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You are in Proverbs 26. 00:27:09.960 --> 00:27:12.310 It's a great proverb. 00:27:12.310 --> 00:27:14.270 It's also Proverbs of the day, okay? 00:27:14.270 --> 00:27:15.800 I have no idea that, you know, 00:27:15.800 --> 00:27:17.890 happened to hit on the Proverbs of the day. 00:27:17.890 --> 00:27:19.230 But look at verse 24. 00:27:19.230 --> 00:27:20.790 Proverbs 26 to verse 24. 00:27:20.790 --> 00:27:21.680 The Bible says, 00:27:21.680 --> 00:27:24.070 He that hateth, disembleth with his lips, 00:27:24.070 --> 00:27:25.830 and layeth up the sea within him. 00:27:25.830 --> 00:27:27.400 When he speaketh fair, believe him not, 00:27:27.400 --> 00:27:30.120 for there are seven abominations in his heart, 00:27:30.120 --> 00:27:31.850 whose hatred is covered by deceit. 00:27:31.850 --> 00:27:35.340 His wickedness shall be shown before the whole congregation. 00:27:35.340 --> 00:27:37.890 And the title of the sermon this morning is 00:27:37.890 --> 00:27:40.370 The Sin of Passive Aggression. 00:27:40.370 --> 00:27:43.380 The Sin of Passive Aggression. 00:27:43.380 --> 00:27:46.440 Now, what is passive aggressive behavior? 00:27:46.440 --> 00:27:50.460 You know, that is defined as an indirect expression of 00:27:50.460 --> 00:27:54.270 hostility, anger, or resentment, 00:27:54.270 --> 00:27:56.290 rather than open conflict. 00:27:56.290 --> 00:28:00.500 It usually involves a pattern of resisting requests, 00:28:00.500 --> 00:28:03.090 using backhanded compliments, 00:28:03.090 --> 00:28:06.290 procrastination, or the silent treatment 00:28:06.290 --> 00:28:09.830 to express underlying dissatisfaction 00:28:09.830 --> 00:28:14.650 while appearing compliant or innocent on the surface. 00:28:14.650 --> 00:28:19.470 Basically, passive aggressiveness is bitterness with manners. 00:28:19.470 --> 00:28:23.950 Hatred with a smile and anger in disguise. 00:28:23.950 --> 00:28:28.160 And there are people who never say what they mean. 00:28:28.160 --> 00:28:32.710 They will smile publicly, but they will attack privately. 00:28:32.710 --> 00:28:36.930 They will hang things online, but they will complain sideways. 00:28:36.930 --> 00:28:41.140 They would withhold help, they will use sarcasm. 00:28:41.140 --> 00:28:44.200 They will never name the names, but everyone knows the target. 00:28:44.200 --> 00:28:46.500 But nobody can prove it. 00:28:46.500 --> 00:28:48.690 And this is passive aggression. 00:28:48.690 --> 00:28:52.420 Now, you go to Proverbs chapter 10. 00:28:52.420 --> 00:28:59.510 There are many people who have passive aggressive behaviors in our life, especially in the ministry. 00:28:59.510 --> 00:29:09.250 I would even say that many of us, including myself, exhibit some sort of passive aggressive behaviors in some areas of our lives. 00:29:09.250 --> 00:29:19.800 So I want to preach this sermon to help you recognize some of the behaviors, so you know how to judge righteously, as well as help you with your interpersonal skills. 00:29:19.800 --> 00:29:35.050 So point number one this morning, the masked heart, the masked heart, because many passive aggressive people, they are hurt, they are offended, and they are envious, they are angry, but they refuse to admit it. 00:29:35.050 --> 00:29:44.400 So instead of, you know, confession, confrontation, they choose concealment, instead of healing, they choose hostility, right? 00:29:44.400 --> 00:29:47.380 And the Bible actually talks about such behavior. 00:29:47.380 --> 00:29:51.630 You are in Proverbs chapter 10, look at verse number 18.Proverbs chapter 10, verse number 18. 00:29:51.630 --> 00:30:00.830 The Bible says, "He that hideeth hatred, with what? With lying lips, and he that uttereth a slander is a fool." 00:30:00.830 --> 00:30:06.790 So verse 18 describes a person who is obviously offended by something, right? 00:30:06.790 --> 00:30:16.870 He hates something, he may even hate someone, he that hateth, you know, but then the Bible says he hides his hatred, with what? Lying lips. 00:30:16.870 --> 00:30:22.860 So this is the person who says "I'm fine" when they are really not, right? 00:30:22.860 --> 00:30:30.100 They may say "nothing is wrong" but they are simmering on the inside, you know, they are hiding their hatred with lying lips. 00:30:30.100 --> 00:30:34.980 They will say "I'm happy for you" but while being envious, right? 00:30:34.980 --> 00:30:39.590 They will say "no problem brother" while resenting the other person. 00:30:39.590 --> 00:30:49.910 Keep up placing Proverbs chapter 10, go to Proverbs 28.No, my bad, go to Psalm 28, keep up placing Proverbs chapter 10, go to Psalm 28. 00:30:49.910 --> 00:31:00.210 Look at verse number 3, Psalm 28 verse number 3, Psalm 28 verse 3, the Bible says this, 00:31:00.210 --> 00:31:09.890 "Draw me not away with the wicked, and with the workers of iniquity, which speak peace to their neighbors, but mischief is in their hearts." 00:31:09.890 --> 00:31:20.020 They have a masked heart, right? You know, in their heart there's mischief, there's hatred, there's envy, but they speak peace with lying lips, that is passive aggressiveness, right? 00:31:20.020 --> 00:31:34.770 Let me read to you Jeremiah chapter 9 verse number 8, "Their tongue is an arrow shot out, it speaketh deceit, one speaketh peacefully to his neighbor with his mouth, but in heart he layeth his weight." 00:31:34.770 --> 00:31:40.890 These are passive aggressive people. Go back to Proverbs chapter 10, Proverbs chapter 10. 00:31:40.890 --> 00:31:52.030 See, passive aggressive people often avoid direct confrontation because they want to preserve their image, they want to avoid accountability, or they want to keep the leverage, right? 00:31:52.030 --> 00:32:00.990 They will be nice to you on the surface, they will try to befriend with you on the surface, they will wish you peace on the surface only with their mouth. 