:29.760 And they call it, you know, oh, we're just modern. 37:29.760 --> 37:32.560 No, you're wicked, you're vile, you're filthy, 37:32.560 --> 37:33.400 you're disgusting. 37:33.400 --> 37:35.080 That's what the Bible calls it. 37:35.080 --> 37:36.820 You call it anything else, and you're not lining up 37:36.820 --> 37:38.200 with scripture, because that's what, you say, 37:38.200 --> 37:40.200 oh, we'll just call it something something like gay. 37:40.200 --> 37:42.000 No, let's call it filthy. 37:42.000 --> 37:43.280 Let's call it vile. 37:43.280 --> 37:44.800 Let's call it wicked. 37:44.800 --> 37:47.300 Let's call it strange, because those are four words 37:47.380 --> 37:48.580 that the Bible uses. 37:48.580 --> 37:50.860 And so, God raised fire and brimstone 37:50.860 --> 37:54.120 on Sodom and Gomorrah, because of the sin of homosexuality. 37:54.120 --> 37:57.020 And yet today, fire and brimstone is ready to reign 37:57.020 --> 37:59.260 over these pastors who get up in the pulpit, 37:59.260 --> 38:02.700 they're homosexuals, and then 50% of the United Methodist 38:02.700 --> 38:03.940 pastors are women. 38:03.940 --> 38:05.940 When the Bible said let the women keep silence 38:05.940 --> 38:08.740 in the church, it's not permitted under them to speak. 38:08.740 --> 38:11.060 He said that men are the ones to lead, 38:11.060 --> 38:12.900 men are to have authority in the church, 38:12.900 --> 38:14.300 and women are to follow. 38:14.300 --> 38:16.420 That's what the Bible teaches. 38:16.460 --> 38:17.460 You say, oh, it's degrading. 38:17.460 --> 38:20.820 No, it's Bible, it's Bible, it's God's word. 38:20.820 --> 38:22.100 He said, but wait a minute, that was before 38:22.100 --> 38:23.340 the women's lib movement. 38:24.940 --> 38:26.740 But hold on a second, women's lib, 38:26.740 --> 38:28.060 what does women's lib stand for? 38:28.060 --> 38:31.220 Women's liberation, which means to make someone free, 38:31.220 --> 38:32.500 that's what it means to liberate. 38:32.500 --> 38:34.100 Let me ask something, who's more free, 38:34.100 --> 38:37.020 my wife or the women's lib crowd? 38:37.020 --> 38:40.580 Well, let's see, my wife does whatever she wants all day. 38:40.580 --> 38:43.100 I go off to work, I don't stand over her, 38:43.100 --> 38:45.860 I don't watch her, I don't have CCTV on her. 38:45.860 --> 38:47.580 I don't pull up on my phone. 38:49.780 --> 38:53.620 Honey, what are you doing sitting on the couch? 38:53.620 --> 38:54.740 There's work to do. 38:54.740 --> 38:57.340 Do you think I pull up a CCTV with my wife? 38:57.340 --> 38:59.220 Do you think that my wife clocks in and clocks out 38:59.220 --> 39:01.940 every day just to make sure she gets up on time? 39:01.940 --> 39:05.540 No, let me tell you when my wife gets up, 39:05.540 --> 39:07.540 when she wants to get up. 39:07.540 --> 39:09.260 Let me tell you when my wife goes to bed, 39:09.260 --> 39:10.940 when she wants to go to bed. 39:10.940 --> 39:12.740 Let me tell you what my wife has for breakfast, 39:12.740 --> 39:14.260 whatever she wants. 39:14.260 --> 39:15.860 Guess what my wife's gonna do tomorrow? 39:15.860 --> 39:17.180 Whatever she wants. 39:17.180 --> 39:18.700 Guess what store she goes to? 39:18.700 --> 39:20.140 Whichever store she wants. 39:20.140 --> 39:22.860 She doesn't have me hovering over telling her what to do. 39:22.860 --> 39:24.940 My wife has a lot more freedom, but guess what? 39:24.940 --> 39:27.040 What I say in my house goes. 39:27.040 --> 39:28.700 When I say, hey, this is what we're gonna do, 39:28.700 --> 39:31.700 that's what we do, and it's end of story. 