00:32:00.990 --> 00:32:06.370 But in their heart they hate you, right?They will use you and they will deceive you. 00:32:06.370 --> 00:32:14.870 But when the resentment grows on the inside, eventually it will burst and then it will become open slander. 00:32:14.870 --> 00:32:27.010 The Proverbs chapter 10, verse number 18, Proverbs 10 and 18 says, "He that hath hatred with lying lips," don't miss this, "and he that uttereth a slander is a fool." 00:32:27.010 --> 00:32:29.980 I don't believe these two phrases are disconnected, right? 00:32:29.980 --> 00:32:36.930 Because eventually the bubble will burst and it will manifest itself through, you know, slander, right? 00:32:36.930 --> 00:32:40.100 Maybe through sarcastic comments. 00:32:40.100 --> 00:32:46.000 There's nothing wrong with sarcasm, but some people are weirdly sarcastic to mask their wicked heart. 00:32:46.000 --> 00:32:51.520 They will use backhanded compliments, they will use subtle criticisms, right? 00:32:51.520 --> 00:32:54.480 They will even triangulate other people against you. 00:32:54.480 --> 00:32:58.740 They may never say your name, but everyone knows who they are talking about. 00:32:58.740 --> 00:33:04.410 They will never call you a pedophile, they will only say "You seem like one." 00:33:04.410 --> 00:33:09.760 They will never call you a reprobate, but they will lump you with Jim Jones. 00:33:09.760 --> 00:33:15.100 But when being confronted, they will deny those claims and say "I'm not talking about you." 00:33:15.100 --> 00:33:17.390 After all, they never mention your name. 00:33:17.390 --> 00:33:22.530 So to them, you are just falsely accusing them without any evidence, right? 00:33:22.530 --> 00:33:33.160 Go to Proverbs 26.Proverbs 26, look at verse 24.Proverbs 26, look at verse 24. 00:33:33.160 --> 00:33:42.090 The Bible says, "He that hateth, disembleth with his lips, and layeth up the seed within him." 00:33:42.090 --> 00:33:46.060 The word disembleth means to hide under a false appearance, right? 00:33:46.060 --> 00:33:52.010 To conceal, to disguise, to pretend that not to be which really is. 00:33:52.010 --> 00:33:58.440 So the Bible is saying that a hateful person often hides behind pleasant speech. 00:33:58.440 --> 00:34:00.410 They hide behind their lips. 00:34:00.410 --> 00:34:06.320 Because the Bible says, "He that hateth, he obviously hates something, but he hides that with his lips." 00:34:06.320 --> 00:34:12.890 Often using flattery, you know, statements like, "I love you, Pastor Thompson." 00:34:12.890 --> 00:34:17.040 "I've been with the new IFB since the very beginning. I will never betray anyone." 00:34:17.040 --> 00:34:21.400 These are deceitful people, deceptive people. 00:34:21.400 --> 00:34:25.340 And the Bible says, "And he lays up deceit within him." 00:34:25.340 --> 00:34:28.400 This means this is not accidental. 00:34:28.400 --> 00:34:32.080 It's calculated. It's calculated manipulation. 00:34:32.080 --> 00:34:36.030 He lays up deceit. It's fully intentional, right? 00:34:36.030 --> 00:34:39.520 He plots it out. They are keeping score. 00:34:39.520 --> 00:34:45.140 They are storing offenses. They are planning subtle retaliation. 00:34:45.140 --> 00:34:49.090 They are creating a fake image online or something anonymous online. 00:34:49.090 --> 00:34:53.090 Just to stalk you or the burner accounts or whatever. 00:34:53.090 --> 00:34:57.040 While fostering bitterness against someone else. 00:34:57.040 --> 00:34:59.630 And here's how to deal with those people. 00:34:59.630 --> 00:35:01.580 Look at verse 25, Proverbs 26, verse 25. 00:35:01.580 --> 00:35:05.810 When he speaketh fair, believe him not. 00:35:05.810 --> 00:35:08.750 For there are seven abominations in his heart. 00:35:08.750 --> 00:35:11.230 The Bible says don't believe them. 00:35:11.230 --> 00:35:13.200 Don't believe their flatteries. 00:35:13.200 --> 00:35:17.110 Because passive aggressive people are usually flatterers, right? 00:35:17.110 --> 00:35:24.130 The phrase speaketh fair means pleasant words, charming words, or agreeable words, right? 00:35:24.130 --> 00:35:29.080 They will go out of their way to signal loyalty to an influential figure, 00:35:29.080 --> 00:35:32.050 just to go after someone they hate and want to destroy. 00:35:32.050 --> 00:35:35.620 The Bible says in Psalm 12, verse number 3, 00:35:35.620 --> 00:35:39.550 the Lord shall cut off all flattering lips and the tongue that speaketh proud things. 00:35:39.550 --> 00:35:41.940 The Bible says in Proverbs 20, verse number 19, 00:35:41.940 --> 00:35:45.920 he that goeth about as a tale-bearer revealeth a secret; 00:35:45.920 --> 00:35:48.900 therefore meddle not with him that flattereth with his lips. 00:35:48.900 --> 00:35:51.890 Don't meddle with those people, don't deal with those people. 00:35:51.890 --> 00:35:56.860 Look at Proverbs 26, verse 26, Proverbs 26, verse 26, 00:35:56.860 --> 00:36:02.780 the Bible says, whose hatred is covered by deceit, is covered by flatteries, 00:36:02.780 --> 00:36:07.500 his wickedness shall be shown before the whole congregation. 00:36:07.500 --> 00:36:12.460 And their wickedness will eventually be revealed before the whole congregation. 00:36:12.460 --> 00:36:15.540 They will eventually reveal themselves. 00:36:15.540 --> 00:36:20.210 Everyone who has a few brain cells can see right through it. 00:36:20.210 --> 00:36:25.290 Only those people who are being flattered may not see through their wickedness. 00:36:25.290 --> 00:36:31.100 Go to 1 Samuel chapter 18. 00:36:31.100 --> 00:36:34.050 So the Bible has a lot to say about passive aggression 00:36:34.050 --> 00:36:37.230 because the Bible is a psychological book. 00:36:37.230 --> 00:36:43.970 1 Samuel chapter 18, look at verse number 6. 00:36:43.970 --> 00:36:45.970 1 Samuel chapter 18, verse number 6. 00:36:45.970 --> 00:36:49.960 The Bible says, and they came to pass as they came. 00:36:49.960 --> 00:36:52.950 2 When David was returned from the slaughter of the Philistines, 00:36:52.950 --> 00:36:55.940 3 that the women came out of all cities of Israel, 00:36:55.940 --> 00:36:59.930 4 seeing and dancing to meet King Saul with tabarets, 00:36:59.930 --> 00:37:01.920 5 with joy and with instruments of music. 00:37:01.920 --> 00:37:05.910 6 And the women answered one another as they played, 00:37:05.910 --> 00:37:07.910 7 and said Saul had slain his thousands, 00:37:07.910 --> 00:37:09.900 8 and David his ten thousands. 00:37:09.900 --> 00:37:11.890 9 So they came back from a battle, 00:37:11.890 --> 00:37:14.890 10 and the women were complimenting David 00:37:14.890 --> 00:37:17.880 11 for killing more enemies than King Saul. 00:37:17.880 --> 00:37:21.390 12 But notice David was fighting for Saul. 00:37:21.390 --> 00:37:24.410 13 David was one of Saul's best soldiers, right? 00:37:24.410 --> 00:37:27.780 14 And you can compare this to someone who goes to a church 00:37:27.780 --> 00:37:31.730 15 and he's getting more people saved than the pastor himself. 00:37:31.730 --> 00:37:35.950 16 What would be the proper response of King Saul? 00:37:35.950 --> 00:37:38.630 17 Yeah, David is on my team. 00:37:38.630 --> 00:37:40.760 18 Praise God, I'm glad to have him. 00:37:40.760 --> 00:37:44.020 19 Hey, praise the Lord, this guy goes to our church. 00:37:44.020 --> 00:37:47.120 20 Look at how many people he's got saved, right? 00:37:47.120 --> 00:37:49.040 21 That's the proper attitude. 00:37:49.040 --> 00:37:52.150 21 But look at Saul's response in verse number 8. 00:37:52.150 --> 00:37:54.730 22 The Bible says, and Saul was very rough. 00:37:54.730 --> 00:37:57.080 23 And the saying displeased him. 00:37:57.080 --> 00:38:01.060 24 And he said, they have ascribed unto David ten thousands. 00:38:01.060 --> 00:38:04.040 25 And to me they have ascribed but thousands. 00:38:04.040 --> 00:38:07.020 26 And what can he have more but the kingdom? 00:38:07.020 --> 00:38:10.000 27 So Saul became envious of David. 00:38:10.000 --> 00:38:13.400 28 But the envy and the bitterness didn't stop there. 00:38:13.400 --> 00:38:14.380 29 Look at verse number 9. 00:38:14.380 --> 00:38:17.550 30 And Saul eyed David from that day and forward. 00:38:17.550 --> 00:38:23.080 30 And it came to pass on the moral that the evil spirit from God came upon Saul. 00:38:23.080 --> 00:38:25.060 31 And he prophesied in the midst of the house. 00:38:25.060 --> 00:38:28.040 32 And David played with his hand as at other times. 00:38:28.040 --> 00:38:31.020 33 And there was a javelin in Saul's hand. 00:38:31.020 --> 00:38:36.040 34 And Saul cast the javelin for he said, I will smite David even to the wall with it. 00:38:36.040 --> 00:38:38.030 35 And David avoided out of his present place. 00:38:38.030 --> 00:38:43.240 36 So I wanted to notice that Saul was masking his hatred and envy. 00:38:43.240 --> 00:38:51.220 37 And he let us, you know, and he let that hatred a stew for a while since he eyed David from that day and forward. 00:38:51.220 --> 00:38:53.330 38 But it didn't last long. 00:38:53.330 --> 00:38:56.270 39 The bubble burst when he tried to kill David, right? 00:38:56.270 --> 00:38:58.270 40 That's passive aggression. 00:38:58.270 --> 00:39:04.770 41 And the ex, you knew I'd be, they are notorious for being passive aggressive. 00:39:04.770 --> 00:39:09.760 42 Instead of rejoicing the Lord that we get so many people saved, they lie about us. 00:39:09.760 --> 00:39:13.720 43 They slander us, they hate the fact that we have so many victories, right? 00:39:13.720 --> 00:39:17.290 44 They are envious of our successes. 00:39:17.290 --> 00:39:18.600 45 Could you Psalm 55? 00:39:18.600 --> 00:39:19.750 45 Psalm 55. 00:39:19.750 --> 00:39:27.390 46 Now let me give you some practical examples, because some of us may be doing the same things without realizing that. 00:39:27.390 --> 00:39:30.840 47 And in marriage, a masked heart looks like this. 00:39:30.840 --> 00:39:33.350 47 Honey, what's wrong? 00:39:33.350 --> 00:39:34.480 47 Nothing. 00:39:34.480 --> 00:39:37.630 47 Even though you are mad at your spouse on the inside, right? 00:39:37.630 --> 00:39:38.600 47 That's passive aggression. 00:39:38.600 --> 00:39:40.910 47 You know, that's not going to help your marriage, right? 00:39:40.910 --> 00:39:45.900 48 If you let the bitterness grow, because eventually it will burst into flames. 00:39:45.900 --> 00:39:50.940 49 And you can apply the same principles to any relationships. 00:39:50.940 --> 00:39:54.890 50 Don't let the anger, bitterness, hatred do on the inside. 00:39:54.890 --> 00:39:57.850 51 If you can't let it go, talk to that person. 00:39:57.850 --> 00:39:59.070 52 Amen. 00:39:59.070 --> 00:40:02.420 53 So I said point number one, the masked heart. 00:40:02.420 --> 00:40:04.710 54 Point number two, the crooked mouth. 00:40:04.710 --> 00:40:06.080 55 The crooked mouth. 00:40:06.080 --> 00:40:10.050 56 Now I mentioned this slightly on my last point, 00:40:10.050 --> 00:40:14.020 56 But I wanted to realize that passive, aggressive people, 00:40:14.020 --> 00:40:19.180 57 They are calculated in what they say with their mouths. 00:40:19.180 --> 00:40:21.290 58 You know, in Psalm 55, look at verse 21. 00:40:21.290 --> 00:40:23.990 59 Psalm 55, verse 21. 00:40:23.990 --> 00:40:30.150 60 The Bible says the warts of his mouth were smoother than butter. 00:40:30.150 --> 00:40:32.190 61 But don't miss this, but war is in his heart. 00:40:32.190 --> 00:40:34.160 62 They are vindictive, right? 00:40:34.160 --> 00:40:39.130 63 His warts were softer than oil, yet were they drawn swords. 00:40:39.130 --> 00:40:45.080 63 They are extremely vindictive, but they may appear calm on the outside. 00:40:45.080 --> 00:40:49.510 64 Passive, aggressive people have crooked mouths. 00:40:49.510 --> 00:40:54.460 65 They will use sarcasm, weird jokes, and vague bookings to attack people. 00:40:54.460 --> 00:41:00.750 65 They may never bluntly attack someone, but war is in their hearts. 00:41:00.750 --> 00:41:09.680 66 They have plausible deniability, but on the inside they are full of bitterness and revenge. 00:41:09.680 --> 00:41:14.360 67 Go to Matthew chapter 18. 