39:31.700 --> 39:33.300 And we don't have two heads in our house, 39:33.300 --> 39:36.060 there's one head, and it's me, and it's not her. 39:36.060 --> 39:39.060 But she has more freedom than the liberated woman, 39:39.060 --> 39:42.260 the yes we can woman who goes to work every day, 39:42.260 --> 39:44.660 and she's just traded her husband for her boss 39:44.660 --> 39:46.500 for her boss at work. 39:46.500 --> 39:48.940 Who does tell her what time to get up, 39:48.940 --> 39:51.260 who does watch over her all day long, 39:51.260 --> 39:53.460 who does have a clock in and clock out, 39:53.460 --> 39:55.340 who does give her a list of work to do, 39:55.340 --> 39:57.660 who does chew her out if she doesn't get the work done. 39:57.660 --> 39:58.860 I don't chew my wife up. 39:58.860 --> 40:03.500 My wife has total freedom that I give her, okay? 40:03.500 --> 40:06.340 And then when there's something that's a major decision, 40:06.340 --> 40:08.400 I have the final say. 40:08.400 --> 40:09.240 I'm the leader. 40:09.240 --> 40:11.720 And when I tell my wife to do something, she has to do it. 40:12.040 --> 40:14.400 But I promise you that she has way more freedom 40:14.400 --> 40:17.880 than the woman who has to go to work for eight hours a day, 40:17.880 --> 40:20.640 and then she comes home and has to do housework 40:20.640 --> 40:23.120 when she gets home, because her and her husband 40:23.120 --> 40:25.760 have to split the chores, and she's working, 40:25.760 --> 40:27.120 and she's working in some way. 40:27.120 --> 40:28.020 Let me tell you something. 40:28.020 --> 40:31.360 Many women, they have to go back when they're overworked. 40:31.360 --> 40:33.840 They're working harder than women were designed to work. 40:33.840 --> 40:36.720 Because they have to go to work for eight hours a day. 40:36.720 --> 40:39.000 Then they have to come home and do housework. 40:39.000 --> 40:39.980 And then they have the chores, 40:39.980 --> 40:42.060 and they're basically trying to juggle two things. 40:42.060 --> 40:44.900 They're trying to run the household and trying to work. 40:44.900 --> 40:46.260 And they have too much on their plate, 40:46.260 --> 40:47.220 and things get neglected. 40:47.220 --> 40:48.420 You know what gets neglected a lot of the time? 40:48.420 --> 40:50.300 The children get neglected. 40:50.300 --> 40:52.620 They get shipped off to the daycare, to this place, 40:52.620 --> 40:54.180 to that place, and they get neglected. 40:54.180 --> 40:56.780 They don't get raised by a loving, nurturing mother. 40:56.780 --> 40:59.980 But you see, in God's economy, the man works, 40:59.980 --> 41:01.940 according to the Bible, he's the breadwinner, 41:01.940 --> 41:04.360 and the wife is called a keeper at home. 41:04.360 --> 41:06.220 She keeps the house, she stays home. 41:06.220 --> 41:08.500 She raises the children, okay? 41:08.500 --> 41:09.700 And then she's not overworked, 41:09.700 --> 41:11.300 because she's focused on one thing. 41:11.300 --> 41:13.140 My wife has a job. 41:13.140 --> 41:15.920 Not a job outside the home, she doesn't get a paycheck, 41:15.920 --> 41:19.220 but her calling is to be a housewife. 41:19.220 --> 41:20.300 It's to be a mother. 