00:41:14.360 --> 00:41:26.010 68 Passive, aggressive people often have a crooked mouth, and they usually calculate what they say so they will have plausible deniability. 00:41:26.010 --> 00:41:33.640 69 But God's way is directness, not side-way warfare. 00:41:33.640 --> 00:41:46.170 70 Moreover, if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his faults between thee and him alone, not to everyone else; if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. 00:41:46.170 --> 00:41:57.190 31 So God's way to deal with trespass is to go directly and speak honestly and seek resolution and keep it private first and pursue peace, right? 00:41:57.190 --> 00:42:01.150 32 Because if it doesn't work, you bring the witnesses, eventually you'll bring in the whole church, right? 00:42:01.150 --> 00:42:05.120 33 But the first step is to seek resolution, keep it private. 00:42:05.120 --> 00:42:17.060 34 But passive aggressive people, they do the opposite, they go sideways, they will hint publicly, right? They might even recruit other people and they will communicate indirectly. 00:42:17.060 --> 00:42:27.510 35 The Bible says in Proverbs 25 verse number 9, "Debate thy cause with thy neighbor himself, and discover not a secret to another." 00:42:27.510 --> 00:42:35.350 36 So God says, "Go directly to someone who trespasses against you, but passive aggressive people, they go sideways." 00:42:35.350 --> 00:42:47.640 38 Now go to Matthew 22, Matthew 22, look at verse 15, Matthew 22 verse 15. 00:42:47.640 --> 00:42:59.290 39 The Bible says, "Then went the Pharisees, and took counsel how they might entangle him in his talk; and they sent out unto him their disciples with the Herodians, saying, 00:42:59.290 --> 00:43:15.790 'Master, we know that thou art true, and teach us the way of God in truth; neither carest thou for any person; for thou regardest not the person of man. Tell us, therefore, what thinkest thou? Is it lawful to give tribute unto Caesar, or not?'" 00:43:15.790 --> 00:43:21.620 Notice the way the Pharisees ask the question. It sounds smooth. It sounds calm. 00:43:21.620 --> 00:43:38.280 Hey, Master, I know you are truthful and always teach us what God says. You are not a respecter of persons, right? Flattery, deceit, but it sounds smooth, but so on the surface, what they say sounds right, but war is in their heart. 00:43:38.280 --> 00:44:07.210 See, passive aggressive people, they often ask questions for damage and attack, and not really answers, right? And if Jesus says pay taxes, then the Pharisees might accuse him for siding with the Roman oppression, but if he says, hey, don't pay taxes, then they would accuse him for rebelling against the law of the land, right? 00:44:07.210 --> 00:44:16.180 So again, it's a cast 22 question, because war is in their heart. And how does this look like in our daily life? 00:44:16.180 --> 00:44:26.760 Someone may praise you publicly or behind the pulpit, but post nasty comments online about you, or post anonymously online, right? 00:44:26.760 --> 00:44:39.070 And in marriage, the wife sees the husband relaxing on the couch and says, wow, you are helping today. It must be nice to relax. 00:44:39.070 --> 00:44:43.400 But in her heart, she is full of war, okay? 00:44:43.400 --> 00:44:46.350 See, that's passive aggression in your real life. 00:44:46.350 --> 00:44:55.450 By the way, if you don't like your husband relaxing after a long day of war, just talk to him directly. Don't use those subtle jabs, okay? 00:44:55.450 --> 00:45:05.310 So, hey pastor, you are such a man of truth and never fear anyone, so why are you afraid to address this issue? 00:45:05.310 --> 00:45:08.550 See, it sounds honoring, but actually baiting, right? 00:45:08.550 --> 00:45:14.880 Notice Christ's response in verse 18, "Why tempt thee me, ye hypocrites?" 00:45:14.880 --> 00:45:18.810 So Christ ignored the math and he addressed the motive. 00:45:18.810 --> 00:45:23.600 Here's a lesson, don't just hear words, learn to discern, okay? 00:45:23.600 --> 00:45:27.490 And notice how Christ dissolved their hypocrisy. Look at verse 19. 00:45:27.490 --> 00:45:33.900 Matthew 22 verse 19, "Show me the trippy money," and they brought unto him a penny. 00:45:33.900 --> 00:45:37.850 And he said unto them, "Whose is this image and superscription?" 00:45:37.850 --> 00:45:45.930 They said unto him, "Caesar's." Then said unto them, "Render therefore unto Caesar the things which are Caesar's, and unto God the things that are God's." 00:45:45.930 --> 00:45:50.890 When they had heard these words, they marveled and left him, and went their way. 00:45:50.890 --> 00:45:57.950 So Christ answered the fools according to their folly, right? Lest they be wise in their own conceit. 00:45:57.950 --> 00:46:04.870 So a crooked mouth is a master of flattery, but also a master of vaguebooking. 00:46:04.870 --> 00:46:11.890 Now personally, I don't think all vaguebookings are wrong, and a lot has to do with the intent, okay? 00:46:11.890 --> 00:46:18.850 And I vaguebook in the sermon because I want to teach you some practical lessons and give you some practical examples. 00:46:18.850 --> 00:46:26.850 But passive, aggressive people love using vaguebooking to attack others, since it gives them deniability, right? 00:46:26.850 --> 00:46:35.640 They want the target to know, they want their Facebook friends to suspect, but they avoid direct identification, right? 00:46:35.640 --> 00:46:39.550 And if being confronted, they will say things like this. 00:46:39.550 --> 00:46:48.730 I never said your name. You are making this all about you. I was speaking generally. You are way too sensitive. 00:46:48.730 --> 00:46:55.000 You should just roll with the punches. It seems very egotistical and self-absorbed. 00:46:55.000 --> 00:47:00.470 Because they have plausible deniability. 00:47:00.470 --> 00:47:06.450 See if you can post about it, joke about it, and hint about it, and tell others about it. 00:47:06.450 --> 00:47:11.450 But if you won't tell that to the person, you are being passive aggressive. 00:47:11.450 --> 00:47:18.890 The battle says go directly first, keep matters private when possible, speak truthfully, 00:47:18.890 --> 00:47:22.870 and seeking reconciliation, not people's reaction online. 00:47:22.870 --> 00:47:28.990 Not getting sympathies from those people who are not even related to the situation online. 00:47:28.990 --> 00:47:31.620 So I said point number one, the mask heart. 00:47:31.620 --> 00:47:33.580 Point number two, the crooked mouth. 00:47:33.580 --> 00:47:36.630 Go to 2 Samuel chapter 13. 00:47:36.630 --> 00:47:45.580 Point number three, the silent dagger. 00:47:45.580 --> 00:47:50.860 And the silent dagger is hostility expressed through silence, 00:47:50.860 --> 00:47:55.900 with joy, coldness, omission, and so on. 00:47:55.900 --> 00:47:59.500 Because not all aggression is loud. 00:47:59.500 --> 00:48:03.450 Some of the worst attacks are inflicted without words, right? 00:48:03.450 --> 00:48:07.920 And some passive aggressive people, they don't really talk much, 00:48:07.920 --> 00:48:10.050 but they'll give you cold silence. 00:48:10.050 --> 00:48:14.910 See, silence can be wise, but it can also be weaponized, right? 00:48:14.910 --> 00:48:16.860 And they will purposely withhold help. 00:48:16.860 --> 00:48:21.110 They will purposely withhold information just to punish other people. 00:48:21.110 --> 00:48:27.470 But the Bible says, "Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth not to him, it is sin." 00:48:27.470 --> 00:48:29.380 And you are in 2 Samuel chapter 13. 00:48:29.380 --> 00:48:35.500 Now the back story is, Abnon force himself upon Absalom's sister Tamar. 00:48:35.500 --> 00:48:39.200 You will think that Absalom will be angry. 00:48:39.200 --> 00:48:42.110 Someone just force himself upon your sister. 00:48:42.110 --> 00:48:44.080 You will think he will be mad, right? 00:48:44.080 --> 00:48:47.430 But look at verse 21, 2 Samuel 13 verse 21. 00:48:47.430 --> 00:48:52.080 The Bible says, "But when King David heard of all these things, he was very awed." 00:48:52.080 --> 00:48:54.330 And rightly so, right? 00:48:54.330 --> 00:48:55.260 Look at verse 22. 00:48:55.260 --> 00:49:00.760 "But Absalom spoke unto his brother Amnon, neither good nor bad." 00:49:00.760 --> 00:49:07.300 Your sister was being forced upon, and you didn't even express your anger. 00:49:07.300 --> 00:49:10.400 So notice, Absalom gave Amnon the silent treatment. 00:49:10.400 --> 00:49:13.290 But is he really that peaceful? 00:49:13.290 --> 00:49:14.520 Let's keep reading. 00:49:14.520 --> 00:49:19.570 "For Absalom hated Amnon, because he had forced his sister Tamar." 00:49:19.570 --> 00:49:23.300 And this silence would eventually become murder, right? 00:49:23.300 --> 00:49:29.110 Now I think King David should put Amnon to death at that time, but he didn't. 00:49:29.110 --> 00:49:33.080 But Absalom, he shouldn't take the law into his own hands. 00:49:33.080 --> 00:49:35.410 Because David is the king, right? 00:49:35.410 --> 00:49:39.460 But Absalom was silent for a long time. 00:49:39.460 --> 00:49:41.420 Look at verse 23. 00:49:41.420 --> 00:49:45.290 "And it came to pass after two full years." 00:49:45.290 --> 00:49:51.620 See, Absalom gave Amnon the silent treatment for two full years. 00:49:51.620 --> 00:49:55.350 And he was silent for two full years. 00:49:55.350 --> 00:49:57.310 That's a long time. 00:49:57.310 --> 00:50:02.330 And passive, aggressive people, they tend to hide in silence, sometimes for a while. 00:50:02.330 --> 00:50:04.300 But eventually they will strike. 00:50:04.300 --> 00:50:05.940 Look at verse 28. 00:50:05.940 --> 00:50:22.650 "Now Absalom had commanded his servants, saying, 'Mark ye now, when Amnon's heart is married with wine, and when I say unto you, 'Smite Amnon,' then kill him. Fear not. Have not I commanded you, be courageous and be valiant.' 00:50:22.650 --> 00:50:31.770 And the servants of Absalom did unto Amnon as Absalom had commanded. Then all the kings and sons arose, and every man gathed him upon his mule and fled." 00:50:31.770 --> 00:50:36.270 See, the Bible has examples of all sorts of people. 00:50:36.270 --> 00:50:41.720 Eventually, after two years of the silent dagger, silent treatment, it becomes murder, right? 00:50:41.720 --> 00:50:55.060 That's why if you have hatred or bitterness in your heart and you refuse to let it go or confront that person, eventually you will explode and the result is destruction. 00:50:55.060 --> 00:51:02.680 So don't be a silent dagger. Go to Proverbs chapter 18. Proverbs 18. 00:51:02.680 --> 00:51:11.080 Let me give you some modern-day examples of the silent daggers. This is very popular in marriage. 00:51:11.080 --> 00:51:17.930 The husband gives the wife silent treatment for three days, a week, two weeks. 00:51:17.930 --> 00:51:24.230 The wife withholds physical relationship from her husband as a punishment. 00:51:24.230 --> 00:51:28.660 That's a silent dagger. By the way, that is wicked. You are defrauding each other. 00:51:28.660 --> 00:51:35.740 At church, the person may shake hands of everyone but that person. 00:51:35.740 --> 00:51:38.700 Again, that's a silent dagger. Eventually it will explode. 00:51:38.700 --> 00:51:46.660 So I said point number one, the masked heart. Point number two, the crooked mouth. Point number three, the silent dagger. 00:51:46.660 --> 00:51:51.950 Point number four, the suspicious mind. 00:51:51.950 --> 00:51:57.830 Proverbs 18, look at verse 13.Proverbs 18.13 says this. 00:51:57.830 --> 00:52:04.500 He that answereth the matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him. 00:52:04.500 --> 00:52:13.250 See, passive, aggressive people, they often assume intentions over things like Facebook likes, views, reactions. 00:52:13.250 --> 00:52:21.280 Reactions, followers, reaction time, seating choices, tone of attacks, and so on. 00:52:21.280 --> 00:52:27.550 You know, she like everyone's post except mine, she must be against me. 00:52:27.550 --> 00:52:35.680 Now sometimes it might be true, but oftentimes it is projection, insecurity, or complete guesswork, right? 