41:20.300 --> 41:22.380 And that is a full-time job. 41:22.380 --> 41:24.560 I remember when I worked for an alarm company 41:24.560 --> 41:26.460 that I used to work for, the boss would say, 41:26.460 --> 41:27.820 well, have your wife, you know. 41:27.820 --> 41:29.780 Because I said, oh man, I'm busy, I can't get this stuff done. 41:29.780 --> 41:32.220 He said, have your wife do some of the paperwork. 41:32.220 --> 41:33.820 Have your wife do these phone calls. 41:33.820 --> 41:35.780 And I said, I said, listen. 41:35.780 --> 41:37.860 I said, I don't have my wife do anything. 41:38.060 --> 41:40.020 He said, my wife already has a full-time job. 41:40.020 --> 41:41.740 She's dealing with little children. 41:41.740 --> 41:43.480 She has all the housekeeping. 41:43.480 --> 41:45.380 She cooks the meals, she cleans the floor. 41:45.380 --> 41:47.740 I'm not gonna make her do a bunch of work for me. 41:47.740 --> 41:48.900 Now, some minds all call her and say, 41:48.900 --> 41:50.220 honey, can you look this up for me? 41:50.220 --> 41:51.160 You know, quick thing. 41:51.160 --> 41:53.980 But I'm not gonna have her spending hours a day 41:53.980 --> 41:55.420 working on something else, 41:55.420 --> 41:59.040 because I know that she's already just as busy as I am. 41:59.040 --> 42:02.200 Just caring for the five children and running the household, 42:02.200 --> 42:04.660 taking care of all the daily needs of the house. 42:04.660 --> 42:07.660 It is a job to run that house. 42:07.660 --> 42:09.340 And so people say, oh, your wife just sits around. 42:09.340 --> 42:11.340 No, she's working hard all day, 42:11.340 --> 42:13.800 caring for the children, cooking, cleaning. 42:13.800 --> 42:16.100 That is a lot of work. 42:16.100 --> 42:17.660 And so that's enough on her plate. 42:17.660 --> 42:19.220 I'm not gonna burden her with something else. 42:19.220 --> 42:21.040 And today, these liberated women 42:21.040 --> 42:23.020 are just overburdened, overworked. 42:23.020 --> 42:24.960 And that's the way it always is. 42:24.960 --> 42:27.460 They promise the liberty, the Bible says. 42:27.460 --> 42:30.220 You know, sin always promises you freedom. 42:30.220 --> 42:31.380 Yeah, be free. 42:31.380 --> 42:33.280 You know, the devil told Adam and Eve, 42:33.280 --> 42:34.940 oh yeah, you'll be like a god. 42:34.940 --> 42:36.940 You can decide what you want to do 42:36.940 --> 42:38.380 once you eat of this fruit. 42:38.380 --> 42:41.600 And all sin ever brings is just bondage and slavery. 42:41.600 --> 42:44.600 And the women of the day, they wanted to have freedom. 42:44.600 --> 42:47.520 So they threw off the yoke of their husband. 42:47.520 --> 42:49.800 Now their husband's cowering in fear. 42:52.100 --> 42:54.140 You know, but they threw off the one yoke 42:54.140 --> 42:55.900 and they took on an even bigger yoke 42:56.740 --> 42:58.860 of having to go out in the workforce 42:58.860 --> 43:01.200 and do both and handle both. 43:01.200 --> 43:02.660 And you know what I've noticed? 43:02.660 --> 43:04.540 A lot of women, you see them out in the workforce 43:04.540 --> 43:05.640 and they're not happy. 43:07.340 --> 43:08.260 They're not happy to be there. 43:08.260 --> 43:10.820 Like, they just, they don't belong there. 43:10.820 --> 43:12.300 And sometimes they get a bad attitude 43:12.300 --> 43:14.340 and I don't blame them for getting a bad attitude. 43:14.340 --> 43:16.600 Because they're not in the natural environment. 43:16.600 --> 43:19.300 You know, you see a woman operating a jackhammer. 43:19.300 --> 43:22.660 Jackhammer, you know, she's an extreme example. 43:22.660 --> 43:26.140 And hey, her sister, her sister operated a jackhammer. 43:26.140 --> 43:26.980 Literally. 43:28.320 --> 43:29.460 And she's a very nice girl. 43:29.460 --> 43:32.020 I like your sister, she's a very nice girl. 43:32.020 --> 43:33.380 And you know what, I fell bad for her 43:33.380 --> 43:36.580 because I don't think that that's a job for a woman. 43:37.500 --> 43:38.780 You know, I think she would have been a lot happier 43:38.780 --> 43:41.820 in the home, taking care of the children, 43:41.820 --> 43:44.700 but she's liberated, baby, you know? 43:44.700 --> 43:46.660 She's just like, you're, you're, you're, you're, you're. 43:46.660 --> 43:48.880 Who in here has operated a jackhammer before? 43:48.880 --> 43:50.820 Have you ever operated a jackhammer for like a long, 43:50.820 --> 43:53.040 I've spent, I've spent a lot of eight hour days 43:53.040 --> 43:54.740 operating a jackhammer. 43:54.740 --> 43:56.120 It's hard work. 43:57.020 --> 43:58.140 It is very hard work. 43:58.140 --> 44:00.060 And not only, I mean, she worked for the city though, 44:00.060 --> 44:01.820 so she probably spent a lot of time doing that. 44:01.820 --> 44:02.660 So. 44:02.660 --> 44:07.060 She also, sometimes she was on shovel duty. 44:09.220 --> 44:11.180 Other times she was on watching duty. 44:13.100 --> 44:14.060 But I'm telling you something, 44:14.060 --> 44:16.300 I've operated a jackhammer all day long. 44:18.700 --> 44:20.420 It didn't wear, and I was operating, 44:20.420 --> 44:21.860 I wasn't operating it vertically, 44:21.860 --> 44:23.820 I was operating it horizontally. 44:23.820 --> 44:25.780 Because I was burrowing through a wall 44:25.780 --> 44:27.060 that was like two feet thick. 44:27.060 --> 44:28.780 In Germany, a stone wall that had been there 44:28.780 --> 44:30.780 for literally hundreds of years. 44:30.780 --> 44:32.700 And I was using a jackhammer, 44:32.700 --> 44:34.220 and I was swinging a sledge hammer, 44:34.220 --> 44:36.380 and I was hammering with the mallet these little spikes, 44:36.380 --> 44:39.460 and I had to basically put a door where there was no door. 44:39.460 --> 44:42.100 And where there hadn't been a door for centuries. 44:42.100 --> 44:44.780 And that jackhammer will wear you out. 44:44.780 --> 44:48.900 But boy, at least she's, you know, doing her own thing. 44:48.900 --> 44:49.740 Right? 44:49.740 --> 44:52.060 At least she's, you know, making her own decisions. 44:52.060 --> 44:53.480 Yeah. 44:53.480 --> 44:55.100 Come on, we've been deceived. 44:55.100 --> 44:56.880 We've been lied to. 44:56.880 --> 44:58.980 Our society's messed up, we could've just got back 44:59.020 --> 45:02.300 to God's plan and have a happy home. 45:02.300 --> 45:04.300 You know, where you got one authority. 45:04.300 --> 45:05.940 Have you ever noticed that on the Supreme Court 45:05.940 --> 45:08.100 there's nine justices? 45:08.100 --> 45:10.180 That's for a reason, there's an odd number. 45:11.140 --> 45:13.740 That way they don't always have a tie. 45:13.740 --> 45:15.780 Well guess what, two people makes a tie. 45:16.860 --> 45:18.140 Who's the tiebreaker? 45:18.140 --> 45:19.100 The child? 45:19.100 --> 45:20.220 You know what I mean? 45:20.220 --> 45:22.540 And so, you know, you gotta have a leader. 45:22.540 --> 45:23.780 How many presidents of the United States? 45:23.780 --> 45:24.820 We have one. 45:24.820 --> 45:27.020 The reason they designed it that way in the Constitution 45:27.020 --> 45:30.500 is because too many cooks spoil the broth. 