00:52:35.680 --> 00:52:41.320 See, this person liked one post from Verity Baptist Church in the past. 00:52:41.320 --> 00:52:46.010 He must be aiding and comforting pastor and his enemies. 00:52:46.010 --> 00:52:49.120 That is a suspicious mind. 00:52:49.120 --> 00:52:57.430 If you like one post from a church that is not a new FB about people getting saved on a mission trip, 00:52:57.430 --> 00:53:01.020 people assume you are anti-new FB. 00:53:01.020 --> 00:53:03.930 That is a suspicious mind. That's passive-aggressiveness. 00:53:03.930 --> 00:53:09.360 See, he used that verse online. He must be directly aim at me. 00:53:09.360 --> 00:53:12.730 Well, you know, if the shoes fit, wear it, right? 00:53:12.730 --> 00:53:19.250 Now I post this online, you know, I said this. 00:53:19.250 --> 00:53:26.210 If you ever find yourself wondering if the preacher is preaching about you or against you, the answer is yes. 00:53:26.210 --> 00:53:32.750 Not because the preacher always has you in mind, but because the Holy Spirit knows exactly what you need. 00:53:32.750 --> 00:53:41.850 And if a verse someone shares online hits you like it was directly written for you, that's not a coincidence, that is conviction. 00:53:41.850 --> 00:53:43.880 Because the Word of God never comes back void. 00:53:43.880 --> 00:53:59.210 Those people are overly sensitive.They will judge their words by how many likes they get.They assume the worse intention if they see someone liking things they may personally disagree. 00:53:59.210 --> 00:54:06.290 If you don't respond to their message within 10 minutes, they think you secretly hate them. 00:54:06.290 --> 00:54:12.020 If you read their messages without responding, they just assume that you don't care about them. 00:54:12.020 --> 00:54:16.940 If you forget to greet someone at the door when he comes to church, he just assume I'm secretly against him. 00:54:16.940 --> 00:54:26.930 If someone forgets to text you back, you instantly post something online about why people should be friendly. 00:54:26.930 --> 00:54:30.010 They live in a world of invented offenses. 00:54:30.010 --> 00:54:39.370 Invented, every delay becomes rejection, every oversight becomes hostility, every neutral action becomes a personal attack. 00:54:39.370 --> 00:54:47.590 They read motives they cannot know and then react to crimes that were never committed. 00:54:47.590 --> 00:54:50.500 So instead of asking questions, they assume conclusions. 00:54:50.500 --> 00:54:54.040 Instead of giving grace, they give suspicion. 00:54:54.040 --> 00:54:58.520 Instead of speaking directly, they post indirectly. 00:54:58.520 --> 00:55:05.920 Instead of believing the best, they interpret the worst. 00:55:05.920 --> 00:55:10.690 Go to 1st Timothy chapter 6. 00:55:10.690 --> 00:55:14.600 These passive aggressive people, they don't need facts to be offended. 00:55:14.600 --> 00:55:17.370 They only need feelings. 00:55:17.370 --> 00:55:19.510 They don't need evidence to be bitter. 00:55:19.510 --> 00:55:21.820 They only need imagination. 00:55:21.820 --> 00:55:25.330 Imagination like spongebob, right? 00:55:25.330 --> 00:55:28.250 They don't need an enemy to fight. 00:55:28.250 --> 00:55:30.350 They can create one in their own mind. 00:55:30.350 --> 00:55:37.270 See, you know, I post soul winning results on Facebook and the soul winning group all the time. 00:55:37.270 --> 00:55:39.370 And not everyone likes them. 00:55:39.370 --> 00:55:43.320 Do I just assume if you don't like those posts, you are anti-soul winning? 00:55:43.320 --> 00:55:45.870 Hey, that's petty. 00:55:45.870 --> 00:55:47.830 My wife really likes any of my posts. 00:55:47.830 --> 00:55:49.780 Even of my food post. 00:55:49.780 --> 00:55:52.840 Do I just assume she secretly hates me? 00:55:52.840 --> 00:55:56.150 You know, get the life, right? 00:55:56.150 --> 00:55:59.410 Do you know what that's called? 00:55:59.410 --> 00:56:02.410 Evil surmising. 00:56:02.410 --> 00:56:11.320 Evil surmising is the act of forming negative, malicious assumption or suspicions about others without sufficient evidence. 00:56:11.320 --> 00:56:14.040 You know, in 1st Timothy chapter 6, look at verse number 3. 00:56:14.040 --> 00:56:16.490 1st Timothy 6, look at verse number 3. 00:56:16.490 --> 00:56:34.820 If any man teach otherwise and consent not to hold some words, even the words of our Lord Jesus Christ, and to the doctrine which is according to godliness, he is proud, knowing nothing, but doting about questions and strife of words, whereof cometh envy, strife, railings, evils, and misings. 00:56:34.820 --> 00:56:39.060 Those people are proud, they know nothing, they invent enemies. 00:56:39.060 --> 00:56:49.670 Verse 5, perverse disputings of men of corrupt minds, and destitute of the truth, supposing that gains godliness from such with joy yourself. 00:56:49.670 --> 00:56:59.460 Let me give you another example. Maybe a friend texts you, tells you something, and all you respond is "OK" or a thumb up. 00:56:59.460 --> 00:57:05.660 Then your friend just assumes that you don't care about them because of your short response. 00:57:05.660 --> 00:57:10.650 See, if you know me, I don't usually send long text messages. 00:57:10.650 --> 00:57:14.640 Yeah, you can testify that. 00:57:14.640 --> 00:57:20.080 You know, even if my wife texts me, "Hey, do you know so and so died?" 00:57:20.080 --> 00:57:22.580 My response will be, "OK." 00:57:22.580 --> 00:57:28.160 You know, by the way, don't read into text messages. 00:57:28.160 --> 00:57:31.410 Text messages don't carry emotions, right? 00:57:31.410 --> 00:57:36.350 They don't carry facial expressions, tone of voice, and body languages. 00:57:36.350 --> 00:57:39.350 If you have any question or doubts, talk to that person. 00:57:39.350 --> 00:57:43.770 Pick up the phone.Don't just assume the worst intention. 00:57:43.770 --> 00:57:47.590 Go to 1 Corinthians 13.1 Corinthians 13. 00:57:47.590 --> 00:57:54.000 Let me show you how you should approach these situations. 