45:30.500 --> 45:32.060 You know, you gotta have basically 45:32.060 --> 45:33.620 somebody who's in charge. 45:33.620 --> 45:35.200 Somebody's gotta lead. 45:35.200 --> 45:37.700 Two leaders go two different directions, what do you do? 45:37.700 --> 45:39.660 Well, what do people do today? 45:39.660 --> 45:41.380 They just split up. 45:41.380 --> 45:42.900 You got two leaders, eventually you split up. 45:42.900 --> 45:44.380 That's where all the divorce comes from. 45:44.380 --> 45:46.020 Well I wanna do this, well I wanna, 45:46.020 --> 45:48.360 I mean I've known people, well I wanna live in this city. 45:48.360 --> 45:50.260 Well, go live there then. 45:50.260 --> 45:52.860 And literally a divorce from people who were getting along 45:52.860 --> 45:54.460 started just because one of them moved to the other 45:54.460 --> 45:56.820 and said I'm not gonna move. 45:57.460 --> 45:58.880 Everything else they were getting along. 45:58.880 --> 46:00.380 But then they just live in two different cities 46:00.380 --> 46:02.100 and then after a few months they just realized, 46:02.100 --> 46:03.580 well I don't need you. 46:03.580 --> 46:06.280 I've lived without you for two months anyway, you know? 46:06.280 --> 46:08.380 This might as well just, you know, keep it. 46:08.380 --> 46:09.740 And then the divorce papers follow. 46:09.740 --> 46:12.520 I have a friend, that's how it works. 46:12.520 --> 46:14.900 They moved to a different town, his wife didn't like it, 46:14.900 --> 46:17.900 so the mom took her back home. 46:17.900 --> 46:19.180 And other than that they got along great. 46:19.180 --> 46:20.020 And then you know what? 46:20.020 --> 46:21.020 It led to divorce. 46:21.020 --> 46:22.980 One thing led to another. 46:22.980 --> 46:25.520 Because you gotta have one decision maker that says, 46:25.560 --> 46:28.240 honey, we're living in Phoenix, I don't care how long it is. 46:28.240 --> 46:30.240 You know, just don't do it. 46:30.240 --> 46:32.200 Gotta have somebody who makes the decision, 46:32.200 --> 46:33.600 who takes the lead. 46:33.600 --> 46:35.200 And you say, well I don't agree with your logic, 46:35.200 --> 46:37.840 but you gotta agree with the Bible, that's what it says. 46:37.840 --> 46:40.600 And so look, I'm not trying to beat down on women 46:40.600 --> 46:43.440 or trying to preach something that's a pain in the neck 46:43.440 --> 46:46.440 or some, oh man, I can't believe the Bible, 46:46.440 --> 46:48.340 we gotta live by this archaic stuff. 46:48.340 --> 46:50.800 This is how you can have harmony in your home. 46:50.800 --> 46:53.440 This is how you can have a happy home. 46:53.440 --> 46:56.000 Where a wife fulfilling her God-given role. 46:56.000 --> 46:57.600 And I guarantee you, my wife is better 46:57.600 --> 46:59.200 at raising the children than me. 47:00.240 --> 47:01.600 Do you think I would be good at home 47:01.600 --> 47:03.480 with the children, honey? 47:03.480 --> 47:06.160 She dreads to even think about it 47:06.160 --> 47:07.960 if I were to do it for like a week. 47:09.320 --> 47:12.040 I mean literally, my wife would feel uneasy 47:12.040 --> 47:15.520 about letting me run the house for like two days. 47:15.520 --> 47:18.260 And she's wrong about that, you know, I can do it. 47:18.260 --> 47:20.680 But I promise you that she is a lot better 47:20.680 --> 47:23.400 at caring for small children than I am. 47:24.240 --> 47:27.560 My dad just kind of lets them do whatever my dad does. 47:27.560 --> 47:31.040 Mom is much more reasonable and you know, 47:31.040 --> 47:33.240 she probably feeds them a lot better than I would feed them. 47:33.240 --> 47:35.080 I can't do a pretty thing. 47:35.080 --> 47:36.960 And so what I'm trying to say is that 47:36.960 --> 47:40.020 when everybody's in their proper place, you have harmony. 47:40.020 --> 47:42.960 When the man is doing what he's supposed to be doing, 47:42.960 --> 47:46.200 when he's a loving, and look, why would you not, ladies, 47:46.200 --> 47:48.860 why would you not want to submit to yourself 47:48.860 --> 47:52.640 to a loving, nourishing, caring guy 47:52.760 --> 47:55.680 who loves you so much, he loves you to the degree 47:55.680 --> 47:59.000 that he'll do anything for you like Jesus would do for you. 47:59.000 --> 48:00.720 That's, I mean, wouldn't you want to submit yourself 48:00.720 --> 48:02.020 to a guy that's that loving? 48:02.020 --> 48:04.660 You say, oh, he's just gonna take advantage. 48:04.660 --> 48:07.320 You know what, if everybody's doing 48:07.320 --> 48:08.320 what they're supposed to be doing, 48:08.320 --> 48:09.960 if the husband is loving his wife 48:09.960 --> 48:12.320 like he's supposed to be loving her, 48:12.320 --> 48:14.520 and if the wife is giving him the respect 48:14.520 --> 48:16.280 that he deserves as the husband 48:16.280 --> 48:18.120 and submitting to his authority, 48:18.120 --> 48:20.640 that's the only way you're gonna have harmony. 48:20.680 --> 48:23.600 Today's society says, oh, if we're just both equal roles 48:23.600 --> 48:26.440 and share everything, it doesn't work, folks, 48:26.440 --> 48:28.280 and that's why, and look, look at the world 48:28.280 --> 48:30.440 and see the proof it doesn't work. 48:30.440 --> 48:32.140 God's method works. 48:32.140 --> 48:35.720 How many people have I known, myself included, 48:35.720 --> 48:37.980 who basically have a balance in their home 48:37.980 --> 48:42.360 of a man who's in authority, who lovingly, you know, 48:42.360 --> 48:45.480 and unselfishly deals with his wife 48:45.480 --> 48:47.680 and she submits to death, are we perfect? 48:47.680 --> 48:49.040 No. 48:49.040 --> 48:50.000 Do we have fights? 48:50.200 --> 48:51.320 Of course we have fights. 48:51.320 --> 48:54.100 Nobody goes through life without ever fighting. 48:54.100 --> 48:56.120 If you do, you know, I mean, look, 48:56.120 --> 48:57.960 let me put it to you this way, guys. 48:58.920 --> 49:01.700 If you wanna just never ever, never have a fight, 49:03.240 --> 49:06.520 you're probably not the boss in your home either. 49:06.520 --> 49:07.960 You know what I mean? 49:07.960 --> 49:09.960 I mean, it's that simple. 49:09.960 --> 49:12.200 I'm sure there are couples who never fight 49:12.200 --> 49:13.640 because the husband just says, 49:13.640 --> 49:16.200 okay, I think I don't wanna fight. 49:16.200 --> 49:17.360 I've known some guys like that 49:17.360 --> 49:19.240 and they never had a fight in their house, you know, 49:19.320 --> 49:20.320 but sometimes there's gonna be a fight, 49:20.320 --> 49:23.440 but you know what, my goal is not to not have a fight 49:23.440 --> 49:25.480 because that's an unreasonable goal. 49:25.480 --> 49:29.640 My goal is to have a marriage that's pleasing to the Lord. 49:29.640 --> 49:31.720 My goal is to have a marriage that is, 49:31.720 --> 49:33.200 the marriage that God wants to be happy. 49:33.200 --> 49:34.240 My goal is to have a marriage 49:34.240 --> 49:36.000 that's gonna produce the children 49:36.000 --> 49:37.800 that God wants to be produced out of the house. 49:37.800 --> 49:38.880 That's my goal. 49:38.880 --> 49:42.800 Not to be perfect, not to have a perfect relationship, 49:42.800 --> 49:44.880 but to obey the Bible, that's my goal. 49:44.880 --> 49:46.640 And I find that the more I obey the Bible 49:46.640 --> 49:48.140 and the more my wife obeys the Bible, 49:48.180 --> 49:52.660 the more sweet, harmony, and loving marriage we have 49:52.660 --> 49:54.420 because when we follow God's way, 49:54.420 --> 49:55.860 God's way is the one that works. 49:55.860 --> 49:58.420 When you raise your children, God's way. 49:58.420 --> 50:00.100 Now, and it's not just all about spanking, 50:00.100 --> 50:02.300 but spanking is a necessary ingredient. 50:02.300 --> 50:05.540 Without spanking, you will fail in parenting. 50:05.540 --> 50:07.740 You will fail without spanking. 50:08.740 --> 50:10.820 Spanking is necessary, but there's more to it. 50:10.820 --> 50:13.780 Obviously, you can't just, all I do is spank. 50:13.780 --> 50:15.740 You gotta have love, you gotta train them up, 50:15.740 --> 50:17.820 you gotta be gentle, you gotta nourish them, 50:18.340 --> 50:21.020 you gotta train them and teach them and so forth. 50:21.020 --> 50:23.540 But let me tell you something, if you follow God's plan, 50:23.540 --> 50:25.140 you're gonna have success. 50:25.140 --> 50:27.900 You're gonna get through it and you're gonna have a family 50:27.900 --> 50:29.420 as God wants you to have. 50:29.420 --> 50:31.220 Or you can follow the modern family 50:31.220 --> 50:34.420 and have your 12-year-old look like 50:34.420 --> 50:37.060 they just fell out of a fishing tackle box 50:37.060 --> 50:39.460 because they have so many piercings in their face 50:39.460 --> 50:41.860 and they're gonna tell you what to do. 50:41.860 --> 50:43.940 And sadly, that's a lot of what's walking around 50:43.940 --> 50:45.340 at the high school today. 50:45.340 --> 50:46.740 You know what's down there. 50:47.820 --> 50:49.900 If you want your child to look like you can't tell 50:49.900 --> 50:51.940 whether it's a boy or a girl, then you know what, 50:51.940 --> 50:53.980 go ahead, follow the world's method. 50:55.020 --> 50:57.900 If you want your child to beat you up in a doctor's office 50:57.900 --> 50:59.860 to where other people are embarrassed to even watch, 50:59.860 --> 51:02.700 to where even the most staunch anti-spanking advocates 51:02.700 --> 51:05.700 are using the word beat about your child. 51:05.700 --> 51:07.980 I mean, my sister said, that's the word that they use. 51:07.980 --> 51:09.180 She said they didn't even say spank, 51:09.180 --> 51:10.900 they said beat that child. 51:12.620 --> 51:14.940 And these are anti-spanking people. 51:14.940 --> 51:17.260 It's funny, my wife's brothers, 51:17.580 --> 51:19.500 they're so modernized and whatever, 51:19.500 --> 51:23.420 and her brother Bondi, he doesn't have any children, 51:23.420 --> 51:25.780 so therefore he's the expert on children. 51:25.780 --> 51:28.460 And so my brother-in-law Bondi, he's the expert on children 51:28.460 --> 51:29.540 because he has none. 51:29.540 --> 51:33.580 So he basically is saying, oh, those spank spankings wrong, 51:33.580 --> 51:35.180 you know, it's so horrible, 51:35.180 --> 51:37.140 how can you do this abusive thing? 51:37.140 --> 51:38.780 Hey, we caught him one time. 51:39.940 --> 51:42.980 Because when my child touched his precious laptop, 51:43.540 --> 51:48.220 oh, oh, oh, that's when he slapped the hand, 51:50.340 --> 51:52.220 slapped the hand to the toe, 51:52.220 --> 51:55.020 and then he saw that you just saw him do it, 51:55.020 --> 51:57.540 and he's real embarrassed, oh, I mean, I don't know. 51:58.980 --> 52:00.340 You know, when it came to his little, 52:00.340 --> 52:02.020 precious little electronic device, 52:02.020 --> 52:06.660 all of a sudden, he's just slapped in the hand, okay? 52:06.660 --> 52:08.860 Because look, any sane person, 52:08.860 --> 52:10.980 and my sister said, I think that these doctors 52:10.980 --> 52:12.820 are kind of saying like, don't spank in him 52:13.660 --> 52:16.860 like spank a little, okay, you know what I mean? 52:16.860 --> 52:18.140 I'm not gonna spank a little, 52:18.140 --> 52:19.860 I'm gonna spank what it takes 52:20.740 --> 52:21.820 for my children to grow up 52:21.820 --> 52:23.540 in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. 52:23.540 --> 52:27.300 And I'm not gonna let the government, or the doctor, 52:27.300 --> 52:29.660 or whoever tell me how to raise my children, 52:29.660 --> 52:32.540 I'm gonna let Jesus Christ tell me through this book 52:32.540 --> 52:33.620 how to raise my children, 52:33.620 --> 52:37.540 and I don't need your Dr. Spock, Dr. Spook, or Dr. Scott 52:37.540 --> 52:39.100 telling me how to raise my children, 52:39.100 --> 52:40.780 I don't need to be a little spring, 52:40.780 --> 52:42.580 I need the Holy Bible and that's it. 52:43.300 --> 52:44.620 So let's bow our heads in that word of prayer, 52:44.620 --> 52:47.500 and Father, we just pray that you'd please just help 52:47.500 --> 52:49.660 all of us to have a better marriage, dear God, 52:49.660 --> 52:54.660 and Father, help us as men to lay down the law in our house, 52:55.060 --> 52:56.260 because you commanded it. 52:56.260 --> 52:58.060 I didn't even get to the scripture, dear God, 52:58.060 --> 53:01.420 Genesis 3.16, where it says that the man shall rule over 53:01.420 --> 53:04.500 his wife in Genesis 3.16, but Father, 53:04.500 --> 53:06.740 I just pray that you would help us as men 53:06.740 --> 53:08.500 to take the lead in our own spiritually, 53:08.500 --> 53:11.700 to set the example, not to be a tyrant or a dictator, 53:11.740 --> 53:14.700 but rather to be a godly example, 53:14.700 --> 53:16.860 and someone that our wife would wanna follow. 53:16.860 --> 53:19.940 But God, help our wives even when we're imperfect, 53:19.940 --> 53:21.900 to follow us anyway, because that's what the Bible's 53:21.900 --> 53:22.940 commanded them to do. 53:22.940 --> 53:24.660 Help us to have harmony in our homes, 53:24.660 --> 53:27.020 help us to raise our children according to your word, 53:27.020 --> 53:30.340 help us to have the family and the home that you intended. 53:31.220 --> 53:33.020 Even though our society has tried so hard 53:33.020 --> 53:35.460 to break down the family, help us, dear God, 53:35.460 --> 53:38.100 as Christian people to have strong families 53:38.100 --> 53:40.300 patterned after your word, and we love you 53:40.300 --> 53:41.660 and thank you for everything that you've given us. 53:41.660 --> 53:43.420 Help us to have a great Thanksgiving this week, 53:43.420 --> 53:45.980 and thank you for all our wonderful blessings 53:45.980 --> 53:47.540 and prosperity that we have. 53:47.540 --> 53:48.980 In Jesus' name we pray, amen.