00:57:54.000 --> 00:57:56.340 1 Corinthians 13. 00:57:56.340 --> 00:58:00.210 Look at verse number 4.1 Corinthians 13, verse 4. 00:58:00.210 --> 00:58:02.160 This is a chapter about charity. 00:58:02.160 --> 00:58:03.590 1 Corinthians 13, 4. 00:58:03.590 --> 00:58:14.750 The Bible says charity suffered long and is kind, charity envied not, charity vaunted not itself, is not puffed up, does not behave itself unseemly. 00:58:14.750 --> 00:58:21.220 Seeketh not her own, don't miss this, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil. 00:58:21.220 --> 00:58:24.620 You need to realize that not everything is about you. 00:58:24.620 --> 00:58:33.260 Sometimes people are busy, sometimes people are distracted, sometimes people are tired, sometimes people simply forget, right? 00:58:33.260 --> 00:58:39.330 And if your heart is always looking for offense, you will eventually find one. 00:58:39.330 --> 00:58:43.270 If you are always on a witch hunt, eventually you will become the witch. 00:58:43.270 --> 00:58:49.860 Stop making up hidden messages.Stop making enemies out of misunderstandings. 00:58:49.860 --> 00:58:54.950 Stop punishing people for the intentions that you invented, right? 00:58:54.950 --> 00:58:59.160 Look at verse number 6, 1st Corinthians 13, verse number 6. 00:58:59.160 --> 00:59:07.210 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth. 00:59:07.210 --> 00:59:12.360 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. 00:59:12.360 --> 00:59:14.480 Do you know what this passage is teaching us? 00:59:14.480 --> 00:59:16.590 Don't assume the worst. 00:59:16.590 --> 00:59:20.800 If you always assume the worst intention of people, you have no charity. 00:59:20.800 --> 00:59:21.780 You are puffed up. 00:59:21.780 --> 00:59:25.110 You are the one who is actually self-absorbed, right? 00:59:25.110 --> 00:59:28.070 You are a loser and you are being passive, aggressive. 00:59:28.070 --> 00:59:31.010 Go to John chapter 12. 00:59:31.010 --> 00:59:32.980 John chapter 12. 00:59:32.980 --> 00:59:34.910 So I said point number one, the mass heart. 00:59:34.910 --> 00:59:36.860 Point number two, the crooked mouth. 00:59:36.860 --> 00:59:40.870 Point number three, the silent dagger. 00:59:40.870 --> 00:59:42.820 Point number four, the suspicious mind. 00:59:42.820 --> 00:59:47.610 Point number five, the holy cover-ups. 00:59:47.610 --> 00:59:49.180 The holy cover-ups. 00:59:49.180 --> 00:59:53.100 Now this is the most dangerous kind, especially in the ministry, 00:59:53.100 --> 00:59:57.940 because passive aggression often hides behind spirituality. 00:59:57.940 --> 01:00:01.030 You know, in John chapter 12, look at verse number one. 01:00:01.030 --> 01:00:03.370 John 12.1. 01:00:03.370 --> 01:00:09.210 The Bible says, "Then Jesus, six days before the Passover, came to Bethany, 01:00:09.210 --> 01:00:14.470 where Lazarus, which had been dead, whom he raised from the dead. 01:00:14.470 --> 01:00:17.420 There they made him a supper, and Martha served. 01:00:17.420 --> 01:00:21.440 But Lazarus was one of them that sat at the table with him, 01:00:21.440 --> 01:00:31.580 then took Mary upon the ointment of Spikner, very costly, 01:00:31.580 --> 01:00:35.560 and anointed the feet of Jesus, and wiped his feet with her hair, 01:00:35.560 --> 01:00:38.550 and the house was filled with the odor of the ointment. 01:00:38.550 --> 01:00:43.520 So Jesus took this perfume, took his ointment, and just wiped, 01:00:43.520 --> 01:00:47.510 no, no, yeah, this woman just, you know, anointed Jesus' feet with the perfume. 01:00:47.510 --> 01:00:54.750 Then said one of his disciples,Judas Iscariot, Simon's son, which should betray him. 01:00:54.750 --> 01:00:59.750 Why was not this ointment sold for three hundred pence and given to the poor? 01:00:59.750 --> 01:01:07.970 Notice, Judas sounds spiritual.Judas uses religious languages.Judas sounds practical. 01:01:07.970 --> 01:01:12.890 It sounds financially responsible.It sounds like he actually cares about the poor. 01:01:12.890 --> 01:01:17.530 Why can't you sell this, you know, perfume so you can give to the poor? 01:01:17.530 --> 01:01:24.300 See, if you lack a sermon and side with those people who have been marked by the church, 01:01:24.300 --> 01:01:29.360 you might think Judas was such a caring man.Judas would never do anything wrong. 01:01:29.360 --> 01:01:35.500 Judas has been following Jesus for three years.Judas has been, you know, 01:01:35.500 --> 01:01:40.430 listening to the New IP preaching online for fifteen years.He would never do things like this. 01:01:40.430 --> 01:01:46.990 Well, never is never, because the other eleven apostles, they did not suspect Judas either. 01:01:46.990 --> 01:01:53.720 But God reveals his real motive.Look at verse number six. 01:01:53.720 --> 01:02:01.220 This he said, not that he cared for the poor, but because he was a thief, and had the bag, and bare what was put therein. 01:02:01.220 --> 01:02:07.580 See, passive, aggressive people, they would show concern for other people, but they are greedy, right? 01:02:07.580 --> 01:02:15.940 They show fake characters, but they are full of envy.That's the holy cover-up.They will use religious, spiritual languages. 01:02:15.940 --> 01:02:24.040 Their bitterness is disguised with discernment.Hey, I'm only telling you this so you can pray about it. 01:02:24.040 --> 01:02:30.670 I hate to say this, but just feeling all the gossips and rumors, you know? 01:02:30.670 --> 01:02:41.790 And they are full of pride, but they disguise the pride as conviction.They will say things like, "I answer to God, not men." 01:02:41.790 --> 01:02:48.810 I'm just too real for the fake people.You know, go to 1 Corinthians 13 again.Let's go back to 1 Corinthians 13. 01:02:48.810 --> 01:03:00.320 They are rebellious on the inside, but they will disguise that as spirituality.They will say things like, "I only follow Jesus, I don't follow any men." 01:03:00.320 --> 01:03:07.900 Their envy is disguised as standards.They will say things like, "I don't care about so many numbers." 01:03:07.900 --> 01:03:15.350 They have a big church because they must be compromised.Some people just know how to market themselves over Instagram reels, right? 01:03:15.350 --> 01:03:21.340 Their envy is disguised as standards, fake standards.1 Corinthians 13, look at verse number 1 again. 01:03:21.340 --> 01:03:31.890 1 Corinthians 13, 1 says this, "Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass or tingly cymbal. 01:03:31.890 --> 01:03:42.500 And though I have the gift of prophecy and understand all mysteries and all knowledge and though I have all faith, so that I can remove mountains and have not charity, I am nothing." 01:03:42.500 --> 01:03:51.600 So it doesn't really matter how eloquent of a speaker you are.It doesn't matter if you talk nicely or act nicely.It doesn't matter how spiritual you may sound like. 01:03:51.600 --> 01:04:02.370 If you don't have real biblical charity, you are nothing.If you always post Bible verses online, but you treat people badly in your personal life, you are nothing. 01:04:02.370 --> 01:04:15.900 If you serve at this church but out of envy and arrogance, you are nothing.If you always talk about how great Israel is, but don't show any love to the lost, you are nothing. 01:04:15.900 --> 01:04:33.640 If you serve at this church but out of envy and arrogance, you are nothing.If you always talk about how great Israel is, but don't show any love to the lost, you are nothing. 01:04:33.640 --> 01:04:42.380 If you serve at this church but out of envy and arrogance, you are nothing. 01:04:42.380 --> 01:04:51.950 If you always talk about how great Israel is, but don't show any love to the lost, you are nothing. 01:04:51.950 --> 01:05:01.680 Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another. 01:05:01.680 --> 01:05:07.610 The Bible says we should speak truthfully to each other because we are one body in Christ. 01:05:07.610 --> 01:05:09.740 Why would you lie to yourself? 01:05:09.740 --> 01:05:10.900 Verse 26 01:05:10.900 --> 01:05:17.210 Be angry and sin not; let not the sun go down upon your wrath, neither give place to the devil. 01:05:17.210 --> 01:05:21.420 If you are mad at someone, don't sin, don't say passive aggressive things. 01:05:21.420 --> 01:05:27.360 If you can't let it go, fix it so you don't give place to the devil. 01:05:27.360 --> 01:05:30.340 Either you let go or you confront that person. 01:05:30.340 --> 01:05:32.210 Verse 28 01:05:32.210 --> 01:05:42.140 Let him that stole steal no more, but rather let him labor, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth. 01:05:42.140 --> 01:05:51.090 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. 01:05:51.090 --> 01:05:55.390 Lastly, don't use manipulative or rotten speeches. 01:05:55.390 --> 01:06:01.800 You know, don't use corrupt speeches, corrupt communications, but rather use edifying words, right? 01:06:01.800 --> 01:06:03.760 Use words that actually build up people. 01:06:03.760 --> 01:06:10.040 Use gracious and helpful words, because if you don't, you are grieving the Holy Spirit. 01:06:10.040 --> 01:06:11.100 Look at the next verse. 01:06:11.100 --> 01:06:16.380 And grieve not the Holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed under the day of redemption. 01:06:16.380 --> 01:06:25.560 verse 31.Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and evil speaking be put away from you with all malice. 01:06:25.560 --> 01:06:29.540 So verse 31 sounds like people who are passive aggressive, right? 01:06:29.540 --> 01:06:32.520 They are full of bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor. 01:06:32.520 --> 01:06:39.550 Now clamor means a great outcry, someone who makes a good deal off of some assumptions, right? 01:06:39.550 --> 01:06:41.500 Clamor and evil speaking. 01:06:41.500 --> 01:06:53.450 The Bible says, hey, put these away from you. Look at verse 32. 01:06:53.450 --> 01:06:59.020 So it's a great passage on how to deal with passive aggressive people, right? 01:06:59.020 --> 01:07:05.180 It's to, you know, speak truthfully, don't lie, and just, you know, use edifying speeches. 01:07:05.180 --> 01:07:10.520 See, some Christians are too proud to forgive others. 01:07:10.520 --> 01:07:14.010 They are too cowardly to confront other people. 01:07:14.010 --> 01:07:17.180 They are too carnal to stay silent, right? 01:07:17.180 --> 01:07:21.560 And some marriages are cold because nobody speaks plainly. 01:07:21.560 --> 01:07:26.100 Some friendships die from things that are never addressed. 01:07:26.100 --> 01:07:31.760 Some churches split from the offenses that are never handled biblically. 01:07:31.760 --> 01:07:37.260 Some people look peaceful because their war is in their heart. 01:07:37.260 --> 01:07:45.900 See, you know, I think as a church body we should put away passive aggression from our lives. 01:07:45.900 --> 01:07:51.050 And learn how to identify those people so you won't be deceived into their wickedness. 01:07:51.050 --> 01:07:52.230 Amen. 01:07:52.230 --> 01:07:54.240 Let's close in with a prayer. 01:07:54.240 --> 01:07:56.220 Thank you for this sermon that you have given me. 01:07:56.220 --> 01:08:03.180 I pray that we will not allow corrupt communication to deceive us and enter into our life. 01:08:03.180 --> 01:08:07.160 I pray that we will learn to judge righteously and speak honestly. 01:08:07.160 --> 01:08:08.150 And I pray this in Jesus' name. 01:08:08.150 --> 01:08:09.150 Amen. 01:08:09.150 --> 01:08:13.240 Amen. 01:08:13.240 --> 01:08:26.110 The last song we're going to be singing is song 301.Song 301.Sweet hour of prayer.Song 301.Sweet hour of prayer. 01:08:26.110 --> 01:08:27.620 In your handbooks. 01:08:27.620 --> 01:08:43.080 On the first.Sweet hour of prayer.Sweet hour of prayer. 01:08:43.080 --> 01:09:25.260 That call from my foxy shreggory.My soul the pen of snare. 01:09:25.260 --> 01:11:40.060 Singing Brother Bradley.Could you please close out in a word of prayer.Amen.